FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been on here a couple of months now and have not come a cross many people who are willing to give you the time of day! What am I doing wrong and how do I fix it? Thanks

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By *ORNEY PLM LADMan
over a year ago

plymouth

just b yourself an

dnot worry about

and b nice when u messge someone

the are lot of time waster on here

but there some genuie one to

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Your a man that's what's wrong!! Unfortunately for you there are so many males on here that are total wankers it makes some of us very cynical

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Your profile tells me very little about you. Why should I bother asking when many other men have stuff I need to know on their profile?

Unfortunately it's a numbers game. There are a lot of men seeking the attention of few couples and females. You need to do something to stand out.

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By *witch mix vanillaCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"I have been on here a couple of months now and have not come a cross many people who are willing to give you the time of day! What am I doing wrong and how do I fix it? Thanks"

5 weeks is a couple of months?

Nothing on your profile, cannot accommodate?

What were you expecting on this site?

To meet within a week.....

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire

"5 weeks is a couple of months?

Nothing on your profile, cannot accommodate?

What were you expecting on this site?

To meet within a week....."

Don't let rude people like this put you off. Expand your profile, add some more pics and just be yourself is the best advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most guys use their right hand and pics from the site.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile tells me very little about you. Why should I bother asking when many other men have stuff I need to know on their profile?

Unfortunately it's a numbers game. There are a lot of men seeking the attention of few couples and females. You need to do something to stand out. "

This is correct, it's all about percentages, you just need to make yourself sound more interesting than most and you've already improved your odds tenfold at least.

Also, fortune favours the brave so don't be afraid to be bold in the bollocks you come out with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been on here a couple of months now and have not come a cross many people who are willing to give you the time of day! What am I doing wrong and how do I fix it? Thanks

5 weeks is a couple of months?

Nothing on your profile, cannot accommodate?

What were you expecting on this site?

To meet within a week....."

Should the poor sod have instead said: "I've been here 2.25 months"

For Christ's sake pick on him for something he has done and not being quite accurate about a date.

How accurate does he have to get? Weeks? Days? Hours? Minutes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been on here a couple of months now and have not come a cross many people who are willing to give you the time of day! What am I doing wrong and how do I fix it? Thanks

5 weeks is a couple of months?

Nothing on your profile, cannot accommodate?

What were you expecting on this site?

To meet within a week.....

Should the poor sod have instead said: "I've been here 2.25 months"

For Christ's sake pick on him for something he has done and not being quite accurate about a date.

How accurate does he have to get? Weeks? Days? Hours? Minutes?"
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On the third stroke, it will be.................shit too late, has anybody got a tissue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheer up mate, in my honest, but worthless opinion, you are missing a trick. Perhaps the real joy of this site is the opinions of other users, be they generous, deriding, or so far up their own backsides that breathing must be a problem... It may also be that it is a great distraction from the fact that I rarely get laid.

As I said, worthless. Good luck, and have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expanding your profile and adding some public pics would help as its really difficult to get a feel of what you're looking for, what you can offer and what you look like from your profile as it currently stands. Not being to accomodate won't go in your favour. search forum threads for profile advice as there's loads of good advice there. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others have said, put a few more pertinent points in your profile (people would rather read what they need to know rather than have to send a message to you to ask), add some decent quality pics (including a face pic, or at least have one you can send) and that will improve your chances no end.

Be patient, utilise the law of averages and send many messages, look a little further afield if you're prepared to travel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP take the advice from Marquis and I. We are both successful.

1 - Single males are plentiful, couples seeking single males & single fems seeking single males are not. Do a search on browse for your area and count them. Exclude those who have not been on for a month. Now do the same for single males seeking F & MF! See what I mean.

2 - your profile pic is not much cop and not very flattering. You need a better one but not a cock pic.

3 - Its a swingers site not an escort site you need to be patient.

4 - You need more content in your profile. It does not have to be an essay, but have to sell yourself, why should they meet you rather than the other handsome stud? Remember to use good English and grammar. Type it into Word, spell check and grammar check it (in UK English not US English) then cut and paste.

5 - Your age - a lot of older women on here do not want to play with younger men. There are a few who do but there has to be an attraction. Again its down to numbers.

6 - You cannot accomodate that will put a many off I am afraid.

7 - Make sure your messages are not crude one liners full of text speak.

8 - Have you considered going to socials or clubs? Remember though neither are about instant shags. Search the forums on etiquette. Bugger cannot remember how to spell it! See 4 above!

9 - Finally be patient and remember this is not an instant shag site.

10 - good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the man above-well said!

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By *nH_HertsMan
over a year ago

Weymouth

I met my partner on a dating site.

Many guys had sent her messages but they were all the same she said. My profile stood out because it made her laugh and we have been together for 10 years, married for 6.

Make em' laugh I say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I met my partner on a dating site.

Many guys had sent her messages but they were all the same she said. My profile stood out because it made her laugh and we have been together for 10 years, married for 6.

Make em' laugh I say. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't beat yourself up mate.

I've yet to have a meet on here, I nearly did but she expected me to drop everything and go straight away! Which I couldn't!

I've had loads of knock backs from people on here. But that's normal because as in any pub or club there are always stuck up, rude people!

I think there are quite a few on here.

I am sure I'll meet someone one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like none of our advice was taken on board.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is all about timing... the unreachable becomes reachable, the unavailable become available, the unattainable... attainable. Have the patience, wait it out It's all about timing.”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep trying. Be patient and be honest, and funny. My profile isn't very good but I have met through the site. It can be hard ( or not ) lol but persevere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no idea what you're doing wrong OP since I can't see how you're approaching women. However, 99.9% of the messages I get here are from men who sound like they have an IQ of around 50 and come across as 'any hole is a goal' types. Not very appealing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have been on here a couple of months now and have not come a cross many people who are willing to give you the time of day! What am I doing wrong and how do I fix it? Thanks"

you say that people should ask if they want to know more...the plain truth is that they won't, they don't need to because there are many more single male profiles that give all the information they require. Give a little more information about yourself and be patient. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very noticeable that when we are active on the forums. Profile gets looked at. Pic gets fabbed and we get a lot of winks etc. when we sit back and wait nothing really happens on here.

By all means improve your profile. Send great messages. But also get active on the forums. Chat rooms if you are in to them. Also socials clubs. Get known is the answer.

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