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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

the better half is happy to chat on meets or at clubs but is shy and finds it difficult to talk on the site. Anyone else relate to this?

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

My man is an introvert so is quiet in large groups but happy chatting 121 or on here from our couples account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, one of my exes was like this. It’s perfectly normal.

Everyone is different… not all are going to ‘jump in’ straight away.

Funny thing is that the ex I mentioned was more than eager when we went dogging…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a meet or in a club my wife doesn’t shut up but she has no interest in chatting to anyone on here or using fab at all for that matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Im the opposite

Im chatty here but 121 I can be very one word answers, especially if people are full on /in your face

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"On a meet or in a club my wife doesn’t shut up but she has no interest in chatting to anyone on here or using fab at all for that matter."

I think you must be married to my wife

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yeah I just cba to chat online, I find it dreadful

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"the better half is happy to chat on meets or at clubs but is shy and finds it difficult to talk on the site. Anyone else relate to this?"

Hey...fem here. I can be like this when people message us. I find it can be quite awkward as there is only so much you can say to someone on here via msgs as you know nothing about the person your talking to.

We don't entertaine men who clearly want want material and instigate sex talk...its cringy and just not for us...I wouldn't worry about it. I'm far more open when face to face with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dora hardly ever messages or chats on Fab.

I think she’s still a bit nervous that I’ll be upset if she tells some guy she wants to fuck him.

Bizarre.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My eifes doesnt want anything to do with fab or any say eho we meet. Suits out mild dom sub marriage.

But wish she would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes the same Lexi is not a big talk on fab .but ones we meet up with people you can't stop her lol some people do think it's weird that we are not both on all the time ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread has explained a bit to me, because I start talking to couples or single women and then it suddenly dies out and I was previously wouldn't do it. Was me or something I say as I don't instigate sex talk as I prefer to let the lady leave but I was thinking maybe it was because I was too non-sexual centred maybe?

Does anybody else have a problem with chats dying out before any meet?

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

Same as us I do all talking on fab and media but in real life shy quiet , when getting to know someone easier . Mrs enjoys face to face chat than online

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By *ide-and-seekCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Mr normally does a lot of the chatting online with constant feedback to the lovely Mrs. However in the clubs Mrs talks a lot more.

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

I think we all have our favourite media and situation in which to chat to people. It’s usually associated with where we are most confident, competent and have had past success (however we define it).

I used to be great on the phone and a gibbering, embarrassed mess face to face. I suspect 5 years in telephone sales was the culprit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for the advice really opened my perspective on this. Also helps her to hear there are others like this to.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We generally just find interaction far more easier in the real world.

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Me, oh god my chat messages are so awkward. Get me face to face & i love to have a laugh & chat but typing. Nope cant get the right words out lol

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"the better half is happy to chat on meets or at clubs but is shy and finds it difficult to talk on the site. Anyone else relate to this?"

Cherry hates the sea of timewasters on here and tiny keyboard on her phone so rarely messages others unless things are looking VERY good. She'll then sometimes have a phone chat pre meeting but MUCH prefers face to face. Hence I'm left to do most of the finger work and fantasist filtering

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London


"the better half is happy to chat on meets or at clubs but is shy and finds it difficult to talk on the site. Anyone else relate to this?"

Your photos are private. Make them public so that people can "Fab" them. Always gives anyone a boost. Jus look at all those in the Most Fabbed list. There are some weekly regulars there. Why do they do it so prolifically? Because they love the attention. That's what your missus needs to uplift her confidence.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Hubbs is really sociable and funny when meeting anyone face to face. But he's doesn't like the Internet and hates Fab. Funnily on the other site we are on he is always the one who suggests let's go on cam, or as he calls it.. "put the satnav on" xxxxx Suzi

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)


"the better half is happy to chat on meets or at clubs but is shy and finds it difficult to talk on the site. Anyone else relate to this?

Your photos are private. Make them public so that people can "Fab" them. Always gives anyone a boost. Jus look at all those in the Most Fabbed list. There are some weekly regulars there. Why do they do it so prolifically? Because they love the attention. That's what your missus needs to uplift her confidence."

If they want to set their pics to private that is their perogative. They have the option to use this site and swing in whichever way pleases and is comfortable for them. xxxxx Suzi

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By *exymarvelMan
over a year ago

cardiff


"the better half is happy to chat on meets or at clubs but is shy and finds it difficult to talk on the site. Anyone else relate to this?"

Maybe its due to being able to relax nerves in a group of likeminded people face to face, but 121 over this site theres no personalty or social signs to help relax, its all just text. Its alot harder to read if you would click. And to be fair theres alot of desperate guys on here.

Just my thoughts

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London


"the better half is happy to chat on meets or at clubs but is shy and finds it difficult to talk on the site. Anyone else relate to this?

Your photos are private. Make them public so that people can "Fab" them. Always gives anyone a boost. Jus look at all those in the Most Fabbed list. There are some weekly regulars there. Why do they do it so prolifically? Because they love the attention. That's what your missus needs to uplift her confidence.

If they want to set their pics to private that is their perogative. They have the option to use this site and swing in whichever way pleases and is comfortable for them. xxxxx Suzi"

I know Suzi. I don't disagree with that. I'm just making a suggestion as a possible solution to the problem OP has posted. It's not a criticism or even an observation.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)


"the better half is happy to chat on meets or at clubs but is shy and finds it difficult to talk on the site. Anyone else relate to this?

Your photos are private. Make them public so that people can "Fab" them. Always gives anyone a boost. Jus look at all those in the Most Fabbed list. There are some weekly regulars there. Why do they do it so prolifically? Because they love the attention. That's what your missus needs to uplift her confidence.

If they want to set their pics to private that is their perogative. They have the option to use this site and swing in whichever way pleases and is comfortable for them. xxxxx Suzi

I know Suzi. I don't disagree with that. I'm just making a suggestion as a possible solution to the problem OP has posted. It's not a criticism or even an observation."

xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the opposite

Hate meeting new people and small talk

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"the better half is happy to chat on meets or at clubs but is shy and finds it difficult to talk on the site. Anyone else relate to this?"

My wife is not a fan of chatting online leaving it to.me where possible.

In the flesh is a different story.

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

It's a lot harder to talk through messages as you can't express tone, facial expressions or body language as easily as you can face to face so how you intend something to come across doesn't necessarily translate in words. xT

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"It's a lot harder to talk through messages as you can't express tone, facial expressions or body language as easily as you can face to face so how you intend something to come across doesn't necessarily translate in words. xT "

Absolutely !, things can easily be misread too and lead to disaster. Just one reason why we like a social as soon as possible after swapping face pics x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met several guys who have been great on messaging then just clam up when we meet..it's been awkward..

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By *otBrunetteHimCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Same here mrs is a social butterfly, but lost all interest in messaging on fab after a few accounts were fakes or time wasters

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands


"On a meet or in a club my wife doesn’t shut up but she has no interest in chatting to anyone on here or using fab at all for that matter."

Exactly this, wife chats to everyone in clubs but cannot be bothered with fab, hence I do all the 'fabmin', although it can be quite draining at times!!

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