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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we are completely new to the swinging scene, she is a bit shy and want to make our first time good. we are starting with socials to see if we click/attraction.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You're probably right to start with socials. As long as you talk to each other I'm sure you'll be fine

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By *addySarahCouple
over a year ago

Dorset

Our advice is to take slowly and at the pace of the one that’s more nervous about swinging, we started by going to swing clubs and just chat and watch others, then progressed to being watched and slowly onto soft play with others and then finally to full swing swap, all this was over about 18 month period. Don’t rush it, talk to each other, don’t put pressure on anyone, take your time and most importantly both have fun xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

she isn't nervous about swinging just a shy person in general and sadly there aren't any swinger clubs near us as definitely would have preferred that. ye neither of us would pressure the other to do something we didn't want to do.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Our advice is to take slowly and at the pace of the one that’s more nervous about swinging, we started by going to swing clubs and just chat and watch others, then progressed to being watched and slowly onto soft play with others and then finally to full swing swap, all this was over about 18 month period. Don’t rush it, talk to each other, don’t put pressure on anyone, take your time and most importantly both have fun xx"

Same approach except it was over 4 weeks compared to 18 months

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Hythe


"Our advice is to take slowly and at the pace of the one that’s more nervous about swinging, we started by going to swing clubs and just chat and watch others, then progressed to being watched and slowly onto soft play with others and then finally to full swing swap, all this was over about 18 month period. Don’t rush it, talk to each other, don’t put pressure on anyone, take your time and most importantly both have fun xx"

We did the opposite and dived in at a club which goes to show that we all have a different pace and you need to work out what’s best for you.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

My advice would be do it your way. Chat openly to each other, if one goes on line tell or show the other messages etc. Socials are OK, but clubs are also the safest way, especially a friendly one with no pressures which most clubs are.

And importantly don't bother letting fab rule your swinging life, there's lots of lovely, hot couples in the clubs who aren't on line.

And have fun xxxxx

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Isn't CJ's close

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Or After 8 in Edingburgh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

CJ's is to far away and after eight is closed as went to try it out and found out that way. have checked the club list and know its reopening just don't know where or when

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our advice would be make sure you are BOTH 100% committed to this . Else it rarely works.

Good luck and welcome to the club.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Club F has a few regulars who come down from the Scotland - they have hotel rooms to make an overnight easy. Just a thought.

Otherwise, is anyone organising socials near you?

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"we are completely new to the swinging scene, she is a bit shy and want to make our first time good. we are starting with socials to see if we click/attraction."

Your best bet would be to attend an organised social where there are lots of people to chat and mingle with. It would be less nerve wracking, and there won't be any pressure (either real or imagined) to go further.

Take it at the pace of the slowest person, you don't want to ruin what you have now by russhing into something one of you isn't comfortable with.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Complete honesty between you, get it all out, kinks, desires, fetishes, likes dislikes... Be completely open and take it from there

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Openmindedness, patience, tolerance and lots of communication. If this is what you really want to do it will cum right in the end. Don't pressurise yourselves.

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