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How do you deal with pushy people?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm curious on what different methods people use to deal with pushy people.

By pushy I mean the type that say hi then straight away ask for a meet and spam your message box for a reply.

I know this site has a problem with time wasters. But I feel like just a one word message followed by 15 messages asking for a meet and getting angry when they haven't gotten a reply is a bit much.

So what's your method? A simple block? Point out how rude their being? Keep leaving the messages on read to annoy them more?

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham

We reply saying firmly that we aren't interested and stating why. If they are still persisting "just give me a chance, you won't be disappointed" then the only way is to block.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

Delete, delete, delete, delete then block ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We reply saying firmly that we aren't interested and stating why. If they are still persisting "just give me a chance, you won't be disappointed" then the only way is to block. "

I think i agree with that method the most. It's polite and friendly considering.

The community makes the site. It's ashame some ruin it.

I had one guy sending me 12 messages some just saying ha and lol. Calling me a Time waster. Didn't even give me chance to say hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block then delete

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I usually block at the first sign of pushiness.

A man I had on my block list for this reason , left fab and has recently rejoined.

I've blocked before he tries it again.

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham


"We reply saying firmly that we aren't interested and stating why. If they are still persisting "just give me a chance, you won't be disappointed" then the only way is to block.

I think i agree with that method the most. It's polite and friendly considering.

The community makes the site. It's ashame some ruin it.

I had one guy sending me 12 messages some just saying ha and lol. Calling me a Time waster. Didn't even give me chance to say hello "

Very often these sort of guys end up giving abuse and then blocking before you can defend yourselves. Blocking before this happens doesn't give them the satisfaction. They probably wouldn't go through with the meet anyway.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Block then delete "

This

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By *eachcplCouple
over a year ago

blackpool/preston/normandy france

Block and if necessary report

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block you don't need to explain yourself to no one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I let them keep messaging getting more and more irate … then block. Key is not to reply.

It’s useful too see their real personality coming out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero tolerance these days so it’s the block button.

We used to take the time to explain to people why we didn’t want to meet them but it rarely ended well

Viv

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By *rafficvanMan
over a year ago

Middletown

I'll be happy to get one message first

Hahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

firm...blunt....loud....delete...block

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Ignore, then block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Zero tolerance these days so it’s the block button.

We used to take the time to explain to people why we didn’t want to meet them but it rarely ended well

Viv"

Agreed...block & delete..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete I don’t do pushy people

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By *3xDECouple
over a year ago

nottingham

Report, block and delete!

Dont let them get to a point where they get nasty because your going at your own pace.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Block

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I just ignore them and let them chat to themselves until they get bored and move on.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Delete...Block...no point in getting in to a conversation ....

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By *nigmatic x DivinityCouple
over a year ago

Up town top ranking

I've got 276 messages unread! Can't keep up with it

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"I'm curious on what different methods people use to deal with pushy people.

By pushy I mean the type that say hi then straight away ask for a meet and spam your message box for a reply.

I know this site has a problem with time wasters. But I feel like just a one word message followed by 15 messages asking for a meet and getting angry when they haven't gotten a reply is a bit much.

So what's your method? A simple block? Point out how rude their being? Keep leaving the messages on read to annoy them more? "

We block. No point doing anything else. Berating people isn't going to do anything and why waste time by leaving messages in limbo?

In our experience with over 10 years on fab now, the only meets that pan out are the ones where people respect what's written on your profile and they put effort into talking to us like people before anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block, we don't have time for pushy and repeated no's

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple seeking couples we are very conscientious of not coming across as pushy. It's finding that right balance of being genuine and keen without being an arse about things. Not sure how well were doing but you live and learn.

Being too upfront does seem to scare people off. Weird how in a club you can go up to couples and ask them to join you or chat bit online it's such a pain in the arse to do.

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By *ake-Me-FeelWoman
over a year ago

Sussex

I just block. I will normally just delete the first message I'm not interested in (unless its rude)

If they send one again I'll just block. I don't interact with anyone I don't want or need to.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Can be irritating when folk are like this

Either a firm no or if they are out of order, block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is hard work or pushy or offering caveman / cavewoman / non-binary cave dwellers etc style conversation I’d ignore / block, no point. I’d probably explain how I felt : thought prior to that but history generally shows that it’s not listened to either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just block. I will normally just delete the first message I'm not interested in (unless its rude)

If they send one again I'll just block. I don't interact with anyone I don't want or need to. "

Ditto

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