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Anyone else had a dip with age?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Noticed that I used to have a lot of luck on websites (tinder, OKCupid, sex apps and also kink websites) in my late teens/early twenties but for the past few years I’ve had absolutely none (literally no matches on there or when people do, they unmatch). Not sure what it could be (I’m not tall and muscly and not particularly manly and kind of nerdy tbh, but that’s not changed?) And I don’t think I’m particularly ugly. I get a lot of 'not my type' responses on here but that's to be expected!

Anyone else had similar experiences? Not a pity-me post, genuinely curious as to what’s happened!

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Noticed that I used to have a lot of luck on websites (tinder, OKCupid, sex apps and also kink websites) in my late teens/early twenties but for the past few years I’ve had absolutely none (literally no matches on there or when people do, they unmatch). Not sure what it could be (I’m not tall and muscly and not particularly manly and kind of nerdy tbh, but that’s not changed?) And I don’t think I’m particularly ugly. I get a lot of 'not my type' responses on here but that's to be expected!

Anyone else had similar experiences? Not a pity-me post, genuinely curious as to what’s happened! "

Could be something in your profile putting people off? People look for different things as they get older so what eve worked back then might not now.

Also online dating has become even more butal than it ever was in the past few years.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Could it be that people weren't looking to meet for the two years of the pandemic ?

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Could it be that people weren't looking to meet for the two years of the pandemic ?"

I agree. I think it’s changed things in here. Too many men joined too which makes it even harder. Women get fed up to be honest with the idiots.

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I was thinking this now I am 40 but then February was the best month I’ve had meet wise.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Noticed that I used to have a lot of luck on websites (tinder, OKCupid, sex apps and also kink websites) in my late teens/early twenties but for the past few years I’ve had absolutely none (literally no matches on there or when people do, they unmatch). Not sure what it could be (I’m not tall and muscly and not particularly manly and kind of nerdy tbh, but that’s not changed?) And I don’t think I’m particularly ugly. I get a lot of 'not my type' responses on here but that's to be expected!

Anyone else had similar experiences? Not a pity-me post, genuinely curious as to what’s happened! "

If you’re worrying about age at 26, wait until you get to 53 lol!

I think covid has had more of an effect on people wanting to meet than many realise, but the doors are definitely opening more now. Just give it time fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with " not my type " is its very vague. I was brought up to get to know someone as a person not for looks etc but thats why modern dateing doesnt last as no one is prepered to get to know someone if they are not really attractive. Sad and shallow world sadly.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

For me, you have a few amber flags in your profile. Also, as someone else pointed out, the pandemic changed everything

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Pure choice females have means it will be harder and often down to chance your message is seen

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By *heLongTongueMan
over a year ago

boston

It could just be one of those boom and bust cycles that you’re reading too much into.

We all have them, one month you’re flying and everyone’s interested, meets are amazing and the worlds all sunshine and sex.

Another month you’re no one’s type, meets are social and go nowhere and it’s all rain clouds and woah is me.

Ride the storm out, keep putting your best self out there and the moment will pass……..

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By *arc 7-6Man
over a year ago

Halesowen

Trust me it gets harder as you get older. Most more mature women have gone through the change and aren't interested in sex of any kind (there are very few my age). Then you're trying to appeal to younger people who don't want an older guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me, you have a few amber flags in your profile. Also, as someone else pointed out, the pandemic changed everything"

Hi, what do you mean by Amber flags?

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham


"For me, you have a few amber flags in your profile. Also, as someone else pointed out, the pandemic changed everything

Hi, what do you mean by Amber flags?"

Well, you know what a red flag is? Like that, but less cautionary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Noticed that I used to have a lot of luck on websites (tinder, OKCupid, sex apps and also kink websites) in my late teens/early twenties but for the past few years I’ve had absolutely none (literally no matches on there or when people do, they unmatch). Not sure what it could be (I’m not tall and muscly and not particularly manly and kind of nerdy tbh, but that’s not changed?) And I don’t think I’m particularly ugly. I get a lot of 'not my type' responses on here but that's to be expected!

Anyone else had similar experiences? Not a pity-me post, genuinely curious as to what’s happened! "

Are you approaching people who are looking for single guys in your age group?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait till you get to your late 50s!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me, you have a few amber flags in your profile. Also, as someone else pointed out, the pandemic changed everything

Hi, what do you mean by Amber flags?

Well, you know what a red flag is? Like that, but less cautionary. "

Ah okay! what are the Amber flags on my profile? Just curious so I know what the problems are!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Noticed that I used to have a lot of luck on websites (tinder, OKCupid, sex apps and also kink websites) in my late teens/early twenties but for the past few years I’ve had absolutely none (literally no matches on there or when people do, they unmatch). Not sure what it could be (I’m not tall and muscly and not particularly manly and kind of nerdy tbh, but that’s not changed?) And I don’t think I’m particularly ugly. I get a lot of 'not my type' responses on here but that's to be expected!

Anyone else had similar experiences? Not a pity-me post, genuinely curious as to what’s happened!

Are you approaching people who are looking for single guys in your age group? "

Yeah!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me, you have a few amber flags in your profile. Also, as someone else pointed out, the pandemic changed everything

Hi, what do you mean by Amber flags?

Well, you know what a red flag is? Like that, but less cautionary.

Ah okay! what are the Amber flags on my profile? Just curious so I know what the problems are!"

I say this because I thought my profile was really well-written (and others have said so too) so if there’s any Amber flags then I’d be interested to know what they are.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Op your age range will lessen your chances and photos of bareback!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op your age range will lessen your chances and photos of bareback! "

Thank you changed my age range and removed that photo now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait till you get to your late 50s! "

Or early 60s

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield


"Wait till you get to your late 50s!

Or early 60s "

I feel your pain!

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

I'm 46 and I've noticed a distinct up turn in action however Im bracing myself for a fall

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

At 26 and looking fairly presentable, shouldn't need to bother about matches or meets. Have patience. Some of us have been around the block a time or

two. Good things come to those who wait.

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