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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Being a single bloke on here obviously isn't easy to start with but I do struggle knowing what to say. In person I'm fine, I find conversation easy. But in written messages online I am totally lost. So I just try to be complimentary and respectful. Can anybody give me any tips on how to break the ice? Thanks

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By *enuineguy81Man
over a year ago

isle of man

I feel your pain, I have the same problem but all I can say is keep positive and doing what you are. Being respectful and complimentary. Not that I’ve had much luck but every now and then you message some a polite intro and you just click.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks, I thought it best to be respectful. Unfortunately with this mug I'm already at a disadvantage but I will keep plugging on

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

Ice pick works best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get thee self to a club. Be affable in person and it will work from there. M

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

If your fine in real life, I'd focus on clubs & social events, make your connections that way rather than here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for advice. I'm going to my first club this week with my friend. He is much more experienced at swinging so he kind of showing me the ropes. Thanks for the good advice

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

From a couples point of veiw, if that's your thing them always address them both and be polite but don't try to hard. It also depends on what your writing in your msgs...maybe an example would be good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately not many clubs in Cornwall, nearest is Devon, no single males, I never know what to say, better in person

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Being a single bloke on here obviously isn't easy to start with but I do struggle knowing what to say. In person I'm fine, I find conversation easy. But in written messages online I am totally lost. So I just try to be complimentary and respectful. Can anybody give me any tips on how to break the ice? Thanks"

Just be yourself, say what you think, not what you think the person is wanting to hear. Don’t waffle, and don’t mention sex until they do. Try to end each message with a question, to keep the conversation going.

I found clubs to be extremely hard going as a single guy. They’re not the friendly, all-welcoming places they sell themselves as

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

OP....you're not a bad looking guy and you've managed at least one meet and got verified, so you've got over the first few hurdles.

You're obviously a man of few words, going by your profile, so can see that it might be difficult. But standard advice to anyone on here is to read the profile. Then read it again. If there's ANYTHING that means you're not a match, move on.

If you might be a match, find two things to ask about from the profile. Maybe someone's mentioned a hobby, pet, collection, etc. That'll show you've read it, that you're interested in them, and asking questions makes it easier to reply.

Good luck, and happy Fabbing.

(Bry)

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