FabSwingers.com forum: Profile help

By *inkyk1000 OP Man
over a year ago

bournemouth

Hi all hope your all well.. im in a pickle something is eaither wrong with me or my profile or the way i message people... i get no replys what so ever and i allways message saying little things like (hey hows your day going) im not sure how im ment to start a convo if people dont reply to that... any help or advice would be very greatfull xx

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you have been messaging "hey hows your day going" for over a year and not had any replies, maybe you should consider using a different opening message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your approach. “Hey how’s your day” is so uninteresting. Imagine someone getting multiple messages a day similar to that, why would she reply to you? What stands out from the rest?

That’s what you need to think about.

Best way is to make your profile the best it can be.

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By *inkyk1000 OP Man
over a year ago

bournemouth

I do try saying differnt things i guise but i dont want to come across werid or rude cheers for the advice tho

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Have you considered more public pics ?

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

You only want to meet couples so that narrows it down.

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By *inkyk1000 OP Man
over a year ago

bournemouth

Um it shouldnt do ive ticked couples and females also in my bio it says couples and single females?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We would advise you pay a compliment or two. Show you've read their profile by commenting on it. We would never reply to a message like you're sending. We only actually reply to about 5% of messages from couples, and when our filter is off less than 1% from single guys, reasons being they've not read our profile or we're not compatible.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Um it shouldnt do ive ticked couples and females also in my bio it says couples and single females? "

Im purely here to explore couples

It’s quite clear on your profile

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Um it shouldnt do ive ticked couples and females also in my bio it says couples and single females? "

Your bio says "I'm purely here to explore couples"

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Sorry for the repetition !

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By *inkyk1000 OP Man
over a year ago

bournemouth

Ok missed out the word females in that sentence and worded correctly but other parts of profile states single females as well all been fixed i hope thanks for pointing out and thanks for the advice everyone

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

OP....we are a pretty average couple and get a LOT of one line messages asking how our day's been, or what we're up to. We generally delete them for a number of reasons:

1. It actually says in our profile that we will, so anyone sending one obviously hasn't read what we're about.

2. If we answered them all and each one took a minute, that'd be about half an hour each day. Over half a day each week. Guys look at their own empty inbox and forget that couples and single women get a load more messages.

3. I got divorced four years ago, lost my job due to a heart condition and have no property, no pension and a minimum wage job. Char had cancer, went through chemo and now suffers from constant pain and fatigue. We generally aren't doing anything except getting through day to day, and most of our days are pretty dull. We simply don't know how to answer these kinds of questions.

Our advice: read profiles and send messages only to those where you meet what they are asking for, and always reference a couple of things in their profile to show you've read it. Ask questions about the things in their profile or their photos - people will be happier talking about that stuff.

And get yourself more pics. Sone clothed, one tasteful dick pic, and think about sending a face pic with your first message.

Overall....be realistic. We get ten offers each day, so 300 each month. We meet no more than once per week (often less...just once so far this year) and half of those are with guys we already know. So we only need two or three new guys each month. So only 1%.

(Bry)

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By *inkyk1000 OP Man
over a year ago

bournemouth

Cheers for that bry ill keep that in mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have already said OP, more pics needed, especially on a profile that’s been active for over a year.

Also you can’t accommodate, that can be a red flag for some as it can be an indication of having a significant other.

Viv

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We get lots of messages asking that very same question also any plans and of course the standard fancy some fun all of them fail to get a reply but it is hard going on here for the Single Males ! and as someone has suggested read the profile ( actually read it) as we put a complete and utter bollocks one up ( was a recipe for bread and butter pudding)and the surprising number of males who loved our profile and had read it ?? now to be fair afew might be fans of the pudding but ??

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Cheers for that bry ill keep that in mind "

Op if you use + quote ont the right others will understand that you are replying to them

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By *ndyn50000Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Your opening message is really the main thing. You want to stand out from the rest of the dross, one liners and other obscene messages that clog up the unfortunate couples/single ladies inboxes.

So, read their profile and check you match what they are after. Put some thought into your message to show that you've read the profile. Put as much humour in as you can and thoughtful genuine compliments (writing nice tits/arse/etc does not count as a thoughtful compliment). And finally, don't bother mentioning sex, how great you are in the bedroom or the size of your cock...they will have heard that from every other male on here.

Good luck OP

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