FabSwingers.com forum: Punishment for submissive wife

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m looking for ideas to punish my submissive wife if she gets bold or plays away

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Figging is interesting tried it once on myself. The other punishment I clearly remember was having an electric dog collar around my genitals.. Domme had a timer and I was shocked every 2 minutes..the intensity as watching the timer count down knowing what was coming was very strong.. chastity is a tough one..I enjoy masturbating a lot

.easier to implement on a male obviously..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks Teper

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Think one of the most stunning punishments is…. I’ll tell you later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Teper

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"Teper

Px"

Had to look up figging - interesting

But what is Teper?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I like the punishment to have some kind of ironic link to the transgression.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Take away her xbox?

I mean without some context of your dynamic its hard to suggest punishments

Is she a masochist, service sub, does she seek praise, are there things she enjoys above all else, is she on her phone or tablet all the time, does she have an allowance?

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Take away her xbox?

I mean without some context of your dynamic its hard to suggest punishments

Is she a masochist, service sub, does she seek praise, are there things she enjoys above all else, is she on her phone or tablet all the time, does she have an allowance?"

This.

Does your dynamic lend itself to actual punishment?

Or are we using punishment for a BDSM scene that is much more about pleasure, a scene and reconnecting?

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By *nglo-Indian-DelightCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

Take her to a club with a 20 pack of condoms and tell her not come back until she has used them all like a good sub slut x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, you're coming at this the wrong way.

Submission is given, not taken (or imposed). She chooses to submit to you - or not - and she sets the limits to her submission. Why? Because she sees her "worth" in submitting.

If she doesn't stick to her self-imposed limits, take away the thing that she values most - your dominance. If she really is submissive, that will have the best effect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mrs likes some elements of bdsm, spanking, tied up, teased etc

She has permission to play with others and enjoys punishment as reward, so I’m looking for ideas to “punish” her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hit me!" says the masochist.

"No." says the sadist.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"Mrs likes some elements of bdsm, spanking, tied up, teased etc

She has permission to play with others and enjoys punishment as reward, so I’m looking for ideas to “punish” her "

If that's what she likes then I'd suggest incorporating as many of those things into your play as possible.

A little bit of roleplay to start off with, her returning home after playing away, you "catching her out" and then take her off to get punished accordingly. Preferably by tying her up, using impact play on her, and using edging / orgams control / denial until she just can't take it anymore.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Mrs likes some elements of bdsm, spanking, tied up, teased etc

She has permission to play with others and enjoys punishment as reward, so I’m looking for ideas to “punish” her "

Well see thats where different people will have differing opinions.

In my opinion punishment is not a reward. Its a mechanism to correct inappropriate behaviour.

Punishment should not be sought out by anyone.

Funishment on the other hand, can be used as a reward, although I try to avoid using that word as it can be confusing.

If you are rewarding her then you give her the things she likes.

If you are punishing her, you take away the things she likes and replace them with things she doesn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make her take the bins out

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

"To be honest, you're coming at this the wrong way.

Submission is given, not taken (or imposed). She chooses to submit to you - or not - and she sets the limits to her submission. Why? Because she sees her "worth" in submitting.

If she doesn't stick to her self-imposed limits, take away the thing that she values most - your dominance. If she really is submissive, that will have the best effect."

No. The point of a punishment is to draw a line under the transgression, to re-affirm your mutual commitment to the relationship and to move on together. Withdrawing emotionally/dominance is a nuclear option in most D/s relationships.

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

"Mrs likes some elements of bdsm, spanking, tied up, teased etc

She has permission to play with others and enjoys punishment as reward, so I’m looking for ideas to “punish” her "

1. Why would you punish what she has permission to do?

2. Why are you on here as a single with no mention of your partner on your profile? Maybe it's you that needs the punishment?

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Mrs likes some elements of bdsm, spanking, tied up, teased etc

She has permission to play with others and enjoys punishment as reward, so I’m looking for ideas to “punish” her

1. Why would you punish what she has permission to do?

2. Why are you on here as a single with no mention of your partner on your profile? Maybe it's you that needs the punishment?"

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Mrs likes some elements of bdsm, spanking, tied up, teased etc

She has permission to play with others and enjoys punishment as reward, so I’m looking for ideas to “punish” her

Well see thats where different people will have differing opinions.

In my opinion punishment is not a reward. Its a mechanism to correct inappropriate behaviour.

Punishment should not be sought out by anyone.

Funishment on the other hand, can be used as a reward, although I try to avoid using that word as it can be confusing.

If you are rewarding her then you give her the things she likes.

If you are punishing her, you take away the things she likes and replace them with things she doesn’t."

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

"Mrs likes some elements of bdsm, spanking, tied up, teased etc

She has permission to play with others and enjoys punishment as reward, so I’m looking for ideas to “punish” her

Well see thats where different people will have differing opinions.

In my opinion punishment is not a reward. Its a mechanism to correct inappropriate behaviour.

Punishment should not be sought out by anyone.

Funishment on the other hand, can be used as a reward, although I try to avoid using that word as it can be confusing.

If you are rewarding her then you give her the things she likes.

If you are punishing her, you take away the things she likes and replace them with things she doesn’t."

Agree with so many of your comments on here _etcpl

I'm wondering if by punish the Op does mean funishment or even just to do impact play.

But really.... Op.... you know your partner the best and anything can only be done with consent and within their limits. Only you can know that through conversation and negotiation

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

There has been a few of these threads started recently and to be honest they irritate me. There is no information on: why the person should be punished; the dynamic between the couple, and the nature of the submissive.

Punishment should fit the crime, and it should also fit the submissive. There is no point caning a masochist as punishment.

My view is that punishment should be discussed and agreed at the start of the relationship. That is the point where the parties agree on what merits punishment, and what the range of punishments that are to be applied.

In other words the punishment is agreed and consented to up front, not randomly applied later.

However in the vanilla/ kink overlap proper protocol gets ignored or most likely not thought about. Also words seem to get an extended meaning. As others have pointed out some interpretations of punishment have a playful element to them rather than corrective element. As an example in lighter role-play and that is where I think the word "funishment" is helpful.

In my view this is a thread started by someone who is fuzzy on D/S protocol. Possibly part of the trend for people to call themselves doms and acquire submissive, and apart from the sex doll scenarios they don't know what to do with them.

The only good thing about this thread is that it reaffirms my belief that there are knowledgeable and sensible Kinksters on Fab, despite what others say and believe.

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By *pank the MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Fylde Coast

"There has been a few of these threads started recently and to be honest they irritate me. There is no information on: why the person should be punished; the dynamic between the couple, and the nature of the submissive.

Punishment should fit the crime, and it should also fit the submissive. There is no point caning a masochist as punishment.

In other words the punishment is agreed and consented to up front, not randomly applied later.

The only good thing about this thread is that it reaffirms my belief that there are knowledgeable and sensible Kinksters on Fab, despite what others say and believe."

In the past we have both agreed and disagreed on a few subjects. As far as this goes I am 100% with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did post some ideas, but the forum police removed it and banned me for 3 days as it wasn't 'my own work' however. If anyone wants a copy, message me and i will send it direct

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