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"I’m sorry to hear that. Though I echo your sentiments. 2 years ago the site was great with good profiles, real people and a great return when you put effort into a message. Now it’s full of fakes and time waster’s sadly " This is why we all seem to use clubs and social events to meet now no time wasters or fakes there x | |||
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"Hi all. I’m finding fab a real struggle recently for replies, let alone meets. For context I’ve been on the site for years and pre covid had plenty of chat. I’m wondering if it’s also couples struggling? ………obviously it could just be me! " It's not just you OP. Over the last 12 months the site has gone really downbank. We struggle too getting meets, so much so that we have given up trying on here now. We just rock up at clubs and go with the flow. We have joined another site to compare and do actually find that suits our needs better. | |||
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" This is why we all seem to use clubs and social events to meet now no time wasters or fakes there x" Same for me x | |||
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"Went to a social lately and had males openly saying to us I had her and her and her. It was abit of turn off for us, did not expect that. We are into sharing experiences with other people not putting a notch in the bed post. We have been told before we need permission from other people to play within their sex circle. The scene has changed for us it seems to be different now." Permission to share intimate details yes 100%, anyone who kisses and tell without consent puts us off but permission to play within sex circle...lol what's that all about. Unless you are running some kind of an exclusive circle, it doesn't make a lot of sense, all being adults here and all that  but then again we are new so maybe no one told us lol | |||
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"Permission to play within a circle sounds like a clique I wouldn’t want to be part of. I think respect is important though as a lot don’t want the kiss and tell heard. At the end of the day swinging is far better when there’s respect involved from all parties. Or at least that’s my opinion. I certainly don’t kiss and tell out of respect to others…… and so I don’t look a dickhead as well" Well said! | |||
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"Anyone who feels the need to brag is basically telling you they don't get any lol " That’s an odd projection lol. | |||
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"There comes a time when you get feed up with plugging away and i think i will not renew my subscription . " We are also considering not renewing our subscription. Where we live you are considered privileged if you live on one side of the river. So when someone local chats to us it is one of the first things that is asked. What side of the river do you live on. We did not realize we live on the 'privileged' side as we are not originally from the area. So yes we are astonished that there is classism in this day and age. Everything seems to be clicks and agreements it is all so difficult to navigate it is exhausting. | |||
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" This is why we all seem to use clubs and social events to meet now no time wasters or fakes there x " Same for us as we just find the site hard work, we find that club visits and social events are the way forward now. x | |||
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"Maybe revamp your profile? Could possibly be the reason for not getting the response you want." You could well be right. I’m certainly open to advice on how I can improve it | |||
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"Don't worry OP, you're not alone. Many people have found it harder to get meets from their online presence only, and COVID hasn't helped in any way shape or form. All you can do is keep plugging away." I will certainly keep plugging away. It’s just a shame it doesn’t seem so positive on here anymore | |||
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"There comes a time when you get feed up with plugging away and i think i will not renew my subscription . " I can’t blame you and I do echo the sentiment. I’m actively looking at different options site wise, though have to admit I’ve not found anything as yet | |||
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" This is why we all seem to use clubs and social events to meet now no time wasters or fakes there x Same for us as we just find the site hard work, we find that club visits and social events are the way forward now. x" It’s sad isn’t it as this site used to be fantastic. I really do hope it comes good again but I’m not sure it will in the near future | |||
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"We are all in the same boat not easy at the moment x " It’s pretty sad isn’t it. I’m hoping you can at least get out to clubs to meet people. I have to say that during this thread I’ve spoken to more genuine people than I have in months on here | |||
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"We really struggle for sure . Okay we haven’t been on the site so long but trying to get together with another couple is proving to be very difficult for a multitude of different reasons. The trait we see most often is a couple being as keen as you like one day and then the next day all interest has cooled for some reason . So whilst not giving up on that and still being optimistic we are tending to favour the club scene a little more at the moment. Turn up . Pay your entrance fee and have a great night ……well usually "That’s a shame that people are hot one day and then not the next. I mean readings great but not that kind. It’s good you can get out to clubs though to socialise and connect with others | |||
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"I’m sorry to hear that. Though I echo your sentiments. 2 years ago the site was great with good profiles, real people and a great return when you put effort into a message. Now it’s full of fakes and time waster’s sadly " Not sure where you get your information from but it exactly the same. | |||
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"I’m sorry to hear that. Though I echo your sentiments. 2 years ago the site was great with good profiles, real people and a great return when you put effort into a message. Now it’s full of fakes and time waster’s sadly Not sure where you get your information from but it exactly the same." Everyone has different experiences and those are mine. | |||
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"I’m sorry to hear that. Though I echo your sentiments. 2 years ago the site was great with good profiles, real people and a great return when you put effort into a message. Now it’s full of fakes and time waster’s sadly Not sure where you get your information from but it exactly the same. Everyone has different experiences and those are mine. " So protection not fact.  | |||
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"I’m sorry to hear that. Though I echo your sentiments. 2 years ago the site was great with good profiles, real people and a great return when you put effort into a message. Now it’s full of fakes and time waster’s sadly Not sure where you get your information from but it exactly the same. Everyone has different experiences and those are mine. So protection not fact. "Protection not fact?? Think you need to check your grammar! | |||
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"We're finding it challenging. We put a meet up for 'meet at yours, for a set time on a set day'. We had offers for, car meets, clubs, differant days, times ect. Surly if we're offering a set day/time/place. Why would we accept something totally differant? " It’s tough as a lot of people just want it their own way. I’m hoping you find some genuine people to play with though who can meet as and when you wish them too. | |||
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"We don't "struggle", we're very choosy who we reply to though so don't have too many message exchanges. We go to clubs and meet real people. Even then some say "we'll come say hi in the club", but actually they don't." I’m glad it’s working well for you both on here. I agree real people in clubs is great for meets and I do that myself. Though I also enjoy meeting people outside of clubs socially or more. It just seems rather more difficult now than it used to be. Though I’m very aware that could be just me | |||
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"Hi all. I’m finding fab a real struggle recently for replies, let alone meets. For context I’ve been on the site for years and pre covid had plenty of chat. I’m wondering if it’s also couples struggling? ………obviously it could just be me! " As older age ranger been on and off for years single and couple, it's very hard to find meet lit of chat, now going to club | |||
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"We struggled a lot before lockdowns. We don’t do clubs for discretion reasons. We have found recently that we have met more good, like minded, couples recently than ever before. Maybe we’ve just got lucky but it’s been a pleasant surprise. " I’m glad you’ve got your pleasant surprise. It’s good to hear the sites working for people | |||
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"We've been on and off this site for the last 2-3 years, obviously not just on this profile. Personally i think covid has enticed way more single guys to sign up here than before. Guys have always massively outnumbered couples and females, now even more so. So disappointment is part and parcel I'm afraid. I think this should be a paid membership only site. Hopefully thst would help out alot of the time wasters. And photo verification should be mandatory. " I like that idea! Proper paid membership would definitely get rid of a good number of dreamers, and time wasters. | |||
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"The problem is that the idiots outnumber the decent guys and make it really hard for the good ones to stand out. We have had to block single guys as we we bombarded with crass and rude messages from pillocks who treat women like walking flashlights and wet wanks and definitely didn't read the profile. We have met some wonderful single guys that prove not everyone is like that but unfortunately the bad ones ruin it for the good guys. Wish there was a way to vet them, like a sort by positive feedback but I think that would be too complex to implement and would still have the same issue for new guys "It’s not the first time I’ve heard that said. I agree that the bad ones ruin it for us genuine ones. The problem is I don’t see a way around the problem. It starts with the genuine single guys leaving as they’re fed up. Then couples looking for singles will leave. I know people can find what they want at clubs, but it would be sad to see the site decline further | |||
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"We've been on and off this site for the last 2-3 years, obviously not just on this profile. Personally i think covid has enticed way more single guys to sign up here than before. Guys have always massively outnumbered couples and females, now even more so. So disappointment is part and parcel I'm afraid. I think this should be a paid membership only site. Hopefully thst would help out alot of the time wasters. And photo verification should be mandatory. " We were only having this conversation recently. One would think a paid site is the way to go. | |||
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"The problem is that the idiots outnumber the decent guys and make it really hard for the good ones to stand out. We have had to block single guys as we we bombarded with crass and rude messages from pillocks who treat women like walking flashlights and wet wanks and definitely didn't read the profile. We have met some wonderful single guys that prove not everyone is like that but unfortunately the bad ones ruin it for the good guys. Wish there was a way to vet them, like a sort by positive feedback but I think that would be too complex to implement and would still have the same issue for new guys "It's interesting , we have had no cock pics or rude messaged since we set up our profile , a few daft one liners, and winks from single guys. I would say from being a single guy on here in the past, the online idiots exist to a far lesser extent in real life. Ie if you go to an organised social or a decent club most of the guys are really pleasant and sociable. Harry | |||
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"The problem is that the idiots outnumber the decent guys and make it really hard for the good ones to stand out. We have had to block single guys as we we bombarded with crass and rude messages from pillocks who treat women like walking flashlights and wet wanks and definitely didn't read the profile. We have met some wonderful single guys that prove not everyone is like that but unfortunately the bad ones ruin it for the good guys. Wish there was a way to vet them, like a sort by positive feedback but I think that would be too complex to implement and would still have the same issue for new guys
It's interesting , we have had no cock pics or rude messaged since we set up our profile , a few daft one liners, and winks from single guys.
I would say from being a single guy on here in the past, the online idiots exist to a far lesser extent in real life. Ie if you go to an organised social or a decent club most of the guys are really pleasant and sociable.
Harry "That’s certainly true. I think the problem is it’s easier to be a dreamer online behind a phone or computer screen. People like that would never venture to a club as they may have to actually speak to real Juan beings. The main thing though is I’m glad you’re having a good experience on here and that you’re getting mainly positive messages. | |||
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