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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Evening ladies and Gents,

This site is becoming very should destroying lol I seem to read women's profile and send a message ticking all the boxes but still am having no luck, what am I doing wrong?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I was going to say nothing, until I saw the status update

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By *ueenbee77Woman
over a year ago

Rotherham

Didn't see status update. Looks good to me. What do you say in messages?

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Sadly it's just the sheer number of guys compare to women & couples means most guys will find themselves disappointed on here

But you've got a decent profile, bio & photos I think it's just timings, lots of people haven't started meeting again after Covid & to be honest even pre Covid a year plus was not uncommon for single guys to get their first meet

Have you tried clubs or social events, there's a west London social being advertised at the moment in the London Forum

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Didn't see status update. Looks good to me. What do you say in messages? "

He took it off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Didn't see status update. Looks good to me. What do you say in messages?

He took it off "

Lol I saw how stupid it looked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sadly it's just the sheer number of guys compare to women & couples means most guys will find themselves disappointed on here

But you've got a decent profile, bio & photos I think it's just timings, lots of people haven't started meeting again after Covid & to be honest even pre Covid a year plus was not uncommon for single guys to get their first meet

Have you tried clubs or social events, there's a west London social being advertised at the moment in the London Forum"

I dont think I'm confident or comfortable enough to go to one right now, im just trying to get into swinging

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Didn't see status update. Looks good to me. What do you say in messages?

He took it off

Lol I saw how stupid it looked"

It really didn't match what your profile seems to say. Unless you are an idiot that has amended it after asking for profile advice before?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I dont think I'm confident or comfortable enough to go to one right now, im just trying to get into swinging "

A social is not a scary thing, try ours https://www.fabswingers.com/profile/the_secret_tea_party

Next one will be the summer one

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock


"Sadly it's just the sheer number of guys compare to women & couples means most guys will find themselves disappointed on here

But you've got a decent profile, bio & photos I think it's just timings, lots of people haven't started meeting again after Covid & to be honest even pre Covid a year plus was not uncommon for single guys to get their first meet

Have you tried clubs or social events, there's a west London social being advertised at the moment in the London Forum

I dont think I'm confident or comfortable enough to go to one right now, im just trying to get into swinging "

Then maybe swinging & this site isn't for you at the moment & FAB is definitely a confidence basher for single guys & a social is just that, a drink in a pub with like minded people, definitely nothing to worry about & a great way of meeting local people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Didn't see status update. Looks good to me. What do you say in messages?

He took it off

Lol I saw how stupid it looked

It really didn't match what your profile seems to say. Unless you are an idiot that has amended it after asking for profile advice before? "

To be honest it was just in that moment I actually did feel like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it does not matter how many boxes you think you ticked it means nothing unless there some sort of attraction ..

but you main problem is your a guy and there are zillions of you with loads more joining every day

some say 100 men to 1 woman on this site some say more so that means alot of guys wont get anywhere no matter how much they try ... id hate to be a single guy on here in fact i dont think id be on here as id just stick to clubs if i was a guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the support and advice guys, I guess I'm gonna have to suck it up and go to the clubs

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By *ueenbee77Woman
over a year ago

Rotherham

You didn't answer my question?? What do you say in messages you send

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Thanks for all the support and advice guys, I guess I'm gonna have to suck it up and go to the clubs "

Are you only here for sex?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"To be honest it was just in that moment I actually did feel like that "

Always think before acting, useful in any part of life

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Thanks for all the support and advice guys, I guess I'm gonna have to suck it up and go to the clubs

"

If you can go to a pub, you can go to a club but you must understand that you are guaranteed nothing.

This is swinging, not a means to getting your cock wet and men who understand that are in great demand.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"If you can go to a pub, you can go to a club but you must understand that you are guaranteed nothing.

This is swinging, not a means to getting your cock wet and men who understand that are in great demand. "

He's cute though isn't he

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You didn't answer my question?? What do you say in messages you send "

It was a greeting like morning, afternoon ect, asked how there day is going, them I said things that showed I read their profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the support and advice guys, I guess I'm gonna have to suck it up and go to the clubs

Are you only here for sex?"

I'm on here to learn more about the lifestyle and meet people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same issue. And the few responses I do get are all “no Asians” “not my type”. As people have mentioned, lots of men on here get disappointed, every woman has about a thousand messages in her inbox. The advice I’ve been given is to make myself a well-known, friendly face at events (going with others will help too).

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"You didn't answer my question?? What do you say in messages you send

It was a greeting like morning, afternoon ect, asked how there day is going, them I said things that showed I read their profile"

That's reasonable, but nothing out of the ordinary. Remembering that women get lots more messages than men.

You seem like a decent guy, I'm usually quite anti advice threads. You can message me if you want, purely for research

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I'm on here to learn more about the lifestyle and meet people "

Then I suggest a social is the place to start, not a club if you are a bit nervous

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the support and advice guys, I guess I'm gonna have to suck it up and go to the clubs

If you can go to a pub, you can go to a club but you must understand that you are guaranteed nothing.

This is swinging, not a means to getting your cock wet and men who understand that are in great demand. "

I'm not about meaningless sex, I like to have a connection, sex with passion is better than anything else and I am always happy to have a social or two to make sure we are comfortable and feel safe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have the same issue. And the few responses I do get are all “no Asians” “not my type”. As people have mentioned, lots of men on here get disappointed, every woman has about a thousand messages in her inbox. The advice I’ve been given is to make myself a well-known, friendly face at events (going with others will help too)."

Yeah to be fair I do see that no Asian thing alot

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By *ueenbee77Woman
over a year ago

Rotherham

Thanks for answering yeah or try complimenting them x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for answering yeah or try complimenting them x "

I do that too, thank you for your help, it means alot

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

It's already been said but your profile is pretty good.

There's just too many men on here so there's so much competition.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's already been said but your profile is pretty good.

There's just too many men on here so there's so much competition. "

Damn all the other men lol

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

The only thing your doing wrong is expecting something to happen. There's no guarantees of anything on here or swinging in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I’d follow all the advice you’ve been given on your previous threads.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"OP I’d follow all the advice you’ve been given on your previous threads."

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By *oppypornWoman
over a year ago

guildford

Man, you are cute!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Man, you are cute!!!"

Why thank you xxx you are gorgeous yourself

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

You seem a nice guy , I think you just need to have a better plan and take control, it’s not tinder , people aren’t just queuing up for random sex

But even doing it badly you will likely get lucky from time to time though you have age and good looks on your side

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