FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong

By *aughtydanny OP Man
over a year ago

Ponty

So I’ve been here for just over a year and can’t even get a message back off a women

So seriously where am I going wrong

I’m polite

Discreet

Hygienic

Tall

Well built

Decently hung

Up for most things

I also travel a lot with work so I’m always in different areas

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Maybe you're trying to connect with those whom aren't interested in you.try reading their bio because they would be reading yours add more pictures.remember not everyone will be looking for what you're interested in and might put them off but will also be some that are interested so you could be making things easier or more difficult

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By *aspar78Man
over a year ago

derbyshire

Reckon your opening of you bio might have something to do with it

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Your age gose against you. Lots have children your age. You mention bondage near the top of your list. It's a swinging site, not kink. How safe would a female feel meeting you, thinking she may get bound?

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Nothing exciting about your profile sorry

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I’m polite

Discreet

Hygienic

Tall

Well built

Decently hung

Up for most things

These can either be looked at standard requirements or a bonus so other than. what do you you think that you could add to someone excitement their is plenty of helpful advice within the forums from previous folk whom asked for advice this is a helpful tool if you did the forum Search

Remember if you struggle at the first hurdle doesn't help you or getting successful meets

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife

"Reckon your opening of you bio might have something to do with it

^this

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Tbh, the profile doesn’t give any insight into you as a person. Well, except the first bit, which probably rules out 80% of the women here. That’s not meant as a criticism, it’s just that most probably don’t like the cheating side of things.

The travelling bit probably doesn’t help - many women I know immediately delete anything that says - “hi, I’m in your area”.

It’s a community here, and with swinging generally - the guys that are successful tend to be the ones who get involved and contribute in a wide range of ways. Their personality comes across.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

You are after the rarest but also the most sought after demographics on Fab, OP: single ladies up to the age of 35. Many people don't start swinging until they're in their 40ties. So your age group is definitely limiting your choices.

Your profile is very bland, only one public photo.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

OP - your profile is pretty bland and won't stand out. Other than that, without an example of the messages you're sending to women, no-one can advise why you're not getting replies.

If you're sending messages to every woman you find, without checking to see if you meet their requirements, then of course, most will get deleted. If your message consist of "hey there" or "how's you" or other banal one line comments, then they're going to get deleted.

Maybe try looking at that.

(Bry)

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Reckon your opening of you bio might have something to do with it

Absolutely agree.

Just makes you come across as a bit of a dick to be honest.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"without your partner knowing" is a good place to start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I have just read this snwhole thread and would like to know if anybody would mind providing a critique of my profile?

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By *ussybagderMan
over a year ago

Salford

U are limited to cheating wifes and gf n there ain't many here lol

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"So I have just read this snwhole thread and would like to know if anybody would mind providing a critique of my profile? "

Good photos but the pointless legal warning is offputting

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

"So I’ve been here for just over a year and can’t even get a message back off a women

So seriously where am I going wrong

I’m polite

Discreet

Hygienic

Tall

Well built

Decently hung

Up for most things

I also travel a lot with work so I’m always in different areas "

It seems fine & the age preference is fine as you’re within this. Maybe just make the opening sentence less crass!

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Looking for women 18-35 who’ll meet a smoker. How many women aged between 18-35 do you think are on this site and close to where you live ?

From that small number how many do you think would meet a smoker ?

And from that even smaller number, do you honestly think one photo is enough to interest her ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1- For every female on the website there are 1000 males. You're competing against 999 other guys.

2- The 1st line in your bio is: "I'll fuck girlfriends and wives with and without the knowledge of their partners" You're basically shouting: "I am untrustworthy"

3- Your profile pic doesn't leave anything for the imagination. Women are attracted by mystery. Not as graphic as we men are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1- For every female on the website there are 1000 males. You're competing against 999 other guys.

2- The 1st line in your bio is: "I'll fuck girlfriends and wives with and without the knowledge of their partners" You're basically shouting: "I am untrustworthy"

3- Your profile pic doesn't leave anything for the imagination. Women are attracted by mystery. Not as graphic as we men are. "

4- "I am into all things" screams of desperation and absence of standards.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

You've clearly never been cheated on by someone you love or you'd realise how disrespectful, inconsiderate and life crushing those actions are. Being party to that is disrespectful at best, intentionally cruel at worst.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok thanks, will remove it

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"So I have just read this snwhole thread and would like to know if anybody would mind providing a critique of my profile? "

Second time you've jumped on someone else's thread. Start your own.

(Bry)

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"So I have just read this snwhole thread and would like to know if anybody would mind providing a critique of my profile? "

Get rid of the pointless warning in your bio. Fab tells you not to put this on.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Ok thanks, will remove it "

Why? If that's who you are and what you like then keep it, just be aware there will be many folk who won't agree with it and avoid because of it.

I'm a smoker, I not gonna lie about it to get more people interested, I just accept that my choices rule a lot of people out. I don't get to dictate a narrative that suits an agenda, it's about being truthful to find people who match.

If you wanna mess with people's relationships then so be it, but don't hide it and allow others to think you're not that kinda guy.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Ok thanks, will remove it

Why? If that's who you are and what you like then keep it, just be aware there will be many folk who won't agree with it and avoid because of it."

That wasn't the OP replying to you.

(Bry)

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Ok thanks, will remove it

Why? If that's who you are and what you like then keep it, just be aware there will be many folk who won't agree with it and avoid because of it.

That wasn't the OP replying to you.

(Bry)"

Ah, I couldn't tell as there was no reply + quote.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have just read this snwhole thread and would like to know if anybody would mind providing a critique of my profile?

Get rid of the pointless warning in your bio. Fab tells you not to put this on. "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op your a man on a site mainly full of men ?? ... what do you think is going wrong ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let’s be honest, unless your offering something a little different as a single guy, I say different and admit that covers a multitude of areas, from sexual orientations, heights, cock sizes or indeed race plus many more.

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let’s be honest, unless your offering something a little different as a single guy, I say different and admit that covers a multitude of areas, from sexual orientations, heights, cock sizes or indeed race plus many more.

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion."

define average ... average to one woman is hot or yuk to another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

When folk realise that this is a swinging site and not a fuck site, life would be calmer and more swinging would happen!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion."

A little different? All I wanted was a tall, non smoking, single man who was interested in more than a wet dick and didn't lie about any of that stuff.

In ten years they have been few and far between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion.

define average ... average to one woman is hot or yuk to another"

Average is average. A number expressing the central or typical value in a set of data.

Rightly or wrongly if you fall into the average height, body, cock size, hair colour, whatever, you will find it harder as a single guy on here. As you just won’t stand out.

Again just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion.

A little different? All I wanted was a tall, non smoking, single man who was interested in more than a wet dick and didn't lie about any of that stuff.

In ten years they have been few and far between."

Exactly what I meant, you mentioned “tall” so you will mentally filter out all the average height guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you been to any clubs or socials?

….

Put effort in and get out there especially if you are a single man.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"When folk realise that this is a swinging site and not a fuck site, life would be calmer and more swinging would happen!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion.

A little different? All I wanted was a tall, non smoking, single man who was interested in more than a wet dick and didn't lie about any of that stuff.

In ten years they have been few and far between.

Exactly what I meant, you mentioned “tall” so you will mentally filter out all the average height guys. "

How is tall in anyway different?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion.

A little different? All I wanted was a tall, non smoking, single man who was interested in more than a wet dick and didn't lie about any of that stuff.

In ten years they have been few and far between.

Exactly what I meant, you mentioned “tall” so you will mentally filter out all the average height guys.

How is tall in anyway different? "

It’s different to small?!?! A am missing something here?? I didn’t say it was a good or bad thing, just that people like either small or tall or thick or thin, it’s harder if your just average.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When folk realise that this is a swinging site and not a fuck site, life would be calmer and more swinging would happen!

This

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

"When folk realise that this is a swinging site and not a fuck site, life would be calmer and more swinging would happen!

This

I send two cock pics and a quick 'hey babe, fancy a fuck sometime"..

I get 10-15 replies a week..

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion.

define average ... average to one woman is hot or yuk to another

Average is average. A number expressing the central or typical value in a set of data.

Rightly or wrongly if you fall into the average height, body, cock size, hair colour, whatever, you will find it harder as a single guy on here. As you just won’t stand out.

Again just my opinion"

But what about personality some find this more appealing and attraction everything else becomes less important average or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When folk realise that this is a swinging site and not a fuck site, life would be calmer and more swinging would happen!

This

I send two cock pics and a quick 'hey babe, fancy a fuck sometime"..

I get 10-15 replies a week.."

We can send an emoji and get a reply. I’m not sure what your point is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion.

define average ... average to one woman is hot or yuk to another

Average is average. A number expressing the central or typical value in a set of data.

Rightly or wrongly if you fall into the average height, body, cock size, hair colour, whatever, you will find it harder as a single guy on here. As you just won’t stand out.

Again just my opinion

But what about personality some find this more appealing and attraction everything else becomes less important average or not"

I agree in “real life” these would be factors…..however on here not so much. Your own profile also, I can say as a guy you have a great body, good six pack etc so definitely stand out. If you were of just average build, regardless of how in depth your profile is, you would be overlooked!

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"When folk realise that this is a swinging site and not a fuck site, life would be calmer and more swinging would happen!

That will never happen.

Too many single guys on here this is clearly a fuck site.

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife

"When folk realise that this is a swinging site and not a fuck site, life would be calmer and more swinging would happen!

Absolutely spot on

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I think you should have left your bio exactly the way you had it.Why change what you are looking for just to make it more appealing to others when it hides what you actually are looking for on here .

This is why I don't give any advice on these threads too many are given advice on how to look better to others and they are hiding what they actually want on here.Surely being truthful is better and it gives people a better idea of who is behind the profile and they can make an informed choice then if they want to interact with the person.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion.

define average ... average to one woman is hot or yuk to another

Average is average. A number expressing the central or typical value in a set of data.

Rightly or wrongly if you fall into the average height, body, cock size, hair colour, whatever, you will find it harder as a single guy on here. As you just won’t stand out.

Again just my opinion

But what about personality some find this more appealing and attraction everything else becomes less important average or not

I wouldn't agree with overlooked it's more if a person is able to strike up a decent conversation that either one it grabs the attention of and continues.

Thanks

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Could a female or couple have a look at my profile and give some honest feedback please?

Paul x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Could a female or couple have a look at my profile and give some honest feedback please?

Paul x"

I think your pics are too similar. All but one are your naked stomach

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Thanks Sally, I'll swap things up a bit. What would you like to see on a profile? X

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Could a female or couple have a look at my profile and give some honest feedback please?

Paul x"

Start your own thread - bad form to jump on other people's.

(Bry)

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Sorry didn't know that was bad form

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Sorry didn't know that was bad form"

It end us confusing as there'll be someone along using the reply button and not quoting what/who they're replying to

(Bry)

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Ah got you, that makes sense. Sorry to original poster, first time I've used the forums

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Ah got you, that makes sense. Sorry to original poster, first time I've used the forums "

Green arrow.....

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ah got you, that makes sense. Sorry to original poster, first time I've used the forums

Green arrow.....

(Bry)"

Best guffaw I've had all day!

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"Could a female or couple have a look at my profile and give some honest feedback please?

Paul x"

You say ask and you will always answer Paul.

Why can't you accommodate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When folk realise that this is a swinging site and not a fuck site, life would be calmer and more swinging would happen!

This. Too many join thinking it’s a free for all shag fest. Complete lack of effort with their profiles and little or no understanding of what this lifestyle is about. Then come the complaints that they’re not having any success.

Viv

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

I'm married and she doesn't know

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

"So I’ve been here for just over a year and can’t even get a message back off a women

So seriously where am I going wrong

I’m polite

Discreet

Hygienic

Tall

Well built

Decently hung

Up for most things

I also travel a lot with work so I’m always in different areas "

So here just over a year stupid question time you do realise there's a pandemic still happening now saying that am here two years and met plenty .... it maybe just down to your age to be honest I find a good 80% are over 35/40...my advice would be go to a good few social events or parties that's the best way to meet ppl...

Try and find chat groups too join too may help ...wish you all the best in your search x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah got you, that makes sense. Sorry to original poster, first time I've used the forums "

Do you suffer from memory loss?

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

I changed it to can't accommodate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pubes in your avatar.

Straight delete. Also you make a shopping list of what you like. That's the purpose of the tick list.

Two young for me X

I can't see the cheating comment but I'd avoid if you are.

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

I'm replying because someone replied.

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By *orkcoastguyMan
over a year ago

Bridlington.

You are a solo guy and competing with thousands of other such.

Most couples and solo women get bombarded with messages and just delete, delete, delete.

Rely upon a well written profile, good photos and geography. When they want to couples and solo women will come to you.

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By *hocCock1Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Age your looking for is 18-35....thats a small window I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When folk realise that this is a swinging site and not a fuck site, life would be calmer and more swinging would happen!

Absolutely spot on "

I got a big tree in the garden and a strong rope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you should have left your bio exactly the way you had it.Why change what you are looking for just to make it more appealing to others when it hides what you actually are looking for on here .

Absolutely this..

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By *orticia1313Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *edtimefunMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Try more subtle and classy pics and write a little more about you rather than just bullet points ..

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"So I’ve been here for just over a year and can’t even get a message back off a women

So seriously where am I going wrong

I’m polite

Discreet

Hygienic

Tall

Well built

Decently hung

Up for most things

I also travel a lot with work so I’m always in different areas "

Nothing. Women in here have a plethora of choice and have very specific demands.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

There is nothing original in your profile in a sea of single men you gotta stand out from the crowd

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Smiles, walking down the same path and wondering why you keep arriving in the same place.

Do something different, and if you can’t be arsed, stop wondering.

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By *ihusband84Man
over a year ago

SHEERNESS

Just keep trying buddy took me a wile to get the wheels turning single men are like blades of grass on a football pitch lots to pick from

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife

"Age your looking for is 18-35....thats a small window I think"

Not necessarily

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By *ihusband84Man
over a year ago

SHEERNESS

"Age your looking for is 18-35....thats a small window I think

Not necessarily

Dam nice arse you have

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife

I understand why guys ask for help but I really wished they would read the forums and get involved first as there's so much of the same advice. Fact of the matter is purely down to ratio and the fact that there's not 2women in here looking for the exact same so never gonna please everyone no matter how much you change your profile

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife

"Age your looking for is 18-35....thats a small window I think

Not necessarily

Dam nice arse you have

Oh thanks lol

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By *ihusband84Man
over a year ago

SHEERNESS

"Age your looking for is 18-35....thats a small window I think

Not necessarily

Dam nice arse you have

Oh thanks lol

No thanks needed just stating a fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Setting an age limit limits your options and is a big mistake I’m fitter and in much better shape and more confident at 60 than I ever was when younger.

Spelling on a profile is important too and not just dick pics, there ten a penny. Hope that helps

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By *ueen CatWoman
over a year ago

fife

"Setting an age limit limits your options and is a big mistake I’m fitter and in much better shape and more confident at 60 than I ever was when younger.

Spelling on a profile is

important too and not just dick pics, there ten a penny. Hope that helps"

I don't believe it's a mistake, I'd set mine a bit lower if didn't have couples to consider.

Its not a case of how you feel but what the person on the lookout is attracted to.

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

Don't take this wrong way but have you ever considered that maybe your just rubbish at communicating and attracting opposite sex online. Every single approach, message written, have all failed. You told us this. Even in an alternative universe its the couples and single women that are at fault for this happening it doesn't change your situation that your getting no response and it won't get better. So why this is happening to you is irrelevant...and its not changing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude. I have the same issue. Im a lot better at talking to a woman face to face. It's hard to attract a woman on here, because some don't give you the time if day.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"I'm married and she doesn't know"

So your a cheater, not a swinger.

Both very different things.

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

"Dude. I have the same issue. Im a lot better at talking to a woman face to face. It's hard to attract a woman on here, because some don't give you the time if day. "

Thing is,if you have messaged them they are not then obligaged to respond. They didn't message you, if they block you then there not interested your not for them. Maybe too many men pestering them why not block....its makes perfect sense to them as they are essentially filtering out people there not interested in. If you find it rude, especially after plenty conversations your entitled to be annoyed but it's not their fault your feeling that way

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

I can't back this up with anything credible but if the forum just went overnight and your left with just the profiles looking, filtering, chatting, arranging, blocking, unblocking, verifications, loading up vids and pics. The vitriol, competing , hypocrisy, nastiness with brief moments of positives that's not sustained as intellectual dog fights kick in. Calm....then starts all over again

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By *edtimefunMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Very difficult for guys .. don't think it would be that easy for Brad Pitt !! Took me a long time but I have some lovely veries which really helps, I now have singles and couples contacting me, just take your time and be nice and normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very difficult for guys .. don't think it would be that easy for Brad Pitt !! Took me a long time but I have some lovely veries which really helps, I now have singles and couples contacting me, just take your time and be nice and normal

This

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

And this about sums up fab. Entitled snowflake mentality.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"And this about sums up fab. Entitled snowflake mentality. "

Ha! Are you responding to being called a cheat after hijacking someone else's thread and posting without quoting who you are answering?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion.

define average ... average to one woman is hot or yuk to another

Average is average. A number expressing the central or typical value in a set of data.

Rightly or wrongly if you fall into the average height, body, cock size, hair colour, whatever, you will find it harder as a single guy on here. As you just won’t stand out.

Again just my opinion

But what about personality some find this more appealing and attraction everything else becomes less important average or not

Out of a fair few people on fab I know, the ones who do best on here are often average height average weight men, where others with gym bodies struggle. for the main reason that they read profiles and have a better understanding of the swinging lifestyle, this will get you much further than a 6 pack will with a lot of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 99% of time not going to catch any single females or couples eye if your just an average guy.

Just my opinion.

define average ... average to one woman is hot or yuk to another

Average is average. A number expressing the central or typical value in a set of data.

Rightly or wrongly if you fall into the average height, body, cock size, hair colour, whatever, you will find it harder as a single guy on here. As you just won’t stand out.

Again just my opinion

But what about personality some find this more appealing and attraction everything else becomes less important average or not

bugger it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s hard for single men for sure but as said your profile needs to be interesting or message exciting.

I don’t get a lot of messages directly, usually I have to start the convo, probably cause of my lack of pics but that’s my choice. I attach a clear face and body pic on messages.

As others have said, you need to get folk intrigued.

Just my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And this about sums up fab. Entitled snowflake mentality. "

Says the guy who is on Fab

If you’re calling out people on here I’ll return the favour.

Why say it’s your first time on the forums when it’s clearly not?

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Why say it’s your first time on the forums when it’s clearly not?"

No doubt when his wife finds he's cheating, he'll say it's his first time. And blame her for being a snowflake about it.

(Bry)

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Ah got you, that makes sense. Sorry to original poster, first time I've used the forums "

Apart from the 12 other threads you've posted on, one of which you yourself started, asking for advice.........

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why say it’s your first time on the forums when it’s clearly not?

No doubt when his wife finds he's cheating, he'll say it's his first time. And blame her for being a snowflake about it.

(Bry)"

Absolutely this. No insight whatsoever.

Viv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah got you, that makes sense. Sorry to original poster, first time I've used the forums

Apart from the 12 other threads you've posted on, one of which you yourself started, asking for advice.........

Winston"

And going back over a year ago as well

Viv

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Ah got you, that makes sense. Sorry to original poster, first time I've used the forums

Apart from the 12 other threads you've posted on, one of which you yourself started, asking for advice.........

Winston

And going back over a year ago as well

Viv"

The arrow of truth strikes again.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck me, what did I just read? I feel like my minds eye has a detached retina!

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"When folk realise that this is a swinging site and not a fuck site, life would be calmer and more swinging would happen!

This

I send two cock pics and a quick 'hey babe, fancy a fuck sometime"..

I get 10-15 replies a week.."

Course you do lol

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Ah got you, that makes sense. Sorry to original poster, first time I've used the forums

Do you suffer from memory loss?

I think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When folk realise that this is a swinging site and not a fuck site, life would be calmer and more swinging would happen!

This

I send two cock pics and a quick 'hey babe, fancy a fuck sometime"..

I get 10-15 replies a week..

Course you do lol"

I think he was taking the piss out of the OP.

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

It was the first day I posted on a forum. Show me one from a day before.

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

I have posted on one day, the day I posted was the first. I made a mistake not realising the etiquette and then get impolite shit. Give then expect it. What's this 12 others and viv stuff?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have posted on one day, the day I posted was the first. I made a mistake not realising the etiquette and then get impolite shit. Give then expect it. What's this 12 others and viv stuff?"

You posted “up with toothache” over a year ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It was the first day I posted on a forum. Show me one from a day before. "

Do you know the function of the green arrow?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have posted on one day, the day I posted was the first. I made a mistake not realising the etiquette and then get impolite shit. Give then expect it. What's this 12 others and viv stuff?"

When people try and double down, makes the forums much more enjoyable

, can't wait for the reply!!!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have posted on one day, the day I posted was the first. I made a mistake not realising the etiquette and then get impolite shit. Give then expect it. What's this 12 others and viv stuff?"

See that little green arrow by your name? Hit that and you'll see all your posts you've ever started or commented on.

Why are you so angry OP?

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"I have posted on one day, the day I posted was the first. I made a mistake not realising the etiquette and then get impolite shit. Give then expect it. What's this 12 others and viv stuff?"

The green arrow will take you (and us) to the last 35 threads you've posted on. In your case, it's now 14, including this one.

It demonstrates that "I've never posted on the forums before" was an untruth.

This "Viv" stuff is the person who replied to you, signing their name.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah got you, that makes sense. Sorry to original poster, first time I've used the forums

Apart from the 12 other threads you've posted on, one of which you yourself started, asking for advice.........

Winston

And going back over a year ago as well

Viv

The arrow of truth strikes again.

Winston"

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By *ustfun009Man
over a year ago

oxford

Most of us blokes are in the same boat....too many of us and not enough genuine ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This "Viv" stuff is the person who replied to you, signing their name.

Winston "

Thank you Winston

Viv

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Most of us blokes are in the same boat....too many of us and not enough genuine ladies

What does a genuine lady look like? Do you mean a woman who will fuck anyone that asks (including you) or are you talking about the huge amount of men so desperate that they pretend to be women or part of a couple just to get laid?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We've had a pandemic, restrictions active etc

Single men are in abundance.

Some people don't sell themselves well or are less well matched to many than others.

Profiles are usually the wear point to focus effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of us blokes are in the same boat....too many of us and not enough genuine ladies

I've noticed this. The ones who complain about the lack of "genuine" women are normally the ones who think we're just here to service them, pander to them and be the good little lady. They also tend to be the ones who want to put in minimal effort for maximum rewards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of us blokes are in the same boat....too many of us and not enough genuine ladies

I’m genuinely intrigued as to what you mean by “genuine ladies” ?

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By *risxbrisxMan
over a year ago

Bristol

There are heaps of amazing genuine ladies and couples here but if a dude comes across entitled/weird/salty/disrespectful etc they will get no where.

Competition is high - rather moaning one should embrace it and be the best version of ones self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just seen this thread, and while at least the OP has listened to the advice given, it is also the downside of FAB.

Not having seen the thread originally, OP it seems used to have that he was cheating, or looking for cheating wife's, advice seems to be he was narrowing his pool by stating so.

Looking at his profile now, that has been deleted. He is still the same guy as he was before, but after "advice" on here, anyone checking out his profile wouldn't know.

Maybe people should have a think before offering "advice", or commenting how to improve a profile

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"So I’ve been here for just over a year and can’t even get a message back off a women

So seriously where am I going wrong

I’m polite

Discreet

Hygienic

Tall

Well built

Decently hung

Up for most things

I also travel a lot with work so I’m always in different areas "

Assuming you've updated your profile (given how many called your opening bio crass), you just need to hang in there man and the socials and meets will come. You've got everything going for you. Good body and definitely the right size. Some of us are having to get surgery to get that size, so just be glad you have it already

Guys are pretty outnumbered on here, so try to stand out as much as possible and keep trying, you'll get there

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"So I’ve been here for just over a year and can’t even get a message back off a women

So seriously where am I going wrong

I’m polite

Discreet

Hygienic

Tall

Well built

Decently hung

Up for most things

I also travel a lot with work so I’m always in different areas "

There is nothing on your profile to tell us who you are..so your just another guy with the attributes that all the other guys say they have.

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"So I’ve been here for just over a year and can’t even get a message back off a women

So seriously where am I going wrong

I’m polite

Discreet

Hygienic

Tall

Well built

Decently hung

Up for most things

I also travel a lot with work so I’m always in different areas

There is nothing on your profile to tell us who you are..so your just another guy with the attributes that all the other guys say they have."

Not all of us are hung or well built to be fair. He has certain advantages for couples looking for that type of thing, and they'll find him. His profile doesn't need to say anything for that

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