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Wife will not swing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, I have tried to get my wife to swing and failed miserably though came close once. She enjoys sex, will look at porn, use toys and I know when we are out she notices other men...sometimes quite obviously. To me she is attractive and has a high sex drive. I have used all powers of reasoning (the benefits and fun that can be had sexually and socially) yet to no avail. Her past has been very active unlike myself. I have been totally frank with her and feel for some reason she is holding back like there is some great shame in swinging..I quote "the thought of having sex with another man makes me feel physically sick" she once said???? I don't know..is there anyone who has been in this situation and managed to turn it around? Good advice would be most welcome!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 words

Plausible Deniability

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she doesnt want to then she doesnt want to simple as that, and shame on you in trying you talk her into something that the idea of "makes her feel phsically sick"

Isnt she lucky to have such a supportive and understanding husband.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

don't force her if you want to stay together! if you need extra sex, make arrangements for yourself only.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

unfortunately for you sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Both parties in a couple have to be willing participants for it to have any chance of working.

Well thats our view anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont push her, if she dont want to swing and dont want you to swing DONT. yOUR MARRIAGE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING after all aint it????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but having been on the recieving end of a cheating husband I cannot ever condone the married guy being on here.

If you have your wife's permission to play so be it - but in my book why get married if you still want to play around. I think the couples that play together on here are very lucky, they do in a way have their cake and get to eat it (and occasionally so do I mmmmmmmmmm).

You say your wife had fun before she got married, good on her, she did it the right way round in my book. The fact she doesn't want to play now is her priviledge maybe its a simple case of she loves you and you give her all she needs - shame its not the same for you ..................................

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi,if you didn't swing,what's the worst that could happen?...you may be a little frustrated,you may have premature arthiritus in your wrist?

if you decide to carry on swinging and your wife finds out,what's the worst that could happen then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If wife does not want to swing then drop the subject and don't play away or a divorce will put money into the Solicitors pockets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well, thanks to all who placed some input. Not quite what I expected to hear back though I know what has been said is true. I have decided to pull the plug on this (idea you can swing by yourself and without your wife/partner).To all of you I wish you well..have fun and take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, thanks to all who placed some input. Not quite what I expected to hear back though I know what has been said is true. I have decided to pull the plug on this (idea you can swing by yourself and without your wife/partner).To all of you I wish you well..have fun and take care. "

Good on you Honey, you take care too and put all the thought and passion and ideas you would have had to have put into meets into a fabulous sex life with your wife xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, thanks to all who placed some input. Not quite what I expected to hear back though I know what has been said is true. I have decided to pull the plug on this (idea you can swing by yourself and without your wife/partner).To all of you I wish you well..have fun and take care.

Good on you Honey, you take care too and put all the thought and passion and ideas you would have had to have put into meets into a fabulous sex life with your wife xxx"

here here good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

call me synical.......he'll be back

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