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By *hooter2482 OP   Man
over a year ago

Torquay

How do you approach your wife if 30 years who is pretty vanilla about swinging I know she has possibly thought about it very briefly but would never talk about help required

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Show her your verifications and tell her you think it's only fair she has fun as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just speak to her, does she know your on here? If so show her around

Mrs

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Assuming that you both communicate about your honest needs and desires, it's just about doing more of that.

Your ideas may be different from hers, so it may nor be of interest.

But at least you will both understand each other better and what you both want to do differently

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If your wife is unaware of your profile on here... you don't have a suitable relationship for swinging, in my opinion.

Swinging requires communication, a strong relationship and honesty.

If she is aware, you shouldn't need to ask for advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carlos would send a text, that way she can't hit him.

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

well youve had 11 veries and your only just thinking about your wife, the one you dont mention in your profile, your not a swinger, your a cheater end of

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"well youve had 11 veries and your only just thinking about your wife, the one you dont mention in your profile, your not a swinger, your a cheater end of"

This

*and so many of the others too.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire


"How do you approach your wife if 30 years who is pretty vanilla about swinging I know she has possibly thought about it very briefly but would never talk about help required

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Talk about fantasies etc then tell her you've found a site....thats what hubby did

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By *uyfromthemidlandsMan
over a year ago

derby

Be honest?

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"well youve had 11 veries and your only just thinking about your wife, the one you dont mention in your profile, your not a swinger, your a cheater end of"

Spot on.

Your status says that you can accommodate for the next few hours.

Is that while your wife is out?

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent


"well youve had 11 veries and your only just thinking about your wife, the one you dont mention in your profile, your not a swinger, your a cheater end of"

THIS!

C x

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

[Removed by poster at 21/02/22 09:17:37]

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How do you approach your wife if 30 years who is pretty vanilla about swinging I know she has possibly thought about it very briefly but would never talk about help required

"

If she would never talk about it I think you're going to have a difficult job on your hands. Maybe work on helping her open up to express her sexual fantasies and go from there.

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By *hooter2482 OP   Man
over a year ago

Torquay

Well thanks for those tips some of you

However I can get a rollocking anytime I like without getting it from here lol blimey there are some righteous folk in here

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well thanks for those tips some of you

However I can get a rollocking anytime I like without getting it from here lol blimey there are some righteous folk in here

"

I think you were optimistic if you expected 100% helpful replies. I think the only place you can be as open as you have and get non judgemental responses will be at a counselling session.

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By *illloganMan
over a year ago

Essex


"Show her your verifications and tell her you think it's only fair she has fun as well."

crying!

To be honest OP... They're right. You need to delete this profile and lie to her and say you've just found this site, fancy joining up... I feel if you're honest with her at this point, you're relationship is done...maybe that's a good thing in the long term

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By *illloganMan
over a year ago

Essex

Just saw your status as well, you're accommodating at your home until she gets home presumably?

Just let her find you with another woman at this point!

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"How do you approach your wife if 30 years who is pretty vanilla about swinging I know she has possibly thought about it very briefly but would never talk about help required

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Well if she isn't interested maybe you should respect that. Just an idea! Swinging isn't for everyone.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"well youve had 11 veries and your only just thinking about your wife, the one you dont mention in your profile, your not a swinger, your a cheater end of"

Couldn't of said it better myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a man who has went of the rails and used all manner of social media to be a scumbag in the past, be honest about what you want do not tell her anything that will hurt her, try sex talk ect push a little and get a cross who and what you need and want but respect her she is still with you for a reason.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"Well thanks for those tips some of you

However I can get a rollocking anytime I like without getting it from here lol blimey there are some righteous folk in here

"

oh, we’re not be done until you stop digging.…

You seem to think that because we like to include others within our sex lives, we must somehow be devoid of morals or at least, more accepting of those who are? For the staggeringly cast majority, you could not be further from the truth. We do everything with the consent of everyone involved - 1st and foremost, our partner’s.

*disassembles soapbox and get bus home for a loverly cup of tea

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"Well thanks for those tips some of you

However I can get a rollocking anytime I like without getting it from here lol blimey there are some righteous folk in here

"

Righteous folk?

Nothing righteous about being honest and respectful OP.

Neither of which you show your wife.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Well thanks for those tips some of you

However I can get a rollocking anytime I like without getting it from here lol blimey there are some righteous folk in here

Righteous folk?

Nothing righteous about being honest and respectful OP.

Neither of which you show your wife."

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP but anyone who is not only cheating on their partner but does it in the marital home as well......just the lowest of the low.

Don't ask for advice if you're not going to like what you hear.

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By *J and CBCouple
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"well youve had 11 veries and your only just thinking about your wife, the one you dont mention in your profile, your not a swinger, your a cheater end of"

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cue all the denouncers re 'cheating'

When did Fab get so uptight?

He's asking for advice for goodness sake !

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By *andy and DannyCouple
over a year ago

Barnstaple


"Carlos would send a text, that way she can't hit him."
lol

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I predict carnage

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"How do you approach your wife if 30 years who is pretty vanilla about swinging I know she has possibly thought about it very briefly but would never talk about help required

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Have you approached your wife yet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

communication is key .... talk about your fantasies together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can anyone else smell burning?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So it’s now 39 weeks since the OP started this thread.

I’m guessing he never did get around to having that conversation with his wife!

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester


"How do you approach your wife if 30 years who is pretty vanilla about swinging I know she has possibly thought about it very briefly but would never talk about help required

Have you approached your wife yet ?"
He telephoned her straight after your message cmon be patient

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By *leasure and PassionMan
over a year ago

london

Lol

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

It's a bit hard to post when you are buried under the patio!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a bit hard to post when you are buried under the patio!"

This made me laugh so much!

Have to admit to checking the OP’s profile though to see if he’d been on line recently!

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