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"I don't get that many to be honest. I will read them and if they are of interest I will reply. If not I delete " Seriously? Your gorgeous, mustn't be alot of people in Norfolk | |||
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"There's not a fixed number that I read, but I guess I read about 60-80%. The rest get deleted without opening (no profile pic, or an tag line/start that is so not what I'm after that I know it's a waste of my time). Of the ones I open, I guess I reply to about half. I'm curious why you delete the unread ones? + remember, I don't think you can assume most people login here every day - it may just be that they haven't seen it yet" I think its more i see most of these messages get deleted around 5 to 7 days after not being read and then a status update of "sorry had to mass delete" so i usually delete them first. Plus most of the time I find I get more responses from women who are online at the time when I send a message rather than the ones that see the message a couple of days after | |||
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"I read most and most get deleted as they didn’t read my profile" Well thats because you are a very nice person, hello again x | |||
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"There's not a fixed number that I read, but I guess I read about 60-80%. The rest get deleted without opening (no profile pic, or an tag line/start that is so not what I'm after that I know it's a waste of my time). Of the ones I open, I guess I reply to about half. I'm curious why you delete the unread ones? + remember, I don't think you can assume most people login here every day - it may just be that they haven't seen it yet I think its more i see most of these messages get deleted around 5 to 7 days after not being read and then a status update of "sorry had to mass delete" so i usually delete them first. Plus most of the time I find I get more responses from women who are online at the time when I send a message rather than the ones that see the message a couple of days after" Getting a message while I'm online is another instant block for me as it feels intrusive, like I can't come online without being messaged (it's why I hide my profile if I intend to spend some time in the forums) I'll often show as being online as I like the forums but I won't have necessarily checked my inbox for a few reasons 1) if I'm short on time & I'd rather spend that in the forums that I enjoy, than filtering messages 2) if sometimes I'll quickly read a message but then mark as unread so I can respond later 3) I don't like getting involved in drawn out chats, I usually meet quite quickly, so I won't respond until I know I can meet Ultimately there's no right or wrong answer as every woman or couple will handle their inbox differently, there's no magic formula for getting your messages read | |||
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"Well mine keep building because no matter how many people I try to reply to it just goes up and up when I’m online. I’m currently on 974 unread messages and I’ve replied to loads…. There is no way I can reply to all them. But of course I will get abuse when I bulk Delete" I turn off new messages while I clear my inbox. I was sitting about 140 so blocked new messages from everyone.. Now down to 42 unread but some of these are from ongoing conversations. I delete any messages from a silhouette, then I delete the ones that are just something about seeing me in chat (they can just as easily chat to me when I'm in there so I don't understand the messages saying that) or gross vulgar shit. I like to take my time to construct a response, so I will mark a message as unread if I had a quick look and want to reply when I have more time. My first time on fab they kept building cause I didn't turn them off and it made me feel totally overwhelmed and probably why I left | |||
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"Well mine keep building because no matter how many people I try to reply to it just goes up and up when I’m online. I’m currently on 974 unread messages and I’ve replied to loads…. There is no way I can reply to all them. But of course I will get abuse when I bulk Delete I turn off new messages while I clear my inbox. I was sitting about 140 so blocked new messages from everyone.. Now down to 42 unread but some of these are from ongoing conversations. I delete any messages from a silhouette, then I delete the ones that are just something about seeing me in chat (they can just as easily chat to me when I'm in there so I don't understand the messages saying that) or gross vulgar shit. I like to take my time to construct a response, so I will mark a message as unread if I had a quick look and want to reply when I have more time. My first time on fab they kept building cause I didn't turn them off and it made me feel totally overwhelmed and probably why I left " Duh I’ve been here 3 years why did I not think of that . The thing is some of the decent ones do get slipped under the net because I’m wasting my time saying “no thank you, you are to far away” over and over again and usually to the same one. A distance filter would definitely help. | |||
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"I don't get that many to be honest. I will read them and if they are of interest I will reply. If not I delete Seriously? Your gorgeous, mustn't be alot of people in Norfolk " I endorse that! | |||
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"We always check the profile out first before opening the msg, if the profile is poor then we tend not to even open it and delete. if there is no pics or even no profile pic we delete.so Needless to say if the profile is decent and matches us then we read it...but most of the time I think some lads see your pics and just jump straight to your inbox and don't bother reading our profile.. they get deleted to. " | |||
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"Couples profiles aren't as inundated with messages as you'd think from our experience. Well, not those who block single males at least." we dont seek single guys so we are not over run with text's, now and again we still get them from single guys after we have posted in the forum, we still read and respond as they are generally nice polite and well written | |||
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"I often wonder if threads on this topic encourage the creation of bogus couples profiles in order to guarantee a stream of incoming messages to lovelorn/sex starved single males." That's one reason men create fake profiles. Can't blame them really. | |||
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"So here's one for the ladies and couples, seeing as you get the most amount of messages, when you log on and have loads of messages, how many do you actually look at? As man I have sent messages to females and couples and its been on the unread list for days, I just want to know when I can give up and delete it? Any help?" Place your focus, or hopes in your inbox, ignore your outbox. Sometimes, after reading a message that caught my eye, I'll mark it as unread ready for Mrs to read it when she has chance, or for us to read it together. It may take a few days until we have chance to give it full attention together. | |||
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"So here's one for the ladies and couples, seeing as you get the most amount of messages, when you log on and have loads of messages, how many do you actually look at? As man I have sent messages to females and couples and its been on the unread list for days, I just want to know when I can give up and delete it? Any help?" Why is there a time limit. You either get a response or not. Giving up on whether to delete the message or not is irrelevant as you can delete it but they could still message you......please tell me this post is a thinly veiled attempt to get responses during a brief drought and that youve already sent a few PM's otherwise alternative is your query is genuine | |||
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"It depends I usually instantly delete any from sillohette profiles or couples as that's not what I'm looking for, I'll also delete any 'hi how are you?' type messages Then I look at a profile before looking at the message, have a look at their bios, photos & interests etc if they look like a good match to me then I'll take a look at the message So it's not a numbers game, or how many messages I've got, it literally is, are they what I'm looking for, if the answers yes I'll reply if it's a no I won't " Exactly this | |||
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"please tell me this post is a thinly veiled attempt to get responses during a brief drought and that youve already sent a few PM's otherwise alternative is your query is genuine " The OP isn't like that. | |||
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