FabSwingers.com forum: Advice/help and getting my first meet

By *heHornySpark28 OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Been on and off here for 2 years now since I was 18 now 20 still never been successful in getting to meet people I’ve talked and talked to people for a while but never got to the best bit I can understand most women will pass on me because I’m young but surely there’s someone out there just starts to make you feel abit shit about one’s self but life goes on any advice I’d appreciate

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

This is not a sex site. It is a swingers site.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Try a cougar & cubs night at a club as that's older women specifically looking for younger guys or a local social event

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By *heHornySpark28 OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes I do understand that… hence why I signed up to the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your main problem is your a guy and there are zillions of you with loads more joining every day

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By *heHornySpark28 OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes it is a big ratio imbalance guess all I can do is keep trying but seems to be little more people Joining in my area as it’s the same profiles constantly

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Maybe re think your profile name

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

In our opinion people of your age group just don't have the sexual maturity to handle swinging, we wouldn't have had it at your age.

You will be way better off just going out or trying something like T1nder.

Looking for a shag and swinging isn't really the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha yea the name isn't great.

It really isn't that much easier for women. I don't get hundreds of messages a day and from the ones I do get, there are hardly any I would want to get intimate with. It shouldn't affect your self esteem, don't take it seriously or personally. There are few people in the country on this website, even fewer who you would have sex with, and out of them, even fewer who would have sex with you. It's basically roulette, you're probably not going to win, but if and when you do it's fun.

I would message you if I lived anywhere near, you're some people's type

you look cute and non serious. Don't take it too seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a real shame for you although has to noted you joined when lockdown started so most weren't meeting.

Once it was over people were catching up with previous.

You look fine so it's not your looks or pics.

Probably best to mix it up with going to a club?

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

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By *cttMan
over a year ago

hatfield & Cannock

"Maybe re think your profile name"

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"Been on and off here for 2 years now since I was 18 now 20 still never been successful in getting to meet people I’ve talked and talked to people for a while but never got to the best bit I can understand most women will pass on me because I’m young but surely there’s someone out there just starts to make you feel abit shit about one’s self but life goes on any advice I’d appreciate"

What happned to the good old age...going out on the town and pulling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is going to be an issue for some.

Alot of us have kids of your age and older.

For us personally that is massive no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is not a sex site. It is a swingers site."

Oh? Do siwngers not have sex then?

Why are there profile options for singles when swinging is traditionally a couple activity?

You're just like those guys on fab guys a site for gay and bi men. They get all upset when bi men discuss women.

The sites not just for you. Never has been and never will be.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hang in there op

Unlike most forget this site has different age groups which I'm sure will have some close to your age but also others further up whom prefer the your age group try arranging a social via meet section

Good luck

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"Been on and off here for 2 years now since I was 18 now 20 still never been successful in getting to meet people I’ve talked and talked to people for a while but never got to the best bit I can understand most women will pass on me because I’m young but surely there’s out there just starts to make you feel abit shit about one’s self but life goes on any advice I’d appreciate

What happned to the good old age...going out on the town and pulling?"

That requires money and effort, I truly believe some join here thinking it's some kind of sexual deliveroo app

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on and off here for 2 years now since I was 18 now 20 still never been successful in getting to meet people I’ve talked and talked to people for a while but never got to the best bit I can understand most women will pass on me because I’m young but surely there’s out there just starts to make you feel abit shit about one’s self but life goes on any advice I’d appreciate

What happned to the good old age...going out on the town and pulling?

That requires money and effort, I truly believe some join here thinking it's some kind of sexual deliveroo app"

I've always said that far too many people seem to think single women are free escorts that are just here to be booked and used when they're in the mood, it's awful!

OP. I'd change your username, upload some photos where you aren't flipping people off and also try traditional dating sites but be honest with intentions.

Let your personality shine, be engaging, respectful and funny and you'll soon charm someone.

Definitely also check out local cougar and cubs nights as well as socials local to you.

Good luck!

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

Not trying to be patronising but at your age I was going out and trying to pull.

Go on dates, get to know yourself sexually and have those experiences. Will help you develop in many ways.

Apart from attending very specific events, you will struggle here as people have views about people a certain age not being mature enough for them.

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By *ornyhotcouple696969Couple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Just reading your profile name would be enough to put us off.

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

Become a site supporter for as little as a fiver, then I think you can change your username to something a little more reserved?

Maybe an up to date face photo?

As you have grown a lot in 3 years :D

One way also to get verification is meet another bloke for a pint?

Verification meet doesn't have to be sexual. You don't have to publish the verification.

I'm fairly new here but that's just a couple of ideas for you. Good luck.

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By *heHornySpark28 OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Shagging a girl who’s half pissed isn’t for me unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possible a controversial statement but I reckon the majority of “swingers” could have offspring your age so that’s going to cut down your possibilities.

Also you are one in 10 thousand single guys.

Your profile name could be thought of as immature.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I'd be unlikely to go any further than your username to be honest

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"I'd be unlikely to go any further than your username to be honest"

Same here

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"I'd be unlikely to go any further than your username to be honest

Same here"

Ditto x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First of all we found your user name a bit disturbing as we do with those that have names exclaiming their sexual prowess.

Be honest with yourself and with site users about your sexuality and desires, they can all spot dodgy behaviour.

We're not suggesting you are dodgy, just letting you and anyone else know.

One dick pic if you must is enough though we find them boring, much rather see you either with or without face showing doing other things.

Include a bit of context about yourself in your profile other than your sexual wants and offers.

Do not use words like always, must, have to, genuine, honest, reliable and so forth as your behaviour speaks louder than words on a screen.

Go to social group meets with no expectations other than to meet people. Whether socials only or parties, suck it up, pay the bill and go to meet people and make friends.

Most important of all is to think about what they might want and take an interest in them.

Again, drop your expectations and take your time.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What happned to the good old age...going out on the town and pulling?"

Ah yes…. The good old days of going out and trying to pull. Pub crawl, few games of pool, your mates telling you she’s looking at you, then your mates daring you to go up to her…. You wait and wait biding your time then…… damn she’s left. Oh well I wasn’t interested anyway.

boys, who’s round is it. And so the cycle goes on! Proper good times. 1994 - 2004 please come back

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

You joined 2yr ago and not had a meet?

Have you heard of this thing called the pandemic?

It sure as hell stopped a lot of folk playing or even having time to log on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a social or advertise that you fancy a social with a couple or something similar....

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"Possible a controversial statement but I reckon the majority of “swingers” could have offspring your age so that’s going to cut down your possibilities.

Also you are one in 10 thousand single guys.

Your profile name could be thought of as immature. "

We thought the same about the profile name.

Immature.

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By *andy and DannyCouple
over a year ago

Barnstaple

"This is not a sex site. It is a swingers site.

Oh? Do siwngers not have sex then?

Why are there profile options for singles when swinging is traditionally a couple activity?

You're just like those guys on fab guys a site for gay and bi men. They get all upset when bi men discuss women.

The sites not just for you. Never has been and never will be."
. Thats bollox mate , swinging is couples sharing partners no matter how much you dilute the label ,any other activity is pure and simple 3somes or moresomes .

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"This is not a sex site. It is a swingers site.

Oh? Do siwngers not have sex then?

Why are there profile options for singles when swinging is traditionally a couple activity?

You're just like those guys on fab guys a site for gay and bi men. They get all upset when bi men discuss women.

The sites not just for you. Never has been and never will be."

Yes, swingers have sex.

Swingers also have a "connection" that's about more than sex.

People who join Fab purely looking for sex are frequently dissapointed.

People who "get" the swinging lifestyle and all it embraces are frequently more successful.

If people don't understand the difference and don't adjust their expectations accordingly they'll never find what they're looking for.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go to a social or advertise that you fancy a social with a couple or something similar....

Definitely change your profile name it wouldn't appeal to anyone

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Definitely change the username

The photo with the fingers up isn't appealing

You'll be too young for most of us

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Sorry OP but your profile and name say "immature" to me, so it's likely other women see it the same way.

As others have said, if you come across well in person, a cubs and cougars night at a club might work for you.

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

Two years, not one meet. fucking hell dude....why are you still on here. Profile advice from people is doing you a disservice and pussy footing around the obvious. Ive seen some profiles that read like a suicide note and one the photos all i could think of was the beginning of the film hostel...and they had verifications!! Ditch Fab.com there are better platforms for you. I figure two years of rejection you can handle this post

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Having realistic expectations will help to keep your confidence up, as it is really difficult for single men here and Covid made meeting impossible and then tougher.

Focused attention on a single guy's profile is almost inevitably the priority, as he has to use it to sell himself. This helps him to stand out from the others and the dross. If you think you could benefit, read and learn from the many posts on this.

Finally, go back to expectations. Most people are not.mutually compatible with most other people. This may not always be about attraction but interests, availability, accommodation and more. It can take many chats, that seemed positive, before 1 or both sides realise that it won't work. These dead ends have to be experienced, or people would meet the wrong people.

Don't take it to heart, as it's as important for you to be meeting the right people for you, as it is for them.

Ask for support any time. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shagging a girl who’s half pissed isn’t for me unfortunately

Same

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"This is not a sex site. It is a swingers site.

Oh? Do siwngers not have sex then"

Did I say that?

As a man you're unlikely to receive messages from foolish men that think this is insta-shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Two years, not one meet. fucking hell dude....why are you still on here. Profile advice from people is doing you a disservice and pussy footing around the obvious. Ive seen some profiles that read like a suicide note and one the photos all i could think of was the beginning of the film hostel...and they had verifications!! Ditch Fab.com there are better platforms for you. I figure two years of rejection you can handle this post "

Bit harsh, pandemic?

Mrs

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"This is not a sex site. It is a swingers site.

Oh? Do siwngers not have sex then?

Why are there profile options for singles when swinging is traditionally a couple activity?

You're just like those guys on fab guys a site for gay and bi men. They get all upset when bi men discuss women.

The sites not just for you. Never has been and never will be."

This made me giggle...but not necessarily in a good way. The lady never said it was for her or anyone else..but the name of this website says it all really..just incase your not aware..but stingers have sex with multiple people which isn't everyone's cup of tea, so I would imagine that a very large portion of people on here are swingers..so no its not really rhe ideal place for people who isn't into swinging.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"Been on and off here for 2 years now since I was 18 now 20 still never been successful in getting to meet people I’ve talked and talked to people for a while but never got to the best bit I can understand most women will pass on me because I’m young but surely there’s out there just starts to make you feel abit shit about one’s self but life goes on any advice I’d appreciate

What happned to the good old age...going out on the town and pulling?

That requires money and effort, I truly believe some join here thinking it's some kind of sexual deliveroo app"

I totally agree.. some of them come onto this website with a massive high expectation thinking that just because they are on here they are Instantlty going to get sex and then come crashing down when it's not happening..they don't see the inner picture and obv don't notice other big successful profiles and just assume that theirs will do.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Your profile seems fine v but you are young and cannot accommodate. I think the cubs and cougars night is a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is nothing to do with your age mate, the sites just flooded with other guys wasting peoples time. Don’t let it get you down either. Engage more, and try an get down a club. This is my 3rd time on fabs, I’ve only ever had the pleasure of one social with a couple. Just show up if you get invited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Age is going to be an issue for some.

Alot of us have kids of your age and older.

For us personally that is massive no."

Same for me, my eldest is 20.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have nice photos, maybe it would help if you change your name/profile text a bit. Lot of people have their own "looking for", so may not fit their criteria.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

OP...was a week ago that it was suggested you change your profile name and try sone photos where you're not flipping the viewer off (they look like typical youth attitude pics). Think the fact that nothings changed shows your commitment to getting the best out of the site.

(Bry)

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

Bit harsh, pandemic?

Mrs "

might not have been above board but there were lots of people that were still meeting up, and not shy about it. 2 years are not a nibble, bit blunt i know but i don't think my words will haunt him for years. But giving him advice on how to beef his profile up is like weve taken early release option and given him life, no chance of parole in prison ironically hed stand good chance of getting lucky,

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