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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all. I recognise that the answer might be obvious, but I've always wanted to try out the swinger scene and would like some advice/guidance.

I am a gay male who enjoys watching people have sex. I would participate if a fluffer was needed. I've never been to an orgy or with a woman, but I'm seriously open to it.

Perhaps my profile is also too demanding.

So essentially, what advice would you give me for attending a swingers party.

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

Rather than standing there staring at the woman make a good conversation with the couple

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rather than standing there staring at the woman make a good conversation with the couple "

I should have said, i am looking for consensual fun, so i would ask the persons if i could watch them have sex. The last thing i want is to make anyone uncomfortable.

but is there a stigma of having a gay man present at a swingers party? i appreciate the lifestyle and want to get involved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rather than standing there staring at the woman make a good conversation with the couple "

I should have said, i am looking for consensual fun, so i would ask the persons if i could watch them have sex. The last thing i want is to make anyone uncomfortable.

but is there a stigma of having a gay man present at a swingers party? i appreciate the lifestyle and want to get involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t speak for everyone but my experiences of swingers parties. The ones I went to were a close group of friends, with one or two new people but were a mutual friend of someone’s or known.

In my opinion you’d probably be best of going to a club and there is no stigma there with rooms that allow you to watch…

Swingers parties can be hard to come by especially as a single male.

Good luck anyway

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

You would be better going to a club, where you can watch without any involvement. There are bi nights which may interest you.

Top tip is be friendly and chat to lots of people early in the evening and then when people move to the play areas, some will recognise you as the pleasant chap that met earlier and you may be invited to join in.

The fact you are gay will probably not appear to some people, but will be a draw for others. But attending a club gives you chance for people to get to know you and will be a lot easier than sending individual messages to loads of people.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


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So essentially, what advice would you give me for attending a swingers party. "

I think it would be far easier for you to watch people having sex in a club than getting a party invitation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can’t speak for everyone but my experiences of swingers parties. The ones I went to were a close group of friends, with one or two new people but were a mutual friend of someone’s or known.

In my opinion you’d probably be best of going to a club and there is no stigma there with rooms that allow you to watch…

Swingers parties can be hard to come by especially as a single male.

Good luck anyway "

That's great advice. Thank you. Do you know of any clubs near me or where I would search for them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great advice. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You would be better going to a club, where you can watch without any involvement. There are bi nights which may interest you.

Top tip is be friendly and chat to lots of people early in the evening and then when people move to the play areas, some will recognise you as the pleasant chap that met earlier and you may be invited to join in.

The fact you are gay will probably not appear to some people, but will be a draw for others. But attending a club gives you chance for people to get to know you and will be a lot easier than sending individual messages to loads of people. "

I appreciate your response. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t speak for everyone but my experiences of swingers parties. The ones I went to were a close group of friends, with one or two new people but were a mutual friend of someone’s or known.

In my opinion you’d probably be best of going to a club and there is no stigma there with rooms that allow you to watch…

Swingers parties can be hard to come by especially as a single male.

Good luck anyway

That's great advice. Thank you. Do you know of any clubs near me or where I would search for them? "

Check the club reviews section on the home page

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