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By *pottydog46 OP   Man
over a year ago

rainham

I have noticed that I sometimes get a reply to my message just saying hi, or hello. One word and an emoji. I then reply back again and never het a response.

This has happened loads of times over the years.

Anyone any idea what it is all about? Does fab have auto replies?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

No it doesn't have auto replies.

Generally means they didn't find anything in your message that interested them enough to expand, but possibly didn't want to be accused of being an ignorant cunt who ignores messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it doesn't have auto replies.

Generally means they didn't find anything in your message that interested them enough to expand, but possibly didn't want to be accused of being an ignorant cunt who ignores messages."

Yeah, this. I sometimes send a short reply when I find the person attractive but there wasn't enough in their first message for me to get things going.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Fab doesn't have auto replies

We will often acknowledge a message with a "thanks" or a " " because we don't want to be rude (although over the last month we just haven't responded)

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By *pottydog46 OP   Man
over a year ago

rainham

Ok thanks. Just seems odd to take the trouble to reply, but if you aren’t interested to say hello, rather than no thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok thanks. Just seems odd to take the trouble to reply, but if you aren’t interested to say hello, rather than no thanks!"

not odd at all they owe you nothing in reallity

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ok thanks. Just seems odd to take the trouble to reply, but if you aren’t interested to say hello, rather than no thanks!"

The responder is in a no win situation. There are many threads started by (mostly) men calling people rude because they don't respond, if you reply to a 'hi' message with 'no thanks' people will often respond telling you they were only being polite and saying hello they weren't asking to meet and now if we respond with a smile or a thank you its wrong.

What are we supposed to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll acknowledge a nice message with a short response if I’m not interested. Ie. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have noticed that I sometimes get a reply to my message just saying hi, or hello. One word and an emoji. I then reply back again and never het a response.

This has happened loads of times over the years.

Anyone any idea what it is all about? Does fab have auto replies?"

If someone is interested I think they'll let you know. If I get a short response or close ended response I'll take it as they are not interested and leave it at that

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By *pottydog46 OP   Man
over a year ago

rainham


"I have noticed that I sometimes get a reply to my message just saying hi, or hello. One word and an emoji. I then reply back again and never het a response.

This has happened loads of times over the years.

Anyone any idea what it is all about? Does fab have auto replies?

If someone is interested I think they'll let you know. If I get a short response or close ended response I'll take it as they are not interested and leave it at that"

I agree, just seems odd replying “Hi x ” if you aren’t interested that’s all I was trying to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok thanks. Just seems odd to take the trouble to reply, but if you aren’t interested to say hello, rather than no thanks!

The responder is in a no win situation. There are many threads started by (mostly) men calling people rude because they don't respond, if you reply to a 'hi' message with 'no thanks' people will often respond telling you they were only being polite and saying hello they weren't asking to meet and now if we respond with a smile or a thank you its wrong.

What are we supposed to do? "

It's doubly hard at the moment because people are sending festive good wishes, which makes me feel it's too rude to not at least say thank you

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There's no standard here, apart from no reply or block = no thanks or that messages should be respectful.

People typically read profiles when they get a message, so you could experiment with adjusting it or your message contents, to notice how it might influence your results.

Assume recipients of unsolicited messages only have the ability to become interested, based on how you interact with them and also that they may be busy.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I think a lot depends on what your original message contained. Often I'll get a "hi" type of message which doesn't really inspire a response at all but I'll say "hi" back just to be polite

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By *pottydog46 OP   Man
over a year ago

rainham


"I think a lot depends on what your original message contained. Often I'll get a "hi" type of message which doesn't really inspire a response at all but I'll say "hi" back just to be polite "

My messages always contain a polite introduction, a reference to where I am based, and what I am looking for. If I was to just message and say hi, I would expect to get nothing back.

It seems that everyone has different ways of doing things! I wasn’t moaning btw with this, just curious as to why it happens.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

We try to reply and say we aren't meeting at the moment and we're busy until way into the new year which is true but it's also a no thanks without hurting feelings x we may need to be more brutal I think as the replies we get are "oh I'm happy to just chat"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you


"No it doesn't have auto replies.

Generally means they didn't find anything in your message that interested them enough to expand, but possibly didn't want to be accused of being an ignorant cunt who ignores messages."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have noticed that I sometimes get a reply to my message just saying hi, or hello. One word and an emoji. I then reply back again and never het a response.

This has happened loads of times over the years.

Anyone any idea what it is all about? Does fab have auto replies?"

No

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Ok thanks. Just seems odd to take the trouble to reply, but if you aren’t interested to say hello, rather than no thanks!

The responder is in a no win situation. There are many threads started by (mostly) men calling people rude because they don't respond, if you reply to a 'hi' message with 'no thanks' people will often respond telling you they were only being polite and saying hello they weren't asking to meet and now if we respond with a smile or a thank you its wrong.

What are we supposed to do? "

How would you respond to the ubiquitous “Lol x” reply?

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