FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies - how do you pick your meets?

By *ornagainchristian OP Man
over a year ago

Preston, Glasgow, Cheltenham, Leeds, Birmingham and Leicester (but travel all over the UK

What is it for you that tips you over from just chatting to wanting to meet with someone on here?

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By *atBottomGirlsWoman
over a year ago

St Austell-ish

He chats as long as I need and doesn't push meeting before I'm ready.

Makes me laugh.

When I am ready to actually meet, he still wants to!

Not many make it that far!

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I like to connect with someone intellectually, who can also make me laugh as well as arouse me through messages alone. If their mind works in such a way then we could move on to meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would prefer to meet up early on to check the vibe, don't find it easy to get to know people by messaging so prefer a coffee meet instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lustful attraction, the ability to challenge my mind and make me laugh.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Everyone's answer will be different

I often post a meet at short notice because I'm feeling horny, leave it up for 30 minutes, go through the responses & message anyone whose profile I like the look of

Often it's but someone I'd usually not usually be interested in but they were in the right place at the right time & are available for some 'quickly' fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would prefer to meet up early on to check the vibe, don't find it easy to get to know people by messaging so prefer a coffee meet instead. "

Yep this for me too and also if someone takes too long to ask I’m liable to lose interest

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

Some just click with straight away & can’t explain it! Got to be able to banter & have an initial attraction. Just the right amount of smut and leaves me wanting a lot more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would prefer to meet up early on to check the vibe, don't find it easy to get to know people by messaging so prefer a coffee meet instead. "

Same.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Bloody hard work at times as I am way to fussy

I want up to date pictures then an initial bit of banter with a good sense of humour then maybe they will get an invite

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men just remember you are entitled to be just as "fussy"

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I like to meet up relatively early on, too (like one of the previous posters), but at my own pace, not because he's horny now.

I need to feel some connection with the guy, and need to be able to have a bit of conversation in here where I don't need to be a code breaker to decipher his messages.

Recent pictures would be good- any profile with pics older than 2-3 years are a red flag for me. Same with verifications - red flags if the person has been on site for a while but only has webcam veris (are they just into camming then?); also red flag if the most recent veri is 3 years ago or more.

"Cannot accommodate" on profile doesn't bother me too much as long as they can meet my availability.

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By *eachcplCouple
over a year ago

blackpool/preston/normandy france

I have no hard and fast rules about picking guys, but there has to be some physical attraction so anyone who messages without photos is immediately discarded and blocked. How guys can expect to get a meet without letting a woman see how they look is deluded.

Any guy who sends a message like "get round here now and I'll fuck you", yes I did get that message last Saturday, immediate block.

Some guys just have no idea how to chat to a woman and if that's the case then there is no incentive to even consider meeting. I and we have met some great guys over the years. It is hard to say why we met them in the first place but it was probably the way messages passed initially.

Just don't act like what is dangling between your legs.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

My standards for meeting someone are the same as dating them, more or less. Make me laugh, make me feel safe, make me think. I want to look forward to receiving a message from you.

No drama. Ever. If you’re married, if you’re fresh out of a breakup, if I think you don’t care about consent, it’s not worth it.

Bluntly. you have to be more appealing than a night in with a good book and some sex toys.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"Bluntly. you have to be more appealing than a night in with a good book and some sex toys. "

This for me, too.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"What is it for you that tips you over from just chatting to wanting to meet with someone on here?"

If I start chatting to someone, it's usually because I want to meet and I ask for a social as soon as we can both make it.

I decide over a coffee with them.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"What is it for you that tips you over from just chatting to wanting to meet with someone on here?"

1. There must be attraction so face pics are swapped early on in chat.

2. He must be of a reasonable intelligence, passionate, caring and tactile. He must love kissing and be able to get hard for a reasonable time

3. Hopefully able to accommodate and not too far away.

4. A social is a must, unless chatting in a club.

5. He must not be cheating on his partner !!

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"What is it for you that tips you over from just chatting to wanting to meet with someone on here?"

I'm the female of the couple and I prefer maturity, not necessarily an age thing but how they come across and how they speak to and treat women..intelligent msgs get my attention.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I haven't met on my single account for years ,it's rare I find someone I want to meet tbh.

I would look for someone I click with ,who isn't pushy about meeting and can hold a good conversation.Also who I'm attracted to and will meet socially with no expectations.

I know I'm asking lots lol

Miss

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

If they talk to me like a normal person, not like a free sex worker.

We're on the same page about the type of sex we want to have.

If they're polite not pushy.

If I find them attractive.

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By *unniebee1970Woman
over a year ago

The Hive

I dangle a gold pendant over a profile and if it swings left...

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By *urvy123babeWoman
over a year ago

cambridge

"If they talk to me like a normal person, not like a free sex worker.

This 100%

Just because we’re on a sex site doesn’t mean I don’t have standards/morals and want to be spoken to with zero respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people on online dating sites (which Fabs does come under) are only interested in making quick decisions mostly biased on the initial message and instant attraction.

However, there is no magic formula to engage conversation with women on any dating or hook up site.

You can try your hardest to write the best profile bio and load up the best photographs you can find, you’ll still be sunk behind a hundred other messages from fuckwit blokes sending crude “fancy a fuck” messages and a barrage of dick pics.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Wish I could get a message bk that would be a start yes my profile is not the best but can’t post to many pics or may get seen just need to chat get to know me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need attraction first and foremost to even reply to a message. Then it's how well the chat flows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly personality but also lust. I like varied partners so no strict type xx

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Because I like all types of sex I tend to chat first I'm not looking for someone in hiding, that's chasing every hole or pole.

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By *otlips322020Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Someone who actually reads the message you sent them and sends “a recent face picture not there cock”

I ask for a picture so I don’t waste anyone’s time as I don’t find beards attractive on my man so I ask for a face picture nearly every time not to be a cow it’s too see if you jane facial hair cos if you do then there’s no point is chatting further cos it’s a huge Turk off for me. With respect I don’t mean it personally to offend it’s just too check for growth ha ha

Usually men don’t read it and send rude pictures

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It's all about the connection. Sometimes the conversation just flows and those are the ones I meet.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Well spoken friendly young guys who are happy to show face pics when asked. Also happy to chat first and see if we click x

Mrs N

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Well spoken friendly young guys who are happy to show face pics when asked. Also happy to chat first and see if we click x

Mrs N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour & conversation..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they talk to me like a normal person, not like a free sex worker.

This 100%

Just because we’re on a sex site doesn’t mean I don’t have standards/morals and want to be spoken to with zero respect.

Also, just saying, sex worker or not women should be spoken to with respect. Just because you’re paying doesn’t mean you get to be a cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they talk to me like a normal person, not like a free sex worker.

This 100%

Just because we’re on a sex site doesn’t mean I don’t have standards/morals and want to be spoken to with zero respect.

Also, just saying, sex worker or not women should be spoken to with respect. Just because you’re paying doesn’t mean you get to be a cunt. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it for you that tips you over from just chatting to wanting to meet with someone on here?"

A guy needs to send me more than fancy a fuck message. He needs to stand out. If he's read my profile it will be evident in his message and he'll generally get a reply.

If someone can grab my attention with decent conversion and make me laugh I'll move to kik. If the conversation flows I like to meet pretty soon after that for a coffee to see if that attraction is there in person.

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

"Men just remember you are entitled to be just as "fussy"

Absolutely!! I enjoy the chase, I don't want easy sex. I find it boring. I would much prefer a fussy man to think that I am his type, than a guy who just wants sex with anyone

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"I would prefer to meet up early on to check the vibe, don't find it easy to get to know people by messaging so prefer a coffee meet instead. "
^ this

Too many messages just end up either friend-zoning or chatting your way out of a meet that might produce the inexplicable chemistry text can’t.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Most of the points have already been said.

Good profile, clear face pics, banter, respectful. Happy to meet for a social.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"Most of the points have already been said.

Good profile, clear face pics, banter, respectful. Happy to meet for a social. "

This.... and for me, not a lot of cock pics on your profile. I've seen a few and they're not the best looking critters especially when they're all angry and veiny

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By *weetHotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Face to face at Socials, Chameleons or PDI. Flirtation, laughter always works ( oh and being fit , hung and good looking helps

) Have met, played with and friended some lovely people.

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By *ent MadamWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Decent pics - not over a toilet or the mop in the bathroom .If in your bedroom . Tidy it up

No clothes etc on the floor or hanging out the chest of drawers. A messy room = a messy F. No pants around your knees . First impression are everything. Learn to crop your pics . There is a big ratio of men to woman . You need to stand out for the right reasons . A flaccid C is enough to make the average woman run a mile .

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By *arrior PrincessWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

If a guy is happy to travel to me for a coffee and doesn't mention coming back to my place, that is a good start. But initially a physical attraction is crucial too.

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By *inx_xxWoman
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

You would think it would be easy... But it seems to be impossible (sound so old, but it's not like the olden days)

1. Manners

2. Don't start with, Hey, fancy a fuck

3. Banter

4. Relaxed at having a social

5. Not pushy

Just like you would in a club swingers or otherwise.

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By *inx_xxWoman
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Decent pics - not over a toilet or the mop in the bathroom .If in your bedroom . Tidy it up

No clothes etc on the floor or hanging out the chest of drawers. A messy room = a messy F. No pants around your knees . First impression are everything. Learn to crop your pics . There is a big

ratio of men to woman . You need to stand out for the right reasons . A flaccid C is enough to make the average woman run a mile . "

Cock pics over the toilet is a classic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember me if we’ve chatted before, don’t just start a new conversation like I’m someone you’ve not spoken to and definitely don’t send a message that is obviously for someone else by mistake.

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