FabSwingers.com forum: Couples advice, how to take the plunge..

By *ndercoverlover100 OP Man
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Hi guys, my partner and I are both interested in inviting others into our sexlife and have discussed the idea several times.

We are both super turned on by the idea of sharing with others and j would love to see her fucked buy another man.

Our main obstacle is at face value, the appearance of clubs don’t appear sexy, in the romantic sense neither does the idea of arranging a meet and lack of spontaneity it presents.

I would love to hear of your experiences and welcome any advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi guys we are in a very similar situation, come say hi for a chat xx

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By *ndercoverlover100 OP Man
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Thanks, please feel to PM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about arranging social meets, to see how you get along and possibly add a little spontaneity in the moment.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hi guys, my partner and I are both interested in inviting others into our sexlife and have discussed the idea several times.

We are both super turned on by the idea of sharing with others and j would love to see her fucked buy another man.

Our main obstacle is at face value, the appearance of clubs don’t appear sexy, in the romantic sense neither does the idea of arranging a meet and lack of spontaneity it presents.

I would love to hear of your experiences and welcome any advice x "

romance and spontaneity aren't easily found in swinging. You need a slightly pragmatic approach with regards to having condoms available, a location and a discussion of boundaries.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another "man" profile who is a couple....dodgy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don’t want to go to clubs or arrange meets you’re going to struggle to be honest.

Why don’t you create a couples profile and take it from there.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Clubs definitely aren't romantic, they're a lot of fun though. Personally we stay in a hotel by a river for romance, just the two of us. Our advice would be to make sure she'd like to do the things you'd like to see before you take the plunge.

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By *itygamesMan
over a year ago

Get a couples profile if your a couple could be a start

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Personally we find clubs have a sexual energy driven by the people that are there. Check out the club reviews and maybe go to one with no intention of having sex with other people and just enjoy yourselves and get a feel for it.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

It doesn't sound like you're ready for it if all you can see are obstacles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally we find clubs have a sexual energy driven by the people that are there. Check out the club reviews and maybe go to one with no intention of having sex with other people and just enjoy yourselves and get a feel for it."

This was going to be our exact suggestion, when we started our first club visit to just watch and socialise and we agreed in advance we'd do nothing more than dressing down, second club visit we said we'd only play with each other. With those visits we'd met a guy we both got on well with and there was a spark between him and K, we spoke to him to arrange him being there for our third visit and that's when we had our first threesome.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think the only way for you to find spontaneity is to arrange a social meet then you might want to take it further afterwards. But I'm not sure how you can make it romantic other than going back to a hotel room with candlelight and rose petals on the bed. But it still wouldn't be spontaneous as you would have already bought the candles and roses.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A lot of people who aren't sure if swinging is for them or who have a less keen partner think that a spontaneous meet on a night out is less daunting than arranging one before. This might be the case but having learned the hard way how important it is that all involved know the score, where the boundaries are, who plays with who,condoms etc I wouldn't recommend it.

Also the risk of regret from one or both of you is possibly higher if it wasn't prearranged. One of you could feel that they were set up or felt unable to back out.

Romance and spontaneity are great but I don't think you can get that with strangers.

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By *uffolkClareClactonDaveCouple
over a year ago

Felixstowe/Clacton-on-Sea

"Hi guys, my partner and I are both interested in inviting others into our sexlife and have discussed the idea several times.

We are both super turned on by the idea of sharing with others and j would love to see her fucked buy another man.

Our main obstacle is at face value, the appearance of clubs don’t appear sexy, in the romantic sense neither does the idea of arranging a meet and lack of spontaneity it presents.

I would love to hear of your experiences and welcome any advice x "

If you're after romance, stick to monogamy. Swinging is not about romance, it's recreational sex.

Of course, if you swing regularly with one or two couples it's possible to have a close connection and that can be positive, but in the main swinging works for most precisely because there's no romantic attachment.

It's about enjoying sex with other people, pure and simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% go to a club. Go with the plan of just playing with each other but be open to whatever happens. Works for us and has resulted in all kinds of fun. Plus has the benefit of very little arrangement. Just turn up and let the night pan out. M

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

Maybe creating a couple profile may help as it will allow you both to explore from the safety and comforts of your living room with zero expectations. We joined during lockdown so we’re able to discover our boundaries and likes and dislikes which is key.

Then if and once you’re both on the same page maybe attention a group social in your area to hear others experiences and further shape yours. But go at a pace which suits you both.

Good luck

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By *erkyPerditaCouple
over a year ago

fareham

When we went first time we just had a look round to get our bearings and had a little play with eachother

Best not to go into the first time thinking you have to do something because you are there

It’s a long process

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

There's no guarantees no matter what you do.

However there are ways to approach what you are looking for.

Clubs are pretty simple in what they offer and are as advertised. Whilst very fun when you are confident enough (and ultimetly give the same end result as what you are looking for), it's a different way of getting there.

You'd probably be much better just finding a couple and starting with a social. Have a drink and a chat with no pressure. If you hit it off it's a flirty night and either you all head off somewhere private OR you make a second date. Of not, no harm and you go your seperate ways. You're all grown ups. It's a bit like having a first date in some respects.

Point is, until you try, you won't know. We started with (and still very much enjoy) the social approach. There's an air of mystique and discovery about it and not knowing how it will play out is part of the fun. Are we all going to click and it'll be a naughty time or is it just going to be a freindly chat with like minded people?

But now we are experianced sometimes we just wanna go to a club as well but that would have been a no go for us when we first started.

Whatever you choose, good luck.

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By *ndercoverlover100 OP Man
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Thank you for all, mostly, for your bountiful responses. I can honestly say the advice given is much appreciated. It’s really interesting to hear the unique take on the situation .

I must say the concept of arranging no strings socials and seeing if there is a connection of quite exciting.

Thanks for sharing x

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