FabSwingers.com forum: To bi couples

By *ames2602 OP Man
over a year ago

whittle

Hi all, I've posted similar to this before and after taking advice, I've tweaked my profile.

But still no response really. Even went to club twice and not much joy. So is it my profile as I know I'm was shy at club,

As l get no looks from couples, not much response from my winks.

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By *ovis and GreeneyesCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Try messaging instead of winking, imagine the ammout of winks couples get from single males yours just gets lost.

Go into chat rooms that's in your area and chat not just read what everyone else types.

Very rarely look at the single male profiles that wink at us.

Read profiles, send a polite message not a copy and paste one.

Hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a message and a wink is a good combination as sometimes profiles won't have any infomration about them or what they are looking for. a good message helps people to stand out to even if it doesn't go anywhere.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Not being able to accolade puts lots of people off as they'll presume you are married and meeting behind a partners back

Another thing people aren't a fan of us being a box tick on someone's bucket list

Neither of those are what I would call deal breakers but they could definitely both be word better, some explanation into accommodation etc

As to the winks, lots of people don't even look at them, send a personal message, re the clubs, you have to become a regular, attend 6/7 times get your face known, even if you're shy people will start to recognise you and they'll start up conversations

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We look at winks and check out profiles if the profile pic is attractive. A LOT of single women and couples look in "stealth mode" so they won't show as looking at your profile.

For us, the pics would put us off. They're not very flattering and although some people like the hi-viz/workwear look, for us it looks a bit lazy and that they were rushed in the back room at work.

Also...we keep our friends list to friends. We don't add single guys to it just to see their face pics. Otherwise our news/update feed becomes just a list of guys moaning about not getting meets and notifications that they've uploaded another dick pic. So that'd be an instant delete from us, sorry.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to quest, Leeds, on a Tuesday and you might find us there! M x

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

"Hi all, I've posted similar to this before and after taking advice, I've tweaked my profile.

But still no response really. Even went to club twice and not much joy. So is it my profile as I know I'm was shy at club,

As l get no looks from couples, not much response from my winks."

Completely unappealing, no imagination with photos or profile bio.

I’ve said it over and over - single guys…… you get approx 5-10 seconds to make an impression with your photos, as no one will delve any deeper if they are terrible, if you manage to peak an interest with photos you then have about 20-30 seconds to get your self noticed with your bio.

I’m no Adonis by any stretch at all, but effort works! Check out my single profile “innocentimes” for some tips.

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

I’m no Adonis by any stretch at all, but effort works! Check out my single profile “innocentimes” for some tips."

I've just checked out his profile, and he's right... You could definitely take some tips from it

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By *ande22Couple
over a year ago

London

Everyone is different, so I can only comment on what works for us, but we wouldn't reply to you for several reasons.

Your photos aren't that appealing - a decent profile pic wearing smart clothes is much more appealing than yet another semi-naked or cock pic.

We get loads of winks, most are deleted - occasionally we'll look at a profile if the photo stands out but yours doesn't I'm afraid so we wouldn't even see that we have to wink you back to get a message. Pretty much anyone we've spoken to on here has sent us a message first.

We don't add people as friends on here, at least until we've met in real life, so refusing to send face pics is another instant no from us.

The last line in your profile comes across as being negative and aggressive which is off-putting.

Couples get a lot of messages and winks, so you need to make some effort to stand out and not give them reasons for ignoring you. Add some decent photos, update your profile to be more fun and less demanding. Spend some time reading their profiles and send a short message that introduces yourself and shows you're interested in them and not just copying and pasting the same message to others.

There are many single guys on here, and to stand out you need to give couples reasons to reply to you - at the moment your profile and approach gives them several reasons not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice from others on this thread OP.

One very minor thing that I find really off putting is the use of hehe, haha and especially Teehee on profiles.

No idea why but it has that nails down a blackboard effect on me.

Viv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

theres more to this than a well writen profile there has to be attraction too ... everything starts with the eyes before the brain so if you dont attract the other then they are going to go no further then factor in there are 1000s of guys just like you looking for the same then things dont look to good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The advice above nails it.

We rarely respond to a wink.

If we do the profile has to be exceptional.

Question: why do both have to be bi in a couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, I've posted similar to this before and after taking advice, I've tweaked my profile.

But still no response really. Even went to club twice and not much joy. So is it my profile as I know I'm was shy at club,

As l get no looks from couples, not much response from my winks."

I never even look at my winks, just bulk delete them every so often

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

A guy's profile where the pics aren't within the last year, isn't my go to desire. A lot have changed drastically, within the lockdown periods, so can be quite different today.

Whoever a single man is looking for, he needs to set his expectations appropriately, as it is very hard work for you. Take a look at how many posts get made every week by them, about the struggle.

I'd persevere with clubs. Especially as you state that you will no longer send face pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wrote that you have tweaked your profile. Remove everything from your profile and start again.

Get some decent photos of you dressed and doing something. We do not share face pics from the outset as she has good reason though he used to have a single's account with face showing and got lots of attention and responses.

Write something about yourself in your profile and do not be down on yourself or others. I realise that this message may seem like that though you did ask.

Get some help learning to appreciate yourself, it will help in all walks of life.

Clubs aren't ideal but socials can be a great help at getting you noticed though you will absolutely need to put in some work.

Lower your expectations, the best you get with expectations is what you expected and you can always get worse. With no expectations many more things exceed them.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Hi all, I've posted similar to this before and after taking advice, I've tweaked my profile.

But still no response really. Even went to club twice and not much joy. So is it my profile as I know I'm was shy at club,

As l get no looks from couples, not much response from my winks."

Can't say we meet guys but I can tell you that we ignore winks from couples and females. We used to respond to them by message in the past if we liked the look of the profile but 75% of the time we got zero response so why waste our time on it anymore?

You also need to take jnto account two thirds of the site are single male profiles now. You have a lot of competition and just winking is doing you no favours.You may get no where even messaging but it's more pro active than a wink.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

You can't please everybody and there will always be things on your profile that people dislike.

For example not being able to see your face without being on the friends list, that is an instant deal breaker for us. Only people whom we have met get to be on our friends list otherwise we would have a friends list full of people who just want to perv our private photos.

The only thing you can do is keep trying, go to the clubs regularly to get your face known, send out plenty of emails to those who fit what you are looking for and vice versa. Look for the large organised socials so that you can network. The effort will eventually pay off but not overnight.

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By *ames2602 OP Man
over a year ago

whittle

Many many thanks for all the feedback guys, some positive , some negative, some very negative (but hey you can't please all).

If all that replied don't mind me messaging them privately in comments to there's.

Thumbs up if yes

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Many many thanks for all the feedback guys, some positive , some negative, some very negative (but hey you can't please all).

If all that replied don't mind me messaging them privately in comments to there's.

Thumbs up if yes"

Most people would rather any follow ups are kept in the forum.

(Bry)

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