FabSwingers.com forum: Tips for a response

By *amesS94 OP Man
over a year ago

ipswich

Hi all, i quite often dont get a response, although they may just not be interested is there any tips to improve my chances?

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Always read the profile of who you are messaging to make sure you for what they are lokong for.

Don't send a cock pic first message

Be polite and don't treat women as a peace of meat

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Hi all, i quite often dont get a response, although they may just not be interested is there any tips to improve my chances?"

Give up on fab and go to organised social events.

Worked for us and me getting solo meets.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Hi all, i quite often dont get a response, although they may just not be interested is there any tips to improve my chances?"

It’s probably your age and lack of being verified but your not the only one with this issue. It’s just there are too many men on here

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Hi all, i quite often dont get a response, although they may just not be interested is there any tips to improve my chances?"

Update your profile text a little mate, you don’t need to tell people your age, they can see that.

Never promise anything, just let people know what you like, and who you are looking for.

Patience is key, don’t get disheartened

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

"Hi all, i quite often dont get a response, although they may just not be interested is there any tips to improve my chances?"
There's nothing really to improve your chances. You could go years and get nowhere,then get a million to one shot meet, then nothing again for years after. Women here don't seem to respond to messages, pictures, etc.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

It limits your chances if you're only looking for female couples.

Good luck OP x

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Hi all, i quite often dont get a response, although they may just not be interested is there any tips to improve my chances?"

Get verified - find a social or a club and go. Talk to someone, get verified. At least then people might have some confidence that you're real.

Of our last six arranged meets, four haven't turned up. Three of them had no verifications (we had a dirty weekend in Birmingham and broke our "no unverified guys" rule and it just proved it once again).

It won't magically make everyone want to meet you, but unlike your age/build/looks/location, it's something you can easily change.

(Bry)

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Add a few more pics, write about what your into/looking for.

Set your age range.

Always offer to do a social first.

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

No tips necessary

Profile ok, you'll do work!

Although im bi, I have met more single woment than t'other and my profile is on a par with yours, yours is actually better as your chat here, your profile and pics all connect. Mine's a bit 'Not sure what we're getting here' And I do fine, Maybe navigate it a tad better than some single males

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By *enusandmarsCouple
over a year ago

Buryish

You say you'll meet women up to 99yr old, really? That would be a no from us. Its only a little thing but when I read messages from guys trying to get into my wife, I'm looking for the reason to say no (although I want her to).

Your profile is OK (for us), but isn't stand out. Get more pics on, not necessarily of your dick, but things that tell us something about you, how you dress, how you live, things you do etc. It can all by discreet, but it builds up a picture of someone to trust rather than a lad trying to get laid easily.

The other thing is the people you message. Are they right for you? Are you right for them? We get dozens of messages from guys that can't accom, or are bi, it's mentioned in our profile so it's an instant no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be polite and don't treat women as a peace of meat"

And check your spelling

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

As people say it's due to the number of men this isn't true.find a connection and chemistry and remember it goes both ways be creative use your imagination.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"As people say it's due to the number of men this isn't true.find a connection and chemistry and remember it goes both ways be creative use your imagination. "

That works for you lol

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"As people say it's due to the number of men this isn't true.find a connection and chemistry and remember it goes both ways be creative use your imagination. "

Not always. Often is IS due to the number of guys. We may be unusual as a couple, but we're not looking for deep connections and chemistry....we need to fancy someone, know that they can hold a conversation and will turn up.

We have very limited opportunities to play and don't do long drawn out chats so for guys contacting us it very much is a case of luck that they message at the right time, between all the dross we receive and when we're looking. 99% of the messages we receive won't go anywhere.

(Bry)

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"As people say it's due to the number of men this isn't true.find a connection and chemistry and remember it goes both ways be creative use your imagination.

That works for you lol"

I'm sure it'd work for anyone if they find them attractive or handsome that's what gets the ball rolling

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By *uperjackMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I think I have it harder than most on here as my fab account is clearly broken.

For some strange reason it must delete all the fabs, messages, winks and friend requests before I even get to them. I’d be snowed under if this little anomaly didn’t occur in my little piece of fabland.

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By *d4ugirlsMan
over a year ago

Green Cove Springs

Best advice I can give is, read the profile and if you match to what they are looking for write to that. Say something in your message that relates to something towards the end of their profile, so they know you took the time to read what they had to say.

Send face and regular pictures attached to your first message.

Compliment their pictured and profile. Tell them in respectful terms but perhaps laced with sensual innuendo.

Don't expect a reply back so there is no dissapointment, rejoice and enjoy those replies you do get. Read, understand and reply back to their answer. If you have intimate pictures of relationships tastefully post them so those that you reach out to can see and have a gage to what you are into. It also shows that even if you have no verifications from FAB you still meet people and engage in sex.

Good luck, be patient!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd work on your "dad bod". The ladies love a cuddly bloke

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Mention a few things about their profile to show you’ve read it.

Make sure that you are what they are looking for as well.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

As a long term guy on here, the key element to remember is you are just one of many hundreds of guys in yoyr region all seeking the same aim!

Thus you have to stand out above the rest. In short, you have to "sell yourself", almost like a CV for a job!

Say what you can contribute to a meet, also what you'd like to expect.

Be respectful, address those you are messaging in the same way you would expect them to approach you for the first time.

If you cannot accommodate, be honest and say why; otherwise it can be a red flag to some people and put them off!

Patience + more Patience and Perseverance are important, as it's tough for guys out there these days. Ladies and MF Couples can afford to be choosy from the vast numbers of guys looking on here.

Above all, read profiles FULLY, ensuring you note who you match with on all aspects and respond accordingly.

Pre-Covid, it could take a guy up to a year to be noticed. Now, it's even more!

So, try Socials in your area. Go to Clubs, but with an open mind, not thinking a club will be a sexual guarantee! Engage in the Forums too, as you can be seen there too, get tips, advice and be seen socially too.

It's all about being noticed.

It does work, but any success is only measured by your input.

Good Luck.

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