FabSwingers.com forum: First time going to a club

By *rKC92 OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

Hey folks, I'm going to my first club event next week and just wanted to as a few questions about the typical etiquette and things.

I've already spoke with a friend of mine who is a club veteran has said that she'll make sure to steer me right but I just wanted to make sure that I don't break any unwritten rules my first time and make a poor impression.

I know the obvious stuff like

1. Don't be a creep,

2.No means no, don't be pushy (enthusiastic consent is a big deal for me anyway)

3. Use protection (this goes without saying right? There can't be anybody who plays bare at a club!),

4.Regularly check in that people are having a good time

5. Be respectful (outside of verbal degradation kinks!) of who you're with and their partner.

6. Just because it's a swingers club doesn't mean it's a guaranteed night of fun

I didn't know if there was something blindingly obvious that I was missing but I'd really appreciate any tips to make sure I have a great time!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

7. Regarding alcohol...don't drink too much and if anyone looks like they've had too much avoid them. They can't give consent !

8. Smile. Be friendly and chat to people, you can swap fab names and get verified or carry on conversations and maybe arrange meets in the future.

9. If you are talking to a couple, talk to them both.

10. Check the Clubs Website to see if you need membership in advance, what nights you can go, dress code, if there's a bar, lockers etc.

11. Have fun

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By *rKC92 OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

"7. Regarding alcohol...don't drink too much and if anyone looks like they've had too much avoid them. They can't give consent !

8. Smile. Be friendly and chat to people, you can swap fab names and get verified or carry on conversations and maybe arrange meets in the future.

9. If you are talking to a couple, talk to them both.

10. Check the Clubs Website to see if you need membership in advance, what nights you can go, dress code, if there's a bar, lockers etc.

11. Have fun "

I can safely say I won't be drinking too much seeing as I'll be driving (the curse of being a responsible adult!)

The rest are definitely going on my list, luckily I've already got a ticket for the event I'm going to so even as a non-member I'm alright on that front. I'll definitely be keeping up with the dress code (my fashion sense is atrocious post lockdown so I best up my game!)

Thanks so much for the pointers!

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

3. Use protection (this goes without saying right? There can't be anybody who plays bare at a club!),

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I didn't know if there was something blindingly obvious that I was missing but I'd really appreciate any tips to make sure I have a great time!"

Yes you make a basic mistake in assuming that "here can't be anybody who plays bare at a club!". Many many swingers in clubs and on private meets go bareback if and when they can. Many even try to trick women by saying don't worry I will pull out before I come,then don't. Others even claim they have had the snip, that may protect their partner getting pregnant but will not protect her from STIs.

Never assume anything asses the risk and look after your own protection rather than expecting others to protect you. This attitude has protected us for over 40 years, happy swinging

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By *rKC92 OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

"Yes you make a basic mistake in assuming that "here can't be anybody who plays bare at a club!". Many many swingers in clubs and on private meets go bareback if and when they can. Many even try to trick women by saying don't worry I will pull out before I come,then don't. Others even claim they have had the snip, that may protect their partner getting pregnant but will not protect her from STIs.

Never assume anything asses the risk and look after your own protection rather than expecting others to protect you. This attitude has protected us for over 40 years, happy swinging"

Thanks for the heads up, I completely get where you're coming from.

As a rule of thumb I always use protection unless I'm in a committed relationship and have been tested and agreed etc. I'm that kind of paranoid that I regularly check to make sure the condom hasn't slipped (and then I can play with their clit a little too!)

The way I see it in this situation, as a straight single guy I've got a duty to protect myself and whoever I'm with so condoms all the way. I haven't got any intentions of doing anything raw with a stranger and I'm not afraid to walk away if raw is ever pushed hard.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

* don't touch without asking

* do t get creepily close to people playing

* don't be the weird one furiously wanking in the corner

* don't get pissed

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By *rKC92 OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

"* don't touch without asking

* do t get creepily close to people playing

* don't be the weird one furiously wanking in the corner

* don't get pissed

I think all of those are covered, apart from the furious wanking in the corner! Definitely a no go!

That being said how about the weird one furiously wanking in the middle of the room? (Kidding!)

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

You'll definitely get a fair few people playing bare in a club. A mixture of couples, couples playing with trusted people and people who just like bareback. Based on our observations I'd guess you get around 20 to 30% playing bare.

I would definitely say always use protection unless with a trusted partner.

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By *oublethefunMan
over a year ago

royston

Make sure you speak to people and be friendly as a lot of single guys don't bother and think if they see someone playing then it's a green light to be able to touch and muscle in too.

A light bit of banter and pay compliments goes a long way. Always read the signs of interest from the people you may wish to play with and not just the females as if they have a partner it's important to make conversation with them to s if the lady may be interested if her partner is not impressed then its not going to happen.

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