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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke

Most women dislike the idea of fucking a virgin, thought maybe for some it would be the opposite but often proved wrong time and time again, is there any women on here interested (assuming mutual attraction)? Preferably in the Midlands but I am happy to travel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Categorising yourself as a virgin and having zero other information about yourself is probably causing your issues far more than actually being a virgin.

Plus you're 19, relax, it's not now or never.

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke

I don’t have much else I can provide like most people because I haven’t explored or done anything sexually.

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By *asterandGenieCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Would say get out there and meet people but maybe not so easy with Covid but do what 19 year olds have done for ever go and have a good time.

Enjoy life have fun and if you get laid even better or try one of the normal hook up apps

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke

Any recommended app?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are 10 a penny, what can a virgin that’s likely bad at sex offer to them,

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke


"Men are 10 a penny, what can a virgin that’s likely bad at sex offer to them, "

Just come in to put me down? Pretty weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men are 10 a penny, what can a virgin that’s likely bad at sex offer to them,

Just come in to put me down? Pretty weird"

Just being honest, your in a sex site when my partner and I pick a single male to join us we go for the ones verified to have a good time with it’s bad enough on here as it is without having to hold someone me hand and teach that what goes where,

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke


"Men are 10 a penny, what can a virgin that’s likely bad at sex offer to them,

Just come in to put me down? Pretty weird

Just being honest, your in a sex site when my partner and I pick a single male to join us we go for the ones verified to have a good time with it’s bad enough on here as it is without having to hold someone me hand and teach that what goes where, "

Keep your hand to yourself mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t have much else I can provide like most people because I haven’t explored or done anything sexually."

It doesn't have to be sexual information and it's probably better if it isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate to say it, but a swingers site probably isn’t the best place to be looking to lose your virginity, especially when you’re so young.

Most of us have kids much older than you and that doesn’t sit right in our minds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t have much else I can provide like most people because I haven’t explored or done anything sexually.

It doesn't have to be sexual information and it's probably better if it isn't."

This. Build out your profile darling about you as a person. Leave sex and certainly being a virgin out completely. Find a woman attracted to you for you. At 19 it's expected you won't have that much experience, so don't worry about it. If you get a meet let her take the lead and go with the flow. Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any recommended app?"

Any of the apps including FB.

Find friendship first and see what develops from that.

If you can travel around, even better.

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By *risxbrisxMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"I don’t have much else I can provide like most people because I haven’t explored or done anything sexually.

It doesn't have to be sexual information and it's probably better if it isn't.

This. Build out your profile darling about you as a person. Leave sex and certainly being a virgin out completely. Find a woman attracted to you for you. At 19 it's expected you won't have that much experience, so don't worry about it. If you get a meet let her take the lead and go with the flow. Good luck xx"

This, and as for apps maybe download tinder? Best of luck!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I emphasise always that it's really difficult for all single men here to get established and to get meets, as it let's them set expectations accordingly. Getting 1 sexual meet may be your current emphasis but you will do wisely to think - at what cost? Male Fab starters who are swingers and very sexually experienced can have their self esteem knocked. If you truly know that you are not going to take any knocks and are willing to invest hundreds of hours here, to get to know others, then you are being realistic.

It's a smart move for everyone not to use fab as their only source of sexual partners, especially if they are male. Many very handsome, very fit men go over a year here without any meets at all.

Most men who join fab are not swinging club visitors and give up here, having failed to understand how to sell themselves enough to even get a social meetx for coffee etc. Men have to sell themselves incredibly well and others want to know how you are going to be better for them than the hundreds of other men who message them. Can you do this well enough?

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns


"I don’t have much else I can provide like most people because I haven’t explored or done anything sexually."

What about other general stuff about you as a human?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself out in bars n clubs among people of a similar age. Smile alot and have a sense of humour. Everyone was a virgin once, dont fret about it - it'll happen at the right time for you. But getting out meeting girls in pubs is prob your best bet (and likely more fun at your age).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I emphasise always that it's really difficult for all single men here to get established and to get meets, as it let's them set expectations accordingly. Getting 1 sexual meet may be your current emphasis but you will do wisely to think - at what cost? Male Fab starters who are swingers and very sexually experienced can have their self esteem knocked. If you truly know that you are not going to take any knocks and are willing to invest hundreds of hours here, to get to know others, then you are being realistic.

It's a smart move for everyone not to use fab as their only source of sexual partners, especially if they are male. Many very handsome, very fit men go over a year here without any meets at all.

Most men who join fab are not swinging club visitors and give up here, having failed to understand how to sell themselves enough to even get a social meetx for coffee etc. Men have to sell themselves incredibly well and others want to know how you are going to be better for them than the hundreds of other men who message them. Can you do this well enough? "

Well put Sophie.

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke


"I emphasise always that it's really difficult for all single men here to get established and to get meets, as it let's them set expectations accordingly. Getting 1 sexual meet may be your current emphasis but you will do wisely to think - at what cost? Male Fab starters who are swingers and very sexually experienced can have their self esteem knocked. If you truly know that you are not going to take any knocks and are willing to invest hundreds of hours here, to get to know others, then you are being realistic.

It's a smart move for everyone not to use fab as their only source of sexual partners, especially if they are male. Many very handsome, very fit men go over a year here without any meets at all.

Most men who join fab are not swinging club visitors and give up here, having failed to understand how to sell themselves enough to even get a social meetx for coffee etc. Men have to sell themselves incredibly well and others want to know how you are going to be better for them than the hundreds of other men who message them. Can you do this well enough? "

Really appreciate the suggestions/thought put into this, I guess I’d hope this wasn’t my sole source but personally feels like it’d be easier after this initial hurdle of the first time. Will try to take this on board.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Would you consider a sex worker? They might be better placed than a random person off a site.

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke


"Would you consider a sex worker? They might be better placed than a random person off a site. "

I’d rather do something with someone who wanted to be there and could get something out of it themselves, than pay someone to do it, if that makes sense.

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By *m NormalMan
over a year ago

Telford


"Would you consider a sex worker? They might be better placed than a random person off a site.

I’d rather do something with someone who wanted to be there and could get something out of it themselves, than pay someone to do it, if that makes sense."

I agree with you completely.

You want a partner that enjoys you not a performer doing it for money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you consider a sex worker? They might be better placed than a random person off a site.

I’d rather do something with someone who wanted to be there and could get something out of it themselves, than pay someone to do it, if that makes sense."

It makes a lot of sense.

You only lose it once so it’s good if it’s special.

I got to lose mine all over again as I’m trans and I decided this time I wanted it to be with someone I’d always remember fondly, who would be gentle and who I find hot as hell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just find people to build freindships first on this, other dating apps or in pubs/clubs if you can/want to. There is no rush for your first as it only happens once so take ypu time and enjoy yourslef, someone worthwhile will pop up eventually. be prepared for a lot rejection though since it can come a lot with this kind of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you go to uni or college OP? That would be a better place to look for someone if you do, rather than here. What about social media? Do you ever contact women directly through IG, SC, tik-tok etc I’m too old to really have a grasp on social media (I don’t use any of them) but I believe a lot of people your age use it to get in touch with and meet up with other people your age.

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

would it not be better to get out and meet people and loose your virginaty that way, thats what us old folks used to do lol.

but seriously what do you have to offer an experianced swinger, its not all about you, its about the other person aswell, personaly i wouldnt meet a virgin of either sex, as i know the sex wouldnt be great, sorry, but looking online isnt the right way, and especially on a swingers site, where most know what they want. You are young, go out and enjoy learning, its part of the fun, eitherway good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace! "

Haha, I thought exactly the same but I resisted saying anything because I’ve only just come back from a forum bam and I’m trying to be nice haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

Haha, I thought exactly the same but I resisted saying anything because I’ve only just come back from a forum bam and I’m trying to be nice haha. "

Well someone had to bloody say it didn't they?!

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace! "

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first."

You’ve listed cuckolding as one of your interests though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first."

Haha be careful what you wish for is all we're going to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first.

You’ve listed cuckolding as one of your interests though."

And group sex....

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first.

You’ve listed cuckolding as one of your interests though.

And group sex...."

I’d consider both of those things, cuckolding as the bull, and group sex with multiple women, maybe with men in the future when more comfortable, sorry dude.

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first.

Haha be careful what you wish for is all we're going to say "

Hahahaha maybe you’re right but only one way to find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first.

Haha be careful what you wish for is all we're going to say

Hahahaha maybe you’re right but only one way to find out"

I think you should get off pornhub, get an early night and some fresh air tbh young man

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first.

Haha be careful what you wish for is all we're going to say

Hahahaha maybe you’re right but only one way to find out

I think you should get off pornhub, get an early night and some fresh air tbh young man"

Appreciate the suggestion, unfortunately I don’t watch much and have long enough walks but I’ll see about extending them if you think it’d help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first.

You’ve listed cuckolding as one of your interests though.

And group sex....

I’d consider both of those things, cuckolding as the bull, and group sex with multiple women, maybe with men in the future when more comfortable, sorry dude."

No need to apologise, it wasn’t an invitation. Just think it’s weird that your username is ‘subshane’ but you’re interested in being a bull. You also said you’re only interested in solo meets, so listing things like ‘adult parties’ and ‘group sex’ as interests is misleading.

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first.

You’ve listed cuckolding as one of your interests though.

And group sex....

I’d consider both of those things, cuckolding as the bull, and group sex with multiple women, maybe with men in the future when more comfortable, sorry dude.

No need to apologise, it wasn’t an invitation. Just think it’s weird that your username is ‘subshane’ but you’re interested in being a bull. You also said you’re only interested in solo meets, so listing things like ‘adult parties’ and ‘group sex’ as interests is misleading. "

Everyone has their preferences, but yes I’m open to try things like being a bull or parties/group sex, I just would not being interested at this time in anything sexual with a man. I didn’t feel the need to overexplain myself, but the resistance to solo meets was what I would say to a woman offering me to clean up after her bull and fist my ass. Apologies that you weren’t able to infer this. Sometimes people say things that don’t 100% represent their opinions because in the context of conversation it leads to the same result in less time. Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first.

You’ve listed cuckolding as one of your interests though.

And group sex....

I’d consider both of those things, cuckolding as the bull, and group sex with multiple women, maybe with men in the future when more comfortable, sorry dude.

No need to apologise, it wasn’t an invitation. Just think it’s weird that your username is ‘subshane’ but you’re interested in being a bull. You also said you’re only interested in solo meets, so listing things like ‘adult parties’ and ‘group sex’ as interests is misleading.

Everyone has their preferences, but yes I’m open to try things like being a bull or parties/group sex, I just would not being interested at this time in anything sexual with a man. I didn’t feel the need to overexplain myself, but the resistance to solo meets was what I would say to a woman offering me to clean up after her bull and fist my ass. Apologies that you weren’t able to infer this. Sometimes people say things that don’t 100% represent their opinions because in the context of conversation it leads to the same result in less time. Hope this helps."

So if you’re asked to clean up after a bull you’ll say that you are only interested in solo meets? Why don’t you just say you aren’t interested in cleaning up after a bull rather than lying about only wanting solo meets. What if she says afterwards that she was also going to invite you to have a threesome with her and another woman but she won’t now you’ve said you only want to have solo meets. I’m sure she, like me, will not be able to ‘infer’ that by saying you’re only interested in solo meets you actually mean you aren’t interested in doing anything sexual with a man.

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first.

You’ve listed cuckolding as one of your interests though.

And group sex....

I’d consider both of those things, cuckolding as the bull, and group sex with multiple women, maybe with men in the future when more comfortable, sorry dude.

No need to apologise, it wasn’t an invitation. Just think it’s weird that your username is ‘subshane’ but you’re interested in being a bull. You also said you’re only interested in solo meets, so listing things like ‘adult parties’ and ‘group sex’ as interests is misleading.

Everyone has their preferences, but yes I’m open to try things like being a bull or parties/group sex, I just would not being interested at this time in anything sexual with a man. I didn’t feel the need to overexplain myself, but the resistance to solo meets was what I would say to a woman offering me to clean up after her bull and fist my ass. Apologies that you weren’t able to infer this. Sometimes people say things that don’t 100% represent their opinions because in the context of conversation it leads to the same result in less time. Hope this helps.

So if you’re asked to clean up after a bull you’ll say that you are only interested in solo meets? Why don’t you just say you aren’t interested in cleaning up after a bull rather than lying about only wanting solo meets. What if she says afterwards that she was also going to invite you to have a threesome with her and another woman but she won’t now you’ve said you only want to have solo meets. I’m sure she, like me, will not be able to ‘infer’ that by saying you’re only interested in solo meets you actually mean you aren’t interested in doing anything sexual with a man. "

Yeah dude, really great point, good thing it didn’t happen I guess? Thanks so much for this.

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By *onic2Man
over a year ago

Bromley

Hi Shane.

Bloody hell you're a brave young man to step up on the forum with that so kudos to you

As you come to ask for advice may I offer the following.

1. Change your username.

As you don't have any sexual experience in your own words you don't know whether or not you are sub Dom or or a ninja turtle.

Just have something less specific for the time being. Hell even call yourself Virgin-Shane if you want.

You might be pigeonholing yourself away from somebody who would be interested in teaching you..... And there will be somebody probably quite a few...

But they probably would I want to show you how to fuck like a "man" first?

I don't think you should use a sex worker exactly the reasons.

Trust me someone that knows..

Let's be honest the trial and error of ones early sexual experience isn't good and it can not only leaving you but also your partner in the bedroom feeling dejected and disappointed.

So as you're here now anyways.... Why don't you take some decent pictures of yourself and keep them my in your friends folder.

Write a a respectful enquiry message request and send it to to 10 different single ladies in your area.

(If there's any ladies that would help him with the copywriting with the letter but maybe not the actual deed itself otherwise I'm happy to help draft it with you)

I'd send them a couple of pictures and let them know that more are available if they are interested in in spending some time with you.

You might also consider wanting to send it to a couple of couples as well just to gauge their reaction.

I mean for god's sake there are loads of pronbuh videos all about this kind of thing so finding someone to have fun with who genuinely interested shouldn't be too difficult... As long as you ask correctly.

Funnily enough I used to know a girl in London who would have been straight up from the challenge but she's not on the scene now.

Ultimately I hope this gives you the ability to learn sexual sensuality, respect and gives you the confidence to to become a a great lover.... Rather than a pump and dumper.

Ironically....your inbox surge would probably crash the server if you were a girl and had posted it this

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By *adbodShane OP   Man
over a year ago

stoke


"Hi Shane.

Bloody hell you're a brave young man to step up on the forum with that so kudos to you

As you come to ask for advice may I offer the following.

1. Change your username.

As you don't have any sexual experience in your own words you don't know whether or not you are sub Dom or or a ninja turtle.

Just have something less specific for the time being. Hell even call yourself Virgin-Shane if you want.

You might be pigeonholing yourself away from somebody who would be interested in teaching you..... And there will be somebody probably quite a few...

But they probably would I want to show you how to fuck like a "man" first?

I don't think you should use a sex worker exactly the reasons.

Trust me someone that knows..

Let's be honest the trial and error of ones early sexual experience isn't good and it can not only leaving you but also your partner in the bedroom feeling dejected and disappointed.

So as you're here now anyways.... Why don't you take some decent pictures of yourself and keep them my in your friends folder.

Write a a respectful enquiry message request and send it to to 10 different single ladies in your area.

(If there's any ladies that would help him with the copywriting with the letter but maybe not the actual deed itself otherwise I'm happy to help draft it with you)

I'd send them a couple of pictures and let them know that more are available if they are interested in in spending some time with you.

You might also consider wanting to send it to a couple of couples as well just to gauge their reaction.

I mean for god's sake there are loads of pronbuh videos all about this kind of thing so finding someone to have fun with who genuinely interested shouldn't be too difficult... As long as you ask correctly.

Funnily enough I used to know a girl in London who would have been straight up from the challenge but she's not on the scene now.

Ultimately I hope this gives you the ability to learn sexual sensuality, respect and gives you the confidence to to become a a great lover.... Rather than a pump and dumper.

Ironically....your inbox surge would probably crash the server if you were a girl and had posted it this"

Definitely something to reread tomorrow but thank you very much for the thoughts, very constructive and seems like something to try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Shane.

Bloody hell you're a brave young man to step up on the forum with that so kudos to you

As you come to ask for advice may I offer the following.

1. Change your username.

As you don't have any sexual experience in your own words you don't know whether or not you are sub Dom or or a ninja turtle.

Just have something less specific for the time being. Hell even call yourself Virgin-Shane if you want.

You might be pigeonholing yourself away from somebody who would be interested in teaching you..... And there will be somebody probably quite a few...

But they probably would I want to show you how to fuck like a "man" first?

I don't think you should use a sex worker exactly the reasons.

Trust me someone that knows..

Let's be honest the trial and error of ones early sexual experience isn't good and it can not only leaving you but also your partner in the bedroom feeling dejected and disappointed.

So as you're here now anyways.... Why don't you take some decent pictures of yourself and keep them my in your friends folder.

Write a a respectful enquiry message request and send it to to 10 different single ladies in your area.

(If there's any ladies that would help him with the copywriting with the letter but maybe not the actual deed itself otherwise I'm happy to help draft it with you)

I'd send them a couple of pictures and let them know that more are available if they are interested in in spending some time with you.

You might also consider wanting to send it to a couple of couples as well just to gauge their reaction.

I mean for god's sake there are loads of pronbuh videos all about this kind of thing so finding someone to have fun with who genuinely interested shouldn't be too difficult... As long as you ask correctly.

Funnily enough I used to know a girl in London who would have been straight up from the challenge but she's not on the scene now.

Ultimately I hope this gives you the ability to learn sexual sensuality, respect and gives you the confidence to to become a a great lover.... Rather than a pump and dumper.

Ironically....your inbox surge would probably crash the server if you were a girl and had posted it this"

I knew I was sub before I had any real life experience of it, saying someone doesn’t know whether they’re Dom or sub until they have some sexual experience is like saying someone doesn’t know if they’re gay or straight until they’ve tried sleeping with both sexes. It feels a bit irresponsible of you to be telling OP to suppress his sub feelings rather than just being open and honest about them.

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By *onic2Man
over a year ago

Bromley

No you misunderstood I didn't mean suppress.... I was inferring that if he wished to lose his virginity he may wish to try what I had suggested.

What he does after the first time would be up to him...,

The other point which was about nature vs nurture.

It's scientifically documented that people are genetically predisposed to being of their sexual orientation at birth...

.. your preferences of sub vs Dom I don't think has been studied so I don't know if you can draw that comparison on the same level exactly.

No answer anyone can give is going to cover all of the bases... I was just attempting to try to help to go out with a first step or two.

Please let us know how it works out for you and if you need any advice give us a shout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've a 20 year old Daughter.

I'd rather be dead than see her on here.

She met someone in Newcastle from another media platform and travels there from Lancs most weekends....

You can get these types of experience from chatting with groups of people your own age down at the pub....

This is only my personal thoughts about it. Not trying to bully you OP x

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

No. We wouldn’t be interested. There’s someone for everyone (so they say) but I think you’re going nowhere on here.

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By *alsaGuy77Man
over a year ago

Macclesfield

As a young person who is single I'd have thought Tinder would be a better bet than here. There may be someone one here who does want a virgin male but as has been said already there are 10s of guys to every girl so they can pick who they want and usually they want someone with proven experience, and in most cases even assuming the guy has experience they then want verifications on their profile as proof.

Fab is not a 'guaranteed sex' site, far from it, so you really need to stand out to have a chance on here and even more so if you don't have verifications. If you are determined to go down the Fab route then get some personality in your profile that really showcases you - don't fabricate stuff to sound good as it is you they'll meet but show off your good points. Have a look at some of the guys your own age on here who are successful and see what they have said.

And finally don't stress too much about these things and if you get knock backs, as you'll get far more of these than interest. 19 is still not old so don't worry about not having had sex yet. Plenty of us were your age or older when we first did so don't let it determine who you are.

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"Most women dislike the idea of fucking a virgin, thought maybe for some it would be the opposite but often proved wrong time and time again, is there any women on here interested (assuming mutual attraction)? Preferably in the Midlands but I am happy to travel. "

What would you say that you have to offer to an experienced lady who is looking for enjoyable sex?

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We will be more worried about your parents finding out and then getting us (or any other couple) in trouble lol

The virgin bit won't be an issue

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

The best advice that we can offer is that honestly the swinging scene probably isn't the best place for 19 year old Virgins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any recommended app?"
try local pub/bar/club app don't need to download just turn up, get d*unk and let the one night stands roll in (Wish I was 19 again)...

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By *aintscoupleCouple
over a year ago

st helens

Are we the only ones who can see that the OP is 100% fake.

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"The best advice that we can offer is that honestly the swinging scene probably isn't the best place for 19 year old Virgins."

We agree totally.

Hate to sound harsh, but it seems some people think I can't get sex anywhere else so let's try a swingers site, they have sex with anyone.

In reality, it is probably harder here than in everyday life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate,I'm not being funny and that but if you're a virgin how do you even know you're into half the things you've put on your list of interest? What are you going to do if some fifty five year old Domme turns up and she wants to give you a good fisting or wants you to be the cuck and clean up after The Bull has given her a good seeing to? Take the advice given and go and meet a nice girlfriend your own age. And don't you dare try and treat her like something you've seen in a porno. Peace!

I’d tell her I’m only interested at solo meets at this time but if she wants to play with my ass I’m open to let her be the first.

You’ve listed cuckolding as one of your interests though.

And group sex...."

Are you old fucking Bill you certainly act like you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get yourself out in bars n clubs among people of a similar age. Smile alot and have a sense of humour. Everyone was a virgin once, dont fret about it - it'll happen at the right time for you. But getting out meeting girls in pubs is prob your best bet (and likely more fun at your age). "

This is what I was going to say I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as a fellow genuine virgin and 10 years older, and living under a rock, I can categorically confirm I am not interested in losing my virginity to two hearts, raccoons no matter how well intentioned or a pixelated box.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Most women dislike the idea of fucking a virgin, thought maybe for some it would be the opposite but often proved wrong time and time again, is there any women on here interested (assuming mutual attraction)? Preferably in the Midlands but I am happy to travel. "

To be honest! I think that unless you find someone who has a fetish for virgins, you are unlikely to have any luck on here. As a general rule swingers tend to be people with more sexual experience not less.

If you are only looking for an opportunity to lose your virginity, the only guaranteed tactic is to hire an escort. Otherwise, go out and meet people, don't try to "pick girls up" just make friends (male and female) and eventually nature will take it's course.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well as a fellow genuine virgin and 10 years older, and living under a rock, I can categorically confirm I am not interested in losing my virginity to two hearts, raccoons no matter how well intentioned or a pixelated box. "
29 year old virgin in this day and age and your on a swinging site

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"Well as a fellow genuine virgin and 10 years older, and living under a rock, I can categorically confirm I am not interested in losing my virginity to two hearts, raccoons no matter how well intentioned or a pixelated box. 29 year old virgin in this day and age and your on a swinging site "

Yes, we thought this too.

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By *risxbrisxMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Well as a fellow genuine virgin and 10 years older, and living under a rock, I can categorically confirm I am not interested in losing my virginity to two hearts, raccoons no matter how well intentioned or a pixelated box. "

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I can't see too many women wanting to meet a virgin. I know it wouldn't appeal to me at all.

My spare time is precious so I'm not going to meet someone who basically won't have a clue what they are doing and I have no interest whatsoever in teaching anyone anything on here. Exploring together is one thing but when the other person has no experience it usually ends up as pretty meh at best sex which is just disappointing. That's not putting you down OP but it's just how I see it. It's not why I'm on fab and why I keep my filters tight as I got fed up of younger men messaging me asking would I teach them things.

There may be some women who would enjoy meeting a virgin I'm sure there are, but you may find it an uphill battle on here. Good luck on your journey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was actually looking for webcams, but somehow this site got recommended, so I joined and went with the SWING LOL, what I will say though is this site definitely has cliques, groups if you don't fit in or go against convention you seem to be eaten alive on forums, even cam chat etc.

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Not read the whole post other than the first few comments, but imagine if the OP was a single female wanting to losing their virginity…

The site would be down for maintenance all afternoon.

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"Not read the whole post other than the first few comments, but imagine if the OP was a single female wanting to losing their virginity…

The site would be down for maintenance all afternoon.

"

Maybe, maybe not.

Let us know when you see a single female doing this, but there are two single guys actually on this post

But he isn't is he?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might not be so easy with covid, but have you tried the pub? Or maybe tinder?

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"Might not be so easy with covid, but have you tried the pub? Or maybe tinder?

"

Makes a lot more sense, and will be a lot easier than here

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By *dysseusukMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"Well as a fellow genuine virgin and 10 years older, and living under a rock, I can categorically confirm I am not interested in losing my virginity to two hearts, raccoons no matter how well intentioned or a pixelated box. "

If Op is genuine, i think you should both team up as mates and attend some clubs together, get involved in the community 'in person', support each other, and in no time you'll be having the fun you're both looking for, and that V sign will quickly become a thing of the past!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this is depressing. You would think good sex is difficult. Everyone had to start somewhere. Op, maybe this place is too cruel to start your journey, but I would entertain you at a party. It could be fun. Learning is fun and that includes sex. Some people are selfish and are takers but find someone who is prepared to give a little and put their needs second for a while will reap rewards with you when you get your mojo. Good luck xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP focus on life, meeting people socially and being a non-grumpy honest man.

The sex will come

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By *eachPreacherMan
over a year ago

Kent/London

I actually lost my virginity here back when I was 19, found an older woman who was into younger guys and it all worked out pretty well, but I'm aware that I was lucky and that not every young lad is going to be able to get the same experience.

Honestly losing it to someone on here is no more harsh than trying to lose it through hooking up on tinder or at a club, a lot of the younger women these days are only interested in the older or more experienced men so naturally us young men are forced to try and get some experience in any way we can. This site is probably better than most since it is actually built for people to share and fulfil their sexual needs.

Also just because someone is a virgin it doesn't mean they are entirely clueless, I'm sure OP has as much to offer as he does to learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you could always go to a lady of the night and loose it it would properly faster then on here

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Well as a fellow genuine virgin and 10 years older, and living under a rock, I can categorically confirm I am not interested in losing my virginity to two hearts, raccoons no matter how well intentioned or a pixelated box. "

Have no idea what your on about???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was actually looking for webcams, but somehow this site got recommended, so I joined and went with the SWING LOL, what I will say though is this site definitely has cliques, groups if you don't fit in or go against convention you seem to be eaten alive on forums, even cam chat etc.

"

Yes it's definitely not for the faint hearted or the ones who are wet behind the ears...

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Would you consider a sex worker? They might be better placed than a random person off a site.

I’d rather do something with someone who wanted to be there and could get something out of it themselves, than pay someone to do it, if that makes sense.

It makes a lot of sense.

You only lose it once so it’s good if it’s special.

I got to lose mine all over again as I’m trans and I decided this time I wanted it to be with someone I’d always remember fondly, who would be gentle and who I find hot as hell. "

Your just greedy lol wanting to lose it twice but good advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most women dislike the idea of fucking a virgin, thought maybe for some it would be the opposite but often proved wrong time and time again, is there any women on here interested (assuming mutual attraction)? Preferably in the Midlands but I am happy to travel. "

Maybe gain some experience organically first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are we the only ones who can see that the OP is 100% fake."

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