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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get a lot of messages asking for advice about how to conduct yourself on here so thought I'd share what I told someone earlier.

"I'd say always approach women respectfully, the same way you would when initiating contact with someone you're interested in romantically.

Read their profiles before messaging and make sure your first message makes it obvious you've done just that.

Women get TONS of messages so expect a delay in response - I currently have over 200 unread ones. It can be discouraging as a single man on here as there are so many of you so bare that in mind if you feel it isn't going as well as you'd hoped.

Also, join in with conversations on the forum as that's another way to engage with others without expecting something in return, which is attractive. X"

I hope that might help someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for sharing this. Been on here a little while only managed one outing and that didn’t get very far.

Hoping for more connections though x

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By *uffolkClareClactonDaveCouple
over a year ago

Felixstowe/Clacton-on-Sea

I think it says a lot that some guys have to ASK how to conduct themselves. Really?

Come on guys, it's not exactly rocket science.

Sub Dave

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

That's good advice, especially the part about reading the profile which is one of those things that shows effort, although on the flip-side can understand the amount of time this can take and the mass messages sent by single guys xx

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"I think it says a lot that some guys have to ASK how to conduct themselves. Really?

Come on guys, it's not exactly rocket science.

Sub Dave "

It's probably a conversation started tactic in some cases Dave

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you for sharing this. Been on here a little while only managed one outing and that didn’t get very far.

Hoping for more connections though x "

It really isn't easy for you single guys and I don't envy you at all!

Having a sense of humour is also incredibly important!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it says a lot that some guys have to ASK how to conduct themselves. Really?

Come on guys, it's not exactly rocket science.

Sub Dave "

To some it really seems like it!

I'd prefer to have someone ask because they genuinely want to know rather than receiving some of the messages I get where they're hoping to blatantly use my body for their gratification and then be on their merry little way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's good advice, especially the part about reading the profile which is one of those things that shows effort, although on the flip-side can understand the amount of time this can take and the mass messages sent by single guys xx"

Surely the amount it takes to read a profile is worth it if you're hoping for a reply?

To me that's the absolute LEAST they can do! Xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I think it says a lot that some guys have to ASK how to conduct themselves. Really? "

Totally agree, and I'm not a fan of helping true ejits look better by giving profile advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a bit shocked at the positive responses I have been getting to some of my initial messages to women and couples.

All I was doing was being joking and friendly, most of the time not even mentioning meeting up for sex.

Connections and getting to know them first and then see where it goes. Hasnt lead to any meet ups just yet but I guess this will be the long game.

Havent got any verified meets as well so that probably means people take me less seriously. Time will tell

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By *uffolkClareClactonDaveCouple
over a year ago

Felixstowe/Clacton-on-Sea


"I think it says a lot that some guys have to ASK how to conduct themselves. Really?

Come on guys, it's not exactly rocket science.

Sub Dave

To some it really seems like it!

I'd prefer to have someone ask because they genuinely want to know rather than receiving some of the messages I get where they're hoping to blatantly use my body for their gratification and then be on their merry little way.

"

That's a fair point Cinnamon x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Havent got any verified meets as well so that probably means people take me less seriously. Time will tell"

Correct, things take time. Stay in the forums so we all get to know you.

Then you will start to find out where the best socials are

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By *uffolkClareClactonDaveCouple
over a year ago

Felixstowe/Clacton-on-Sea


"I think it says a lot that some guys have to ASK how to conduct themselves. Really?

Totally agree, and I'm not a fan of helping true ejits look better by giving profile advice "

I think some guys maybe need guidance around the fact that sex is about more than satisfying themselves, but I agree that some guys just don't seem to understand the basic concept of respect.

For those guys, there really is no way of helping them because they'll never get past the fact that the world doesn't revolve around them.

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By *lexeatonMan
over a year ago

Lichfield


"Thank you for sharing this. Been on here a little while only managed one outing and that didn’t get very far.

Hoping for more connections though x

It really isn't easy for you single guys and I don't envy you at all!

Having a sense of humour is also incredibly important! "

Wow what a refreshing change, someone who doesn't "man-bash" or label us all in the same way. Sincerely, thank you.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham


"Thank you for sharing this. Been on here a little while only managed one outing and that didn’t get very far.

Hoping for more connections though x

It really isn't easy for you single guys and I don't envy you at all!

Having a sense of humour is also incredibly important!

Wow what a refreshing change, someone who doesn't "man-bash" or label us all in the same way. Sincerely, thank you."

From a woman who openly appreciates single men (and search my posts in the forum) this kind of comment is an instant turn off. You can make one woman feel good about herself without criticising another.

And. Yeah. I love that since I changed my profile making it really clear I only want club meets, gentlemen have stopped inviting me to their bedrooms 99% of men on here are pretty awesome

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By *lexeatonMan
over a year ago

Lichfield


"Thank you for sharing this. Been on here a little while only managed one outing and that didn’t get very far.

Hoping for more connections though x

It really isn't easy for you single guys and I don't envy you at all!

Having a sense of humour is also incredibly important!

Wow what a refreshing change, someone who doesn't "man-bash" or label us all in the same way. Sincerely, thank you.

From a woman who openly appreciates single men (and search my posts in the forum) this kind of comment is an instant turn off. You can make one woman feel good about herself without criticising another.

And. Yeah. I love that since I changed my profile making it really clear I only want club meets, gentlemen have stopped inviting me to their bedrooms 99% of men on here are pretty awesome "

Fair challenge. Flip that around, as a guy who is well mannered and polite when I message and have never exchanged an impolite mail to anyone on here, the kind of comments against single men as a whole are an instant turn off too. It was nice to see this post so i called it out, I'm glad you are also respectful of the nice guys but there are many that aren't. Happy fabbing!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Best advice to anyone, male , female or couple, is get yourself to socials or a club and be yourself. You'll either sink or swim. Fake it untill you make it might work for salesmen but in the swinging world you will slip up and let your true nature show.

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