FabSwingers.com forum: Is fab a waste of time

By *ustagent OP Man
over a year ago

wa14

Having been on here a number of years i have seen it go from bad to worse now if you are a 25 year old greek god 9+manhood and a lottery winner you may do all right they say put in and you will get out ,nonsence you can have a great profile(not me)doesnt mean results

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By *ustagent OP Man
over a year ago

wa14

Looks like it is

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Well you’ve got several veris, and it’s not for me to judge why you’ve ‘Given up’ (Status update)

But you’ve started a fairly negative thread, then 24 minutes later you’ve made a snarky comment about the lack of responses.

Bear in mind a lot of members will still be at work at 4.15 on a Friday afternoon.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Having been on here a number of years i have seen it go from bad to worse now if you are a 25 year old greek god 9+manhood and a lottery winner you may do all right they say put in and you will get out ,nonsence you can have a great profile(not me)doesnt mean results "

I'm two years older than you.

I'm not 25.

I don't the body of a Greek God.

I don't have a 9 inch cock.

I do have 100+ meet verifications.

I did work my arse off to get them though and used every opportunity the site provides for me.

Winston

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By *ustagent OP Man
over a year ago

wa14

And your part of a couple

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"And your part of a couple"

"I". Not "we".

Winston.

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By *eaderMan
over a year ago

Shropshire

I'm two years older than you.

I'm not 25.

I don't the body of a Greek God.

I don't have a 9 inch cock.

I do have 100+ meet verifications.

I did work my arse off to get them though and used every opportunity the site provides for me.

Winston"

Agreed. It doesn't just turn up on your doorstep. It takes work and above all honesty!

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Make it work to go to your local club or social it is very difficult even for couples to get a private meet with genuine people.

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By *exyeyes71Woman
over a year ago

Carluke

Make it work to go to your local club or social it is very difficult even for couples to get a private meet with genuine people."

I have been on here for a few years and I'm not the most glamorous person. But I still have fun and have met some very nice people on here. I do get quite a few nasty messages but I just delete and move on. Life's what you make it.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Can't give profile advice as you've not asked for it, but do you think anyone is going to interested based on yours? Or maybe this was just a plea for a pity shag.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men have the most competition on here like all dating sites and dating and sex in general, in the UK.

If they want interaction and action then they may wish t consider putting in more of the right kind of effort. When they get what they're looking for they won't feel like they have wasted their time.

If what they are doing isn't working they might do things differently if they have self-esteem issues. Like most times, people are their own worst enemy.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

I'm really really struggling to see why you would post this, given the amount of verifications you have. Or was this just a notice me I'm still here post?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I look at fab, and how members are put down by others for their opinions, on a swinging site, I see why some may think its a waste of time.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"When I look at fab, and how members are put down by others for their opinions, on a swinging site, I see why some may think its a waste of time."

I guess it depends on what you think swinging is.

Getting your dick wet, purely because you joined Fab, with zero effort put in.

Or.....

Finding people where there's a mutual attraction, shared interests and desires, where you take time to build a connection and trust, long before you even think of being in the same room, let alone getting naked.

First one or second one?

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I look at fab, and how members are put down by others for their opinions, on a swinging site, I see why some may think its a waste of time."

It can be pretty savage, but internet fora always have that at times

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Fab is not easy to navigate as a single male but when you can rise above the sea of dross on here it can be fantastic. I haven’t been that lucky post Covid but I constantly work on myself and my ability to sell myself via my messaging and profile. I need to be more confident still but I am getting there slowly. You have to remember you are entitled to nothing.

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By *dcumlover2Man
over a year ago

dunfermline

Being bi, over 50, chubby, average cock, crossdresser with fetishes really seems to limit the people that contact me and since I turned 50 it seems to have really reduced the amount of people's age range I'm in. Have had some good meets and met lovely people on here but due to the last 2 years it seems a lot are still not looking to meet. Had a time waster yesterday, seems a lot on here just want to get off chatting and not meeting. But will stay here as someone might come along you never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of my meets have been 25 year old lottery winners with 9" cocks

Some of my meets have been with people whos profiles were quite bland but I liked their chat, positive people are fun to be around

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Looks like it is

Probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the first guys I ever met from here was as you described OP and wanted to meet me for a social but I wasn't keen, as something didn't feel right when we were speaking.

I agreed to meet socially on my way home from work, as we passed through the same area. I figured it was not such a big deal, as was going to be there anyway.

I knew within two minutes that I wasn't interested.

The fact that he was stereotypically tall dark and handsome, the "Greek god" body you described with a large(r) manhood made zero difference to me.

Those physical and financial things you mentioned OP aren't the be all and end all for everyone.

Some of us don't even have them on our list of requirements.

If I don't enjoy talking to you, I won't want to be in your company. So nothing more will happen. Irrespective of your looks or finances.

I have no desire to be laying in bed with someone afterwards I can't talk to and if I can't talk to you, we won't make it to bed anyway.

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By *ummerforeverMan
over a year ago

greenford

I tend to see the site almost like a faceyB of swinging, I’ve had relatively little meets on here but the forums are informative and I enjoy looking at the peoples pictures and using club reviews as a good measure of potential clubs

What I can say it’s been good for is at clubs I can say to people this is my user name, I’m often asked, and it’s a great way to connect or set up something for later. I’ve been on this site for many years. Sometimes a conversation gets struck up out of nowhere and I enjoy it. I enjoy I’m not in the closet with my sexual preferences on here too, whereas every day life this isn’t so easy.

So the point you make is true, it’s probably useless for trying to meet anyone as a direct method but it’s very helpful indirectly and like FaceyB useful for killing some time. I think people get frustrated, there are other platforms more suited to meets, such as tinda but this website operates more as a town centre, people come to it from all places at all ages and all experience levels and can interact in whatever way that takes them, just most won’t hop into bed via this route

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

Tbh I do pretty well on here with not a massive amount of effort. Stop your whinging

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not looking for a 25 year old (way too young), Greek god (wait, do they come with beards?!?) 9+inch, (way too big), and a lottery winner is just another way of saying rich I guess, and that’s certainly not on my list of reasons to meet people, so no, I disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I look at fab, and how members are put down by others for their opinions, on a swinging site, I see why some may think its a waste of time.

I guess it depends on what you think swinging is.

Getting your dick wet, purely because you joined Fab, with zero effort put in.

Or.....

First one or second one?

Winston"

Neither.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

"Looks like it is

With that attitude you’ll get nowhere.

I’ve had two single guy profiles on here and two couples profiles, both of them with someone met on here.

As a single guy I had great fun.

I’m 52 now, first joined when I was 44 and I’m bald, carrying a bit of podge and nowhere near 9”…

This site is what YOU make it.

Stop waiting for fab to be delivered on a plate to you.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

And for what it’s worth, I’ve found a life partner on here, something that the real world failed to deliver…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confused by the OP. You admit to not having a great profile, so how do you know a profile won't help here?

Having been on and off, fab feels like it is busier. That probably makes it harder for those making the least effort ..

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

You’ve had far more success in the clubs than I ever did OP, so I would suggest sticking with what has worked for you before. Just use Fab to chat shit in the forums now and then

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"When I look at fab, and how members are put down by others for their opinions, on a swinging site, I see why some may think its a waste of time.

I guess it depends on what you think swinging is.

Getting your dick wet, purely because you joined Fab, with zero effort put in.

Or.....

First one or second one?

Winston

Neither."

In which case, what's your perception/understanding of swinging?

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there’s a 43 year old greek god, 6ft, 9 inches, not bothered about lottery win (got my own cash, ta) then please send him this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is if you do put in the effort, you’ve got a better chance at meeting people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got to treat the women with respect. Go into things with interested parties with little expectations and let things happen naturally. If it happens good and if not maybe a new friend. I always feel you've got to have a bit of a connection with someone.

I've had a couple of meets in my short time on here on and off. With plenty of acquaintaces made.

It takes time, work and effort.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

As I've answered many many times on threads like these.

FAB is just one tool in the box and very rarely does the job on its own.

Clubs, socials, and building up contacts are the way forward in this lifestyle and it does take time and effort.

We've had a lot of fun with many single guys from here and the Greek God with the 9" cock must have passed us by.

Bear in mind as well that we have the handicap of not even living in the UK

FAB is a useful addition to this lifestyle but we would never 100% rely on it.

The ones that do usually finish up starting threads like this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things go bad and good things rise from them like the phoenix from her ashes.

Example: WWII was considered a bad thing all round but afterwards the building trade boomed in Pearl Harbour, Dresden, Coventry, London and especially in Hiroshima and Nagasaki for example.

Things improve for a while and then go bad again. You gotta laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These moaning threads always talk about the Greek gods of fab - where are they? I’m looking and I’m not finding them! Show yourselves!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey Liverpool Girl 1234... Have you tried Greece? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I look at fab, and how members are put down by others for their opinions, on a swinging site, I see why some may think its a waste of time.

I guess it depends on what you think swinging is.

Getting your dick wet, purely because you joined Fab, with zero effort put in.

Or.....

First one or second one?

Winston

Neither.

In which case, what's your perception/understanding of swinging?

Winston"

freedom to choose

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Make it work to go to your local club or social it is very difficult even for couples to get a private meet with genuine people.

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that's so true. I say if people are looking for a super model....jog on. Genuine people go on personalty not just looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey Liverpool Girl 1234... Have you tried Greece? x"

I have, many times. Going back in two weeks

I’m always lucky there but just wondering about the gods constantly referred to on here, never found one myself but I’d love to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LiverpoolGirl1234

I thought the Colossus of Rhodes may have been on the site as he seems to have left his feet in Rhodes. I feel that there are fair few good copies of Narcissus here though. x

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"When I look at fab, and how members are put down by others for their opinions, on a swinging site, I see why some may think its a waste of time.

I guess it depends on what you think swinging is.

Getting your dick wet, purely because you joined Fab, with zero effort put in.

Or.....

First one or second one?

Winston

Neither.

In which case, what's your perception/understanding of swinging?

Winston

freedom to choose "

You said neither, then gave an understanding that could answer the first and second, freedom to choose is an option in both.

If you think swinging is nothing more than freedom to choose I'd suggest digging a little deeper.

Good luck.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is sure has, people thinks in the minds it's a dating site swinging if for all kinds off people with no strings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When are guys going to get it into their heads that girls and couples don’t want to see just dick pics. It’s like you think that it’s all that matters. I am not speaking for everyone, but yes one or two dick pics is ok but focus on you as a whole, people like to see the whole package.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been on fab for ten years. I think the actual site has actually got better, but I think the people on here certainly have changed and it's the people that make any site good or bad

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

"Bear in mind a lot of members will still be at work at 4.15 on a Friday afternoon. "

Unless they are an MP, in which case they will be looking at porn anyway

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London

I'm two years older than you.

I'm not 25.

I don't the body of a Greek God.

I don't have a 9 inch cock.

I do have 100+ meet verifications.

I did work my arse off to get them though and used every opportunity the site provides for me.

Winston"

Yup! Echo Winston. The site offers opportunity for swinger lifestyle kinks. I'd say do more than be just a gent with an online profile. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If there’s a 43 year old greek god, 6ft, 9 inches, not bothered about lottery win (got my own cash, ta) then please send him this way

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how fungible are the inches? Can I move them between height and length?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Newish couple here, it's been a bit of a waste of time for us this far. Though don't spend much time using the site.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No, it really isn't. It might be, if it doesn't match unrealistic expectations that some decide on. That's their choice. And the type of effort that people invest is important.

If some want a young Adonis and older out of shape waste energy on them, I'd say it is misguided. The OP seems to realise this, which is good.

But. For single men entering the swinging world, I'd encourage them to balance their investments of time, energy and money, between a variety of swinging pursuits, including clubs, socials, trips etc and fab.

The Internet alone can be a tough nut to crack, especially if the interest easily to be gained from others to you, is levelled on a wrong side of a bell curve.

People are not just here for sex. There are many ways to get fulfilment here and via swinging. If your sex life is better via the real world, then it's a fairly easy to make decision, over where you'll get all of the satisfaction that you want. If you must have swinging satisfaction, then clubs and fab can lead to more of that.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’m none of the above and I’ve met some lovely folk.

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

It is all down to personal preferences. Maybe it’s your initial message. I know a lot of single guys who have met some great people and meets

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I've wasted a few hours this afternoon in the forums.......so yes OP. It is a waste of time.

A bloody good one too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I look at fab, and how members are put down by others for their opinions, on a swinging site, I see why some may think its a waste of time.

I guess it depends on what you think swinging is.

Getting your dick wet, purely because you joined Fab, with zero effort put in.

Or.....

First one or second one?

Winston

Neither.

In which case, what's your perception/understanding of swinging?

Winston

freedom to choose

You said neither, then gave an understanding that could answer the first and second, freedom to choose is an option in both.

If you think swinging is nothing more than freedom to choose I'd suggest digging a little deeper.

Good luck.

Winston

condescending comes to mind, when I read your replies,

just take on board if you can, that I have choices if you don't agree good for you, but attempting to put people down is just plain stupid.

now have your reply and I will not reply back asI see from your many replies that you like to have the last word.

be lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean you have two pics a 2 year old cock pic and a 7 year old cock pic, I made my account had some success then met the awesome other half and life went up from there,

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By *WINGStars23Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

We've had better luck on tinder. With people who are more genuine.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"When I look at fab, and how members are put down by others for their opinions, on a swinging site, I see why some may think its a waste of time.

I guess it depends on what you think swinging is.

Getting your dick wet, purely because you joined Fab, with zero effort put in.

Or.....

First one or second one?

Winston

Neither.

In which case, what's your perception/understanding of swinging?

Winston

freedom to choose

You said neither, then gave an understanding that could answer the first and second, freedom to choose is an option in both.

If you think swinging is nothing more than freedom to choose I'd suggest digging a little deeper.

Good luck.

Winston

condescending comes to mind, when I read your replies,

just take on board if you can, that I have choices if you don't agree good for you, but attempting to put people down is just plain stupid.

now have your reply and I will not reply back asI see from your many replies that you like to have the last word.

be lucky"

I'm sure many people will continue this thread long after me.

Many people here have offered genuine advice, born out of many years swinging experience.

That you've not read or understood is not the responsibility of the writer, here or in other threads you've contributed to.

I'd suggest from your comments here and on other threads, you have too many chips on your plate.

Have a cracking time fathoming out the swinging world. Didn't happen to me overnight, took me a while. But I've loved every minute.

I hope you have the same great experiences the vast majority of us here have.

Winston

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

You've had some really good feedback on this thread OP. I just hope you take it and learn from it as opposed to spit your dummy as many have in this situation previously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for amateur videos and a gay sex... thats about it..

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By *wingersimonMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Fab is far from a waste of time. I go through plenty of quiet periods but when you put the effort in to do a thoughtful message it can and does get responses. And I speak as a 50 yr old with a profile full of cock pics!

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Fab is far from a waste of time. I go through plenty of quiet periods but when you put the effort in to do a thoughtful message it can and does get responses. And I speak as a 50 yr old with a profile full of cock pics! "

The fact that you're bi will help a lot in terms of getting meets from guys.

For single straight guys, it kind of is a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that you're bi will help a lot in terms of getting meets from guys.

For single straight guys, it kind of is a waste of time"

Based on your posts and responses, I think you're either writing a paper, a troll, or just very bored.

Good luck OP, have a great weekend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that you're bi will help a lot in terms of getting meets from guys.

For single straight guys, it kind of is a waste of time"

Why is it a waste of time if you don’t mind me asking?

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

The fact that you're bi will help a lot in terms of getting meets from guys.

For single straight guys, it kind of is a waste of time

Why is it a waste of time if you don’t mind me asking? "

Certainly not a waste of time if you look like you and have a penis that size :D.

For most of us, it's tough even getting chat. No one responds to messages, no matter how much effort I've put into messages, and time is precious after all. If you're putting effort into something and not getting anything from it, even in terms of chat and socials, then it's a waste of time

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By *at69Couple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Yes it is

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Yes it is "

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples"

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston"

The top 10% of guys on here have good genetics(body, penis and face). The rest of us can't do much to change what we've got

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston

The top 10% of guys on here have good genetics(body, penis and face). The rest of us can't do much to change what we've got"

You're a good looking guy. That box ticked.

You're in good shape. That box ticked.

No idea what your old boy looks like (and no desire to), but a penis isn't the first thing we, and most people looking to meet men are interested in.

While it's tough to get a 1 2 1 social, there are plenty of group socials where you'd be welcomed. They're a great way to network, for people to see the warm human behind the cold impersonal written word on a website. And one group social can lead to invites and a welcome at others.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston

The top 10% of guys on here have good genetics(body, penis and face). The rest of us can't do much to change what we've got"

You must have been doing something right going by your veris? You have had meets?

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston

The top 10% of guys on here have good genetics(body, penis and face). The rest of us can't do much to change what we've got

You must have been doing something right going by your veris? You have had meets?"

I didn't even look at the veris...

I'd say they put him in the top 10%

Winston

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By *octordigitsMan
over a year ago

nearby

I’ve used fab to keep in touch with people I’ve met - mostly in clubs - women and blokes / blokes are good for intel

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston

The top 10% of guys on here have good genetics(body, penis and face). The rest of us can't do much to change what we've got

You must have been doing something right going by your veris? You have had meets?

I didn't even look at the veris...

I'd say they put him in the top 10%

Winston"

I had some beginners luck on here, but now I just can't get anywhere. Even just to chat or have a social, interact with people.

The top 10% are the ones who are well endowed and ripped. They will have any number of couples after them.

Unless you're in that bracket, you won't get anywhere

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Certainly not a waste of time if you look like you and have a penis that size "

Just look at the amount of effort that's gone into his photos. They way someone looks and the size of their cock isn't anything they can do anything about. But the effort they put in....that is.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Certainly not a waste of time if you look like you and have a penis that size

Just look at the amount of effort that's gone into his photos. They way someone looks and the size of their cock isn't anything they can do anything about. But the effort they put in....that is.

(Bry)"

Thank you very much, I really appreciate that!

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"The top 10% are the ones who are well endowed and ripped. They will have any number of couples after them.

Unless you're in that bracket, you won't get anywhere"

Had a message this evening from a guy who's now w/e and not ripped. But he was polite, could write a decent message and we've got a date booked in for the week after next.

How strange.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston

The top 10% of guys on here have good genetics(body, penis and face). The rest of us can't do much to change what we've got"

Penis, difficult, other than loose some weight.

Face, noy easy, other than take care of it, shave, get a decent hair cut.

Body, that can be achieved to "fab top 10pc" through dedication and hard work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fab its self is not a waste of time the tools it provide are good for getting meets .... however alot of people on fab are a waste of time but most of the time easy to spot ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston

The top 10% of guys on here have good genetics(body, penis and face). The rest of us can't do much to change what we've got

You must have been doing something right going by your veris? You have had meets?

I didn't even look at the veris...

I'd say they put him in the top 10%

Winston

I had some beginners luck on here, but now I just can't get anywhere. Even just to chat or have a social, interact with people.

The top 10% are the ones who are well endowed and ripped. They will have any number of couples after them.

Unless you're in that bracket, you won't get anywhere"

You must have changed your approach if that was beginners luck then?

People honestly mainly meet through having a good connection and chemistry with someone… seriously.

Look at peoples verifications they’re not all what you say they have to look like to get a meet with someone…

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"The top 10% are the ones who are well endowed and ripped. They will have any number of couples after them.

Unless you're in that bracket, you won't get anywhere

Had a message this evening from a guy who's now w/e and not ripped. But he was polite, could write a decent message and we've got a date booked in for the week after next.

How strange.

(Bry)"

Well thanks for being one of the couples who look beyond that kind of stuff

. Wish there were more like you near where I live

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston

The top 10% of guys on here have good genetics(body, penis and face). The rest of us can't do much to change what we've got

You must have been doing something right going by your veris? You have had meets?

I didn't even look at the veris...

I'd say they put him in the top 10%

Winston

I had some beginners luck on here, but now I just can't get anywhere. Even just to chat or have a social, interact with people.

The top 10% are the ones who are well endowed and ripped. They will have any number of couples after them.

Unless you're in that bracket, you won't get anywhere

You must have changed your approach if that was beginners luck then?

People honestly mainly meet through having a good connection and chemistry with someone… seriously.

Look at peoples verifications they’re not all what you say they have to look like to get a meet with someone…"

No, I don't do anything differently. I always send a face pic only, along with a polite message and asking if they'd be interested in chatting as we seem to share some similar interests.

Worked a little at first, as you can see, but now everything just gets deleted straight away. Occasionally get a view, but that's it

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston

The top 10% of guys on here have good genetics(body, penis and face). The rest of us can't do much to change what we've got

You must have been doing something right going by your veris? You have had meets?

I didn't even look at the veris...

I'd say they put him in the top 10%

Winston

I had some beginners luck on here, but now I just can't get anywhere. Even just to chat or have a social, interact with people.

The top 10% are the ones who are well endowed and ripped. They will have any number of couples after them.

Unless you're in that bracket, you won't get anywhere

You must have changed your approach if that was beginners luck then?

People honestly mainly meet through having a good connection and chemistry with someone… seriously.

Look at peoples verifications they’re not all what you say they have to look like to get a meet with someone…

No, I don't do anything differently. I always send a face pic only, along with a polite message and asking if they'd be interested in chatting as we seem to share some similar interests.

Worked a little at first, as you can see, but now everything just gets deleted straight away. Occasionally get a view, but that's it"

Plus i will mention their profile, as I always read them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything's a waste of time if you not enjoying it .

So I guess your post is a sign that your not enjoying your fab experience .

Why is that OP are you here for just just sex OP is that all you really want the sex without the frill of the chance and the disappointment of the failed chase .

If that's the case you can easily rectify that elsewhere with no chase no foreplay needed on your part and the only thing it will hurt is your wallet .

Maybe just maybe your taking your search for sex to seriously and personally and allowing the search to become a much bigger deal than it really should be .

Relax don't expect anything more than some nice eye candy and a nice interesting read from time to time while your on here . Send out a few messages to people but don't expect a response just chill enjoy fab as a distraction from your day ti day life a bit of a escape from the norm and I feel you may enjoy your time here which will come across in your messages and interactions with people making you more attractive to people because of the relaxed vibe you will be giving off .

Hope my thoughts give you something to think on OP and good luck in your search chin up fella I hope you find some enjoyment and don't feel like your wasting your time on here for to much longer .

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston

The top 10% of guys on here have good genetics(body, penis and face). The rest of us can't do much to change what we've got

You must have been doing something right going by your veris? You have had meets?

I didn't even look at the veris...

I'd say they put him in the top 10%

Winston

I had some beginners luck on here, but now I just can't get anywhere. Even just to chat or have a social, interact with people.

The top 10% are the ones who are well endowed and ripped. They will have any number of couples after them.

Unless you're in that bracket, you won't get anywhere"

I know plenty of people who certainly aren't ripped and way over 50 who get offered more meets and parties on here than they know what to do with. They rely on their charm and understanding of how swinging works to get them where they are.

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By *haneportsMan
over a year ago

portsmouth

"When I look at fab, and how members are put down by others for their opinions, on a swinging site, I see why some may think its a waste of time.

I guess it depends on what you think swinging is.

Getting your dick wet, purely because you joined Fab, with zero effort put in.

Or.....

First one or second one?

Winston"

Second without a doubt!

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By *haneportsMan
over a year ago

portsmouth

One of the first guys I ever met from here was as you described OP and wanted to meet me for a social but I wasn't keen, as something didn't feel right when we were speaking.

I agreed to meet socially on my way home from work, as we passed through the same area. I figured it was not such a big deal, as was going to be there anyway.

I knew within two minutes that I wasn't interested.

The fact that he was stereotypically tall dark and handsome, the "Greek god" body you described with a large(r) manhood made zero difference to me.

Those physical and financial things you mentioned OP aren't the be all and end all for everyone.

Some of us don't even have them on our list of requirements.

If I don't enjoy talking to you, I won't want to be in your company. So nothing more will happen. Irrespective of your looks or finances.

I have no desire to be laying in bed with someone afterwards I can't talk to and if I can't talk to you, we won't make it to bed anyway.

Well said!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Yes fab is a bull ache for anyone, not just men. I been here for 4 years and had very few meets which in the end turned out to be a let down as some people are really good at talking but no action. looking forward joining clubs when I get a chance but have made great friends and written fun stories to share with others. So fab is really hard work but the rewards can be fulfilling.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Well thanks for being one of the couples who look beyond that kind of stuff

. Wish there were more like you near where I live

If you were nearer and sent us a decent introduction message - it would be a yes from me! Just so you know

(Char)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it is

Honesty is refreshing

. The top 10% of guys will have no problem getting meets and socials with women and couples

Find out what the top 10% are doing and do it.

Fab is tough for single guys, no doubt about it. The top 10% of guys work hard at it.

Winston

The top 10% of guys on here have good genetics(body, penis and face). The rest of us can't do much to change what we've got"

You seem to obsess over men with bigger cocks and what you consider better looks. Have you thought that this might be the reason you’re not enjoying the site as much as you could?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab seems to me like a cross section of normal life. I’ve found that I tend to get out what I put in. And attraction and chemistry is key. Looks and ‘type’ are irrelevant to me x

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By *exyeyes71Woman
over a year ago

Carluke

"Fab seems to me like a cross section of normal life. I’ve found that I tend to get out what I put in. And attraction and chemistry is key. Looks and ‘type’ are irrelevant to me x"

Totally agree with you. I never judge a book by it's cover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been like this and I’ve honestly found that the less entitled I am, the less needy I am, the better results I get. I now delete messages from my sent box so I don’t end up harassing people, I keep my messages short and personalised and polite and not ridiculously sexual, and my response rate is about ten times higher than it was before. I’m not tall and good-looking and most conversations still go nowhere, but that’s the nature of these websites when you’re a guy. Focus on what you CAN change about yourself- for me it involves going to the gym more, making myself look better and become more attractive, and learning more about self-compassion so that rejection doesn’t fuel my own self-image.

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By *osey WalesMan
over a year ago

Surrey

I'm not 25. Certainly no greek adonis and hung like a hummingbird. And i am a cheating married man. Huge red flags for many women and couples.

But still have a laugh here, so yes, its worth it.

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By *hropsGuy69Man
over a year ago

telford

Negative thread starter & a negative profile , sorry but yes it’s more than looks and body , it’s personality too

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By *la87Man
over a year ago

acton

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By *la87Man
over a year ago

acton

Realised I didn't specify who I was agreeing with! The fact of the matter is the men outnumber the women significantly. This means you need to be attractive to get meets. And if you're not a looker you'd damn well be attractive in other ways. And threads like this basically make you seem unfun. Look at people meeting today. Five seconds show you that the women have their pick and you have to be as charming as you can be

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Can't give profile advice as you've not asked for it "

Yes you can

If it's relevant to the whine on the thread.

But is it worth it?

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By *andSCouple
over a year ago

Old London Town

Make it work to go to your local club or social it is very difficult even for couples to get a private meet with genuine people."

This is so true. It’s why we arrange meets at clubs, parties and arranged socials. So many times they don’t turn up, but we can still enjoy our evening.

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By *nasuitMan
over a year ago

Ruislip

Fab is my favourite waste of time...

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By *redy81Man
over a year ago

London

"Fab is my favourite waste of time..."

very true! Absolutely shit and almost useless for the sake you are here, still enjoyable and fun. But first and foremost addictive...

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By *redy81Man
over a year ago

London

It's a tricky place for single men, sure! comes with all the disadvantages of trying to succeed in a heavily oversaturated market.

It opens your eyes and shows you things (brutally honestly) that you might didn't want to face about your "value" as a man on the "sex market"... And even shows a worse picture than the reality, coz of the unlevel m/f ratio.

But if you are not scared of facing this, you can learn and improve yourself too and get a bit closer to what the majority of women want.

Because here women are very straightforward about what they look for, and especially those who are attractive enough themselves will not say yes to anything less than the top 10%. And first and foremost it meant by the look, for sure.

If you are looking for casual sex, then clubs and even regular dating apps are way better options! I do both, and though I would not consider myself a very handsome guy, I'm quite successful both in clubs and on Tinder.

If I didn't have those experiences that tell me that I can be successful with really attractive girls, this page would have destroyed my self-esteem, to be honest. You can find success and great connections here too - I also had the luck, and I'm very picky myself - but the amount of time you need to invest is ridiculous compared to clubs or dating apps. And the plenty of rejection you will face... let's put it this way, not the nicest feeling.

So, be careful, if you are a sensitive person!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect it’s not you that the appealing part of your profile! Lol

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Fab is my favourite waste of time..."
100 per with you.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

The fact that you're bi will help a lot in terms of getting meets from guys.

For single straight guys, it kind of is a waste of time"

I don't know how you can say this, when you have good meet verifications?

I'm over 50, far from a Greek god with a 9" penis, and my diary is so full I need to plan ahead lol

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By *redy81Man
over a year ago

London

Saying that fab is a waste of time for single men, doesn't make someone negative in general, not even negative about swinging.

I really hate when people have a pessimistic attitude, but I won't sugarcoat my experience that says if you are a single man and if you come here for the hope of finding sex partners (seriously, for what else would you come?), then more than likely you are not at the best place.

And when I say it, that actually can help other men to save their self-esteem! If they don't have too much experience in clubs/normal dating apps/real life, probably they would think that the price tag what their performance on this page puts on their head is their real "sex-market" value.

No, don't worry, it's not. Here you play on a very unlevel field which has nothing to do with real life. If you can accept and handle it, then it still can be some sort of fun, but seriously, you will have way more success in clubs or in real life.

For those who mention verifications, 2 out of my 3 veris are from club meets. I had two other which are not visible coz the girls are not on the page anymore, but I also met them in clubs. And I had probably hundreds of play sessions with couples and girls in clubs in the past 8 years, but usually, we don't even talk about this page.

On the other hand, I invested some ridiculous amount of time in this page (it can be frankly addictive) and met 2 couples and one girl from here, but received a number of rejections that would destroy my self-esteem for life if I didn't know how I do with girls in real life. Trust me, even Tinder or Happn are way better for a single man.

I also had a couple's profile for a while with an FWB recently, that is another game, that makes sense!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Saying that fab is a waste of time for single men, doesn't make someone negative in general, not even negative about swinging.

I also had a couple's profile for a while with an FWB recently, that is another game, that makes sense!

Life is all about how the cookie crumbles my friend! You’ve done well in the clubs, whereas I felt like the invisible man

I do well using Fab to find likeminded friends, whereas you have had little success. There’s only so much we can do to influence our chances, some things just have a way of sorting themselves out

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Get yourself to a club you never know how much fun you'd enjoy and meet with like minded people the site is just one experience leaving the door open for clubs

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By *redy81Man
over a year ago

London

" Life is all about how the cookie crumbles my friend! You’ve done well in the clubs, whereas I felt like the invisible man

I do well using Fab to find likeminded friends, whereas you have had little success. There’s only so much we can do to influence our chances, some things just have a way of sorting themselves out

That's actually a good thing that each can find the place they prefer and succeed, and sure we can't be a winner everywhere!

Though it's still hard to imagine for me, how can you find this page better than clubs? Getting to the meeting from the first message, then getting to the bed from the first face to face "hello" requires the same as being successful in clubs: good communication skills, good manners and definitely something about your physical appearance. Without these you could not be successful in the meetings you arranged on this page, I guess.

But, having these skills, you can use them in a club where the m/f ratio is much less terrible than here. (If you visit the right place) You do the same with way less competition.

Anyway, it's good to hear that some men are doing well here too!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

" Life is all about how the cookie crumbles my friend! You’ve done well in the clubs, whereas I felt like the invisible man

I do well using Fab to find likeminded friends, whereas you have had little success. There’s only so much we can do to influence our chances, some things just have a way of sorting themselves out

That's actually a good thing that each can find the place they prefer and succeed, and sure we can't be a winner everywhere!

But, having these skills, you can use them in a club where the m/f ratio is much less terrible than here. (If you visit the right place) You do the same with way less competition.

Anyway, it's good to hear that some men are doing well here too!

How can you say the m/f ratio is better in clubs than in here? There’s hardly ever any women in clubs? Least not when I went? Those that were in, were part of couples, and either hung out in their ‘established groups of friends’ (cliques), or plain weren’t interested in single guys.

It’s basically a two hour drive in any direction, for me to get to a club. When you get there, you have the opportunity (in theory), to chat with whoever is in while you are there. You can be lucky, there may be some nice, friendly people in, who don’t look down their noses at you like you’re something they stood in (and I include so-called hosts in that), and you may enjoy your night.

The advantage of Fab is, you can message someone you think you may match with, at any time, from the comfort of your home, or anywhere you take your phone with you, and they can respond at any time. It’s much more convenient, and you can carry on more than one conversation at a time. There’s none of that 2/3 hour window because you happen to be in the same place at the same time.

I don’t know why I haven’t had better luck in the clubs. I know there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with my social skills, and as you can see from my verifications, people who do meet me seem to like me. The fact is; I seem to be more attractive on a screen than I do in person. Or did I choose the wrong nights, at the wrong clubs? The last club I went to was Club Play in Blackpool, and that experience was typical; once I’d paid my money, I was instantly forgotten. Probably the loneliest experience of my life, and certainly no advert for visiting another club as a single guy.

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By *redy81Man
over a year ago

London

Probably I'm lucky to live in London, there are certainly more choices here. My favourites are OP4F and LeBoudoir, but I only go to nights, when the number of single guys is limited. For example, OP4F has a great Saturday night party, they let in only 5 single men, and usually, you will see around 15-30 couples and 2-3 single girls. But I recently tried Penthouse Playrooms, and their Saturday night party was also good, the m/f ratio wasn't beyond 2:1 (including the male part of couples), which is okay.

My experience says that those couples who attend a party where a limited number of single men are allowed to, usually don't rule out us guys. And there is definitely a better chance of starting a chat, as they don't receive hundreds of convo starters like here on fab.

Also, you are face to face, so you can instantly feel if there is good chemistry or not, which can be tricky if you talk online, and sometimes you/they will be disappointed when see each other IRL.

I'd recommend you to pay a visit to London and try one of these clubs if you have a chance for it but go for an event with a limited number of single men. I can promise, you will have a good time!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Also, you are face to face, so you can instantly feel if there is good chemistry or not, which can be tricky if you talk online, and sometimes you/they will be disappointed when see each other IRL.

I'd recommend you to pay a visit to London and try one of these clubs if you have a chance for it but go for an event with a limited number of single men. I can promise, you will have a good time!

"Fantastic! A single male!" said no club ever lol.....

If I do get the chance to visit a club in the South, I will give it a go. There's literally nothing to lose, and it will fill an evening, if nothing else.

While I appreciate your advice about looking for events where couples are interested in meeting single guys, I am really looking to meet single women? I have been fortunate to be invited to play with couples before, but I'm much more of a 121 guy. I need to look for events which are likely to be attended by single women, looking for single, straight, white guys, which appears to be a big ask, in many ways lol

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