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By *ohn liz OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Hi Guys

This question has probably been raised a million times but here goes again.

I have been on scene for a number of years but my new partner is a scene virgin.

She loves the idea in bedtime fantasies but cant switch to real time, how do you experienced ladies switch between love and sex ?

I have told her from the male prespective but she needs the female version I think.

Thanks for reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a difficult one to explain tbh.

It does take a different mindset to "swing" and I don't think everyone is made for it.

I have always enjoyed sex as sex, but I make love with my husband. I think your new partner will need to be able to make sure she can differentiate between the two before swinging together can go anywere.

It was the opposite way for me and hubby, until he was in the situation of seeing me with someone else, he wasn't sure he'd be able to deal with it, luckily he could and we now both enjoy it hugely. Everyone has to start somewhere , but despite all my spiel, I'm not sure how you find that somewhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just look upon sex as fun and love as emotion and never the twain shall meet!

Sex is a pleasurable action but love is a powerful emotion and hopefuly something that will endure in a relationship long after sex with strangers becomes a pleasant memory.

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well we treat this as a game some u win sum u lose. there will be times when either of u have a better time than the other . but if use have what we have and thats a good sound relationship it will work . you will get a good time out of someone else but you wont ever reach the heights of what use 2 have togther dont be pushed though cos after all its supposed to be fun jimmy n linda xxx

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By *ohn liz OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Liz here ! Thank you all for your comments, it all sounds like good and sensible advice Just have to find that switch in my head lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good luck to u, cuz i know i could never swing with my partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, this is Beccy. My partner Mark and I had never done this before, but we talked about it and since have had a couple of MMF threesomes with a lovely guy. We both enjoyed it immensely.

Mark has been trying to get me to understand that sex can be seperated from love, and I am slowly learning to accept that fact, although it does seem rather strange for me lol. In fact, this new adventure we are both starting out on has brought us closer together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, this is Beccy. My partner Mark and I had never done this before, but we talked about it and since have had a couple of MMF threesomes with a lovely guy. We both enjoyed it immensely.

Mark has been trying to get me to understand that sex can be seperated from love, and I am slowly learning to accept that fact, although it does seem rather strange for me lol. In fact, this new adventure we are both starting out on has brought us closer together "

It usually does!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, this is Beccy. My partner Mark and I had never done this before, but we talked about it and since have had a couple of MMF threesomes with a lovely guy. We both enjoyed it immensely.

Mark has been trying to get me to understand that sex can be seperated from love, and I am slowly learning to accept that fact, although it does seem rather strange for me lol. In fact, this new adventure we are both starting out on has brought us closer together "

thats good, but could u handle a ffm ?

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By *ohn liz OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Thanks again guys, all advice gratefully accepted xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" thats good, but could u handle a ffm ? "

That is our future plan, being bi would like to try it eventually. I would be lying if I said I would be totally fine with it, but when we do have a FFM I shall be more at ease to try it as Mark is not going to rush me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" thats good, but could u handle a ffm ?

That is our future plan, being bi would like to try it eventually. I would be lying if I said I would be totally fine with it, but when we do have a FFM I shall be more at ease to try it as Mark is not going to rush me "
at the end of the day, u do what yr both happy and comfy with :0)

good luck to ya

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