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By *wesomeAlone OP   Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

I found myself in the fortunate position of having a MFF threesome, but didn't exactly get this right on the day. I'm looking for ideas how I could do it better next time.

I have a partner of several years (let's call her J) and we have a couples profile. We were chatting with another couple and have got on famously. However the male half has been unavailable for a while and with full agreement we arranged to meet up with the female half (let's call her S).

As things worked out, J had to go out for a while just at the time we had planned to meet, this was unavoidable. So I met S alone, and we got rather well acquainted. None of this so far was a problem. J returned a bit later and we all had a chat and started playing again.

What I did wrong from then on was to devote a bit too much attention to S, the attraction of someone new. I was making her very happy but leaving J out a bit. BTW both girls are straight so they wouldn't have played physically with each other. I'm trying to work out what I should have done to keep them both happy at the same time.

Any ideas?

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

Eeek epic fail.... I'd have roasted your balls like chestnuts of you were my partner and left me feeling left out

You need to make sure you pay equal attention. It's all in your own self control and not allowing yourself to be distracted by what your dick wants.... At the end of the day it's your partner you're going home with and have to face....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

When we meet as mfm Mr often sits back and watches or both guys pay all their attention to me at the same time. I don't see how one person can't be left out or at least not be the sole focus at least some of the time when everyone is straight in a threesome.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also it's not just down to you to keep both women happy. It's a threesome

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

That's a difficult one - when it's an MFM I think it's a taken that the two guys both work together to please the lady. There's not nearly as many options for the two ladies to work together to please the man. If the two ladies don't know each other well, then you were always onto a loser in my opinion.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Also it's not just down to you to keep both women happy. It's a threesome "

It is in an FMF where the women are straight and won’t interact with each other physically.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Also it's not just down to you to keep both women happy. It's a threesome

It is in an FMF where the women are straight and won’t interact with each other physically."

Yep but I still wouldn't expect him to be doing all the work or coming up with all the ideas. Both women could work together to pleasure him for instance.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Also it's not just down to you to keep both women happy. It's a threesome

It is in an FMF where the women are straight and won’t interact with each other physically.

Yep but I still wouldn't expect him to be doing all the work or coming up with all the ideas. Both women could work together to pleasure him for instance."

Sure, but the OP was specifically asking for tips on how he could keep both women happy at the same time.

He did kind of answer his own question though!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Also it's not just down to you to keep both women happy. It's a threesome

It is in an FMF where the women are straight and won’t interact with each other physically.

Yep but I still wouldn't expect him to be doing all the work or coming up with all the ideas. Both women could work together to pleasure him for instance.

Sure, but the OP was specifically asking for tips on how he could keep both women happy at the same time.

He did kind of answer his own question though! "

You're right of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm trying to work out what I should have done to keep them both happy at the same time.

Any ideas?"

Played Monopoly, watched TV, have a takeaway...

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By *wesomeAlone OP   Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thanks for the replies so far. It is helpful. Not so keen on roasted nuts but I do take the point. Luckily J is quite forgiving, and it's OK if I do better the next time, assuming there is a next time.

This scenario is totally new to me, never done MFF before. Foursomes with full swap are so much simpler. And if I stay with J long term (as I intend) this will not change as she is not suddenly going to become bi or pretend to be bi.

I'm glad that people see the problem with two straight women in the MFF. But I will have to try to be more creative. I can imagine a couple of positions where one gets my cock and the other gets my tongue, and indeed it sounds rather appealing. But I can't really take turns at them without fluid bonding, since currently S needs a condom with me and J doesn't. Tricky.

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

What was Js motivation for the threesome if she isn't bi/bicurious? I can't see the point, personally, but presumably she is turned on by some aspect of it? Do that. If not, then it's never going to be a winner really, is it?

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By *inksAPlentyCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire


"Thanks for the replies so far. It is helpful. Not so keen on roasted nuts but I do take the point. Luckily J is quite forgiving, and it's OK if I do better the next time, assuming there is a next time.

This scenario is totally new to me, never done MFF before. Foursomes with full swap are so much simpler. And if I stay with J long term (as I intend) this will not change as she is not suddenly going to become bi or pretend to be bi.

I'm glad that people see the problem with two straight women in the MFF. But I will have to try to be more creative. I can imagine a couple of positions where one gets my cock and the other gets my tongue, and indeed it sounds rather appealing. But I can't really take turns at them without fluid bonding, since currently S needs a condom with me and J doesn't. Tricky."

Why don't you wear a condom for both? That's what we do on meets. And put on a new condom when swapping partners.

Before I met Mr I had an FMF with a FB. She was straight and I was exploring my bi side at that stage. She didn't want me touching her at all which was fine, we were all aware of boundaries. The guy went down on her while I watched (which I loved), then she went down on him while I kissed him. She rode him cowgirl while I sat on his face. We had a great time.

I love watching Mr with others so if I receive less attention from him than the other woman then it wouldn't bother me. But we both know what we are happy with. If you know she wants more attention next time then I think it's good that you are thinking about how to achieve this.

Ms x

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

All a bit shoulda, woulda, coulda as it's a bit difficult to play with two straight women for a decent length of time unless you've got a lot of staying power.

I'd think the likelihood of another mff anytime soon is pretty slim, so take on what the mrs has said or try couples?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't have started it as a 2some. I would have waited until everyone was there. Otherwise it just feels like a gooseberry situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like you and j hadn't really considered things that might be an issue for either of you

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Also it's not just down to you to keep both women happy. It's a threesome "

Exactly this! I’ve only played fmf with two established friends, we’ve all fucked each other, and played with others in group situations, and they are both bi too, so much easier for me, but the reality is, it’s three friends playing together, the genders didn’t really come in to it?

Options though; fingering two pussies simultaneously is a goody

Two mouths sucking your cock, balls, and rimming you…..

Taking turns riding your cock, then face sitting you (nothing to stop you being bare for J then your non partner slipping a condom on you for penetration)

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By *ilf and old fartCouple
over a year ago

Between Ely and Mildenhall

Opps, that's a lesson learned there. NEVER Let your partner feel like a spare part regardless of the situation. If old fart did that he'd be living in the shed

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By *ategoodbyeMan
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

This is why I’ve always said (half jokingly) that I wouldn’t want a threesome with two girls. looking after just one takes all my available energy. Two sounds like a nightmare.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

It’s not a nightmare if you are thoughtful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is why I’ve always said (half jokingly) that I wouldn’t want a threesome with two girls. looking after just one takes all my available energy. Two sounds like a nightmare."

If they are both bi they can play with each other too.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I found myself in the fortunate position of having a MFF threesome, but didn't exactly get this right on the day. I'm looking for ideas how I could do it better next time.

I have a partner of several years (let's call her J) and we have a couples profile. We were chatting with another couple and have got on famously. However the male half has been unavailable for a while and with full agreement we arranged to meet up with the female half (let's call her S).

As things worked out, J had to go out for a while just at the time we had planned to meet, this was unavoidable. So I met S alone, and we got rather well acquainted. None of this so far was a problem. J returned a bit later and we all had a chat and started playing again.

What I did wrong from then on was to devote a bit too much attention to S, the attraction of someone new. I was making her very happy but leaving J out a bit. BTW both girls are straight so they wouldn't have played physically with each other. I'm trying to work out what I should have done to keep them both happy at the same time.

Any ideas?"

I made similar mistakes when I was younger and eager to have MFF’s. I once got told straight right I the middle off a MFF, you can’t actually fuck her, 2 of us were very disappointed!

Women are complex, go for a drink as a three to discuss the rules, roles, dynamics and sort it all out before you get in bed together.

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

Always best if the women have their own friendship base first with this. Even if they aren't bi of they can establish some sort of trust and relationship it makes for a much better threesome x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"What was Js motivation for the threesome if she isn't bi/bicurious? I can't see the point, personally, but presumably she is turned on by some aspect of it? Do that. If not, then it's never going to be a winner really, is it?"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My better half thinks you should have waited until your partner returned..you started without her so to speak..even if it wasnt meant.. but better luck next time..

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I wouldn't have started it as a 2some. I would have waited until everyone was there. Otherwise it just feels like a gooseberry situation. "

This for me, and the OP’s situation is one of the reasons I’ve never wanted to try a FFM scenario, because if I was the one being neglected I think I would let him know my displeasure in very vocal terms

If you get another opportunity OP I think you’ll be very lucky!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I wouldn't have started it as a 2some. I would have waited until everyone was there. Otherwise it just feels like a gooseberry situation.

This for me, and the OP’s situation is one of the reasons I’ve never wanted to try a FFM scenario, because if I was the one being neglected I think I would let him know my displeasure in very vocal terms

If you get another opportunity OP I think you’ll be very lucky! "

As it seems a bit of theme, with him starting without her - who would honestly pop out as a swinger is invited around and expect nothing to happen? It seems a bit odd, did she expect them to read a newspaper?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I wouldn't have started it as a 2some. I would have waited until everyone was there. Otherwise it just feels like a gooseberry situation.

This for me, and the OP’s situation is one of the reasons I’ve never wanted to try a FFM scenario, because if I was the one being neglected I think I would let him know my displeasure in very vocal terms

If you get another opportunity OP I think you’ll be very lucky!

As it seems a bit of theme, with him starting without her - who would honestly pop out as a swinger is invited around and expect nothing to happen? It seems a bit odd, did she expect them to read a newspaper?"

Depends. You’d think maybe a snog and a bit of light fingering, a feel up of his cock, interspersed with chat, a bit of oohing and aging about the time. Maybe a quick text to the other half “what time you getting back? My blue balls cannas take much more!” and she might have told him then to crack on.

But instead I’m imagining a man face down in vagina, his cock at full stand, dripping eager pre cum everywhere, and his Mrs looking forlornly on.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I wouldn't have started it as a 2some. I would have waited until everyone was there. Otherwise it just feels like a gooseberry situation.

This for me, and the OP’s situation is one of the reasons I’ve never wanted to try a FFM scenario, because if I was the one being neglected I think I would let him know my displeasure in very vocal terms

If you get another opportunity OP I think you’ll be very lucky!

As it seems a bit of theme, with him starting without her - who would honestly pop out as a swinger is invited around and expect nothing to happen? It seems a bit odd, did she expect them to read a newspaper?

Depends. You’d think maybe a snog and a bit of light fingering, a feel up of his cock, interspersed with chat, a bit of oohing and aging about the time. Maybe a quick text to the other half “what time you getting back? My blue balls cannas take much more!” and she might have told him then to crack on.

But instead I’m imagining a man face down in vagina, his cock at full stand, dripping eager pre cum everywhere, and his Mrs looking forlornly on."

It does seem the weight of replies lay on him, when as you describe, it would be hard to resist with your partner off on a jaunt for bagels. She has to realise he had his work cut out with two straight women as it was, unless they were pretty active.

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