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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just try to get help on trying to get some meets I always speak nice and respectful with pepole I am a genuine person not bad looking I would like to think! The problem I have is people promise to meet and then disappear it’s crazy i thinking is it real!!! as I’ve lost so much time trying to even just to meet for a chat to get some verifications what am I doing wrong or is there an easier way to get meets i very open minded to do whatever it is makes people happy but just not working for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about going to a club or socials?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Ever thought about adding few pictures but cropped.you might find it difficult when you have no pictures displayed people like to see whom they might be interested in. Adding your phone number is wrong for many reasons.its desperation

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

People will look at your profile before deciding to respond to you. Imagine looking at your profile from an outside perspective…there’s nothing to go how you look, which is key. Not even 1 pic. Think of the thousands of other profiles on here that do well as they have a good profile. Also clubs and organised socials are the places to be. X

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

You've only been on the site for 2 months. It takes time, especially as the country emerges from a pandemic.

Pre-Covid, it could take a year to be noticed but now, it will take longer, as there's so much male competition.

Heed the suggestions so far. Get pics up on your profile.

The content in your profile needs to show what you can bring to a meet AND what you expect too.

TIP. Whatever you have written in both your first entry in this post AND in your profile, is one very very long sentence, with words running into each other, little punctuation in places, some spelling errors etc.

If you are able to correct that, do so, as it all adds kudos to how you present yourself.

It does work. Good Luck.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Op you posted exactly the same not so long ago I think it was few posts and seems you still didn't take any information on board.

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By *heirry84Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Keep at it mate. Don't be sensitive about it either, you're probably doing nothing wrong. In my experience, profile pics make no difference. Make sure you have pics to send with your first message and read their profile to find out what they'relooking for. It is a bit of a numbers game and timing is key. Women literally get thousands of messages because of the uneven ratio. So you have to be offering something they want at that very time.

Also, as stated before, socials and clubs are good. I've met a few girls in a club that have pretty much threw themselves at me. Only to find out later that I had messaged them on here previously and been ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many guys make competition high. With a site that is free to sign up to its always going to be a Bit of a lottery.

Socials and clubs are your best bet, good luck.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Keep at it mate. Don't be sensitive about it either, you're probably doing nothing wrong. In my experience, profile pics make no difference. Make sure you have pics to send with your first message and read their profile to find out what they'relooking for. It is a bit of a numbers game and timing is key. Women literally get thousands of messages because of the uneven ratio. So you have to be offering something they want at that very time.

Also, as stated before, socials and clubs are good. I've met a few girls in a club that have pretty much threw themselves at me. Only to find out later that I had messaged them on here previously and been ignored. "

Why have you no verifications from these ladies who have thrown them selves at you in a club?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Keep at it mate. Don't be sensitive about it either, you're probably doing nothing wrong. In my experience, profile pics make no difference. Make sure you have pics to send with your first message and read their profile to find out what they'relooking for. It is a bit of a numbers game and timing is key. Women literally get thousands of messages because of the uneven ratio. So you have to be offering something they want at that very time.

Also, as stated before, socials and clubs are good. I've met a few girls in a club that have pretty much threw themselves at me. Only to find out later that I had messaged them on here previously and been ignored.

Why have you no verifications from these ladies who have thrown them selves at you in a club?"

it's nice to be creative

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for the advice it’s been very helpful

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Looking at your profile I would not be interested at all.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"I will send photo upon request..."

Why will anyone request a photo, when there are hundreds if other guys that already show them and send them in their first message? You'll not get anywhere by making women and couples ask for pictures and information - they don't need to when they have it thrown at them all the time.

(Bry)

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"I just try to get help on trying to get some meets I always speak nice and respectful with pepole I am a genuine person not bad looking I would like to think! The problem I have is people promise to meet and then disappear it’s crazy i thinking is it real!!! as I’ve lost so much time trying to even just to meet for a chat to get some verifications what am I doing wrong or is there an easier way to get meets i very open minded to do whatever it is makes people happy but just not working for me lol "

What do you mean by being a family man?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

As others said, your profile won't appeal to many as you have no pics at all. I delete messages from shadows,everipne can add a pic.

It also seems you're here behind a partners back, which will make it harder as not all will meet someone cheating.

As suggested try a club or an organised social.

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By *heirry84Man
over a year ago

Midlands


"Keep at it mate. Don't be sensitive about it either, you're probably doing nothing wrong. In my experience, profile pics make no difference. Make sure you have pics to send with your first message and read their profile to find out what they'relooking for. It is a bit of a numbers game and timing is key. Women literally get thousands of messages because of the uneven ratio. So you have to be offering something they want at that very time.

Also, as stated before, socials and clubs are good. I've met a few girls in a club that have pretty much threw themselves at me. Only to find out later that I had messaged them on here previously and been ignored.

Why have you no verifications from these ladies who have thrown them selves at you in a club?"

Was on a previous profile. Plus I don't think they did verify me but I had verifications from other meets

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Adding some photos will definitely help, many people myself included won't even look at the profile of someone with no photo, even if they send them in messages - if you get a lot of messages it's just an easy filter/timesaver

The photos don't need to be identifying, head can be cropped, the can be clothed etc just something to give an idea of what you look like

Also unfortunately for you, many won't meet attached guys even with your partners permission (my husbands on here and struggles even though it's fine me seeking extra fun)

Maybe try clubs or locally advertised social events, it's much easier meeting people face to face

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock


"Keep at it mate. Don't be sensitive about it either, you're probably doing nothing wrong. In my experience, profile pics make no difference. Make sure you have pics to send with your first message and read their profile to find out what they'relooking for. It is a bit of a numbers game and timing is key. Women literally get thousands of messages because of the uneven ratio. So you have to be offering something they want at that very time.

Also, as stated before, socials and clubs are good. I've met a few girls in a club that have pretty much threw themselves at me. Only to find out later that I had messaged them on here previously and been ignored.

Why have you no verifications from these ladies who have thrown them selves at you in a club?"

Maybe they were to busy having fun to go and get their phones & verify each other

I don't verify people I've met at clubs, in fact in 6 years I've only had fab mentioned to me about 3x in a club

That said I've also never seen women throw themselves at single guys in clubs but I guess it could happen

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