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By *risxbrisx OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Happy Saturday fab, so far in my life I have only ever met/played with single ladies 1 on 1. Got a couple who want to meet me, the wife is hot and guy seems sound.

Gonna do a social first and then take it from there, the wife wants to call the shots, apparently it is new for them too as a couple but they have had threesomes in previous relationships. They're both around 10 years older and Bi, I'm straight, any words of wisdom for first time w/ a couple?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't compromise your own boundaries, ensure you're given the same respect that they ask of you, relax and enjoy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also unless it's your thing run away if you get any hint of them just using you as an accessory

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Make sure you respect them both and not the just the female half.

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By *risxbrisx OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"Make sure you respect them both and not the just the female half.

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Ofcourse

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Ther'es a good chance you may have already discussed their bi preferences but if not you maybe should even before the meet, you may in fact be curious and they are willing to go with that and just see what happens and not push the issue if you don't feel comfortable. Apart from that you may in fact find you are less nervous than meeting a single female, they can be very intimidating in comparison. After meeting couples and singles I am now more convinced couples are more serious, comunicate much better and less likely to play mind games, they have a plan for you and what they want from you and if you like that plan simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with the flow, dont over think and set boundries before the meet.

Hope you have fun

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By *illloganMan
over a year ago

Essex

I remember my first couples meet, exactly the same situation as yours, the husband was bi.

But we discussed boundaries before hand, we all had a great time and I was invited back a handful more times, each one better than the last

You're going to have a wicked time, don't over think it, go with the flow

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I think the answers above are spot on - make sure you know where your personal boundaries are and that you keep to them. Don’t over think it, go with the flow and just be the normal person you usually are.

Have fun - joining a couple is great fun!

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By *orkcoastguyMan
over a year ago

Bridlington.

Be very clear as to both their and your boundaries before meeting.

There is nothing worse than inadvertantly doing something that turns out to be a 'no no' and breaking the mood of the moment.

I find that with the agenda clear, getting down to sex straight away avoids that 'when do we start' awkwardness. There is plenty of time for talk afterwards.

They are not meeting you for your charm nor your life story. You are essentially an extension to their lovemaking, nothing more!

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By *risxbrisx OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Thanks for the responses and the solid advice you're all legends!

I will update on how it goes

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Be very clear as to both their and your boundaries before meeting.

There is nothing worse than inadvertantly doing something that turns out to be a 'no no' and breaking the mood of the moment.

I find that with the agenda clear, getting down to sex straight away avoids that 'when do we start' awkwardness. There is plenty of time for talk afterwards.

They are not meeting you for your charm nor your life story. You are essentially an extension to their lovemaking, nothing more! "

Oh lord! I hope we've never made a single guy feel like that!

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