FabSwingers.com forum: Dealing with frustration

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mainly for the single guys here since they are most likely deal with this a lot.

Just wanna know and talk about your methods

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

What kind of frustration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to occupy your mind and body with activities that you like/love. Doesn’t work all the time but helps, at least until resignation sets in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What kind of frustration"

Just not getting anything from here for the longest time.

-Lack of responses

-convos that end halfway out of nowhere never to be followed up on.

-etc.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"What kind of frustration

Just not getting anything from here for the longest time.

-Lack of responses

-convos that end halfway out of nowhere never to be followed up on.

-etc.

You have only been on 4 weeks. What were you expecting from fab? Best idea these days is go to a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on pof or tinder or bumble or any of the other 9 million apps arrange a date, go on the date, be normal, don't talk about sex, don't ask for pics, don't be creepy, ask about there life, go on anougher date,have a good time, see where life takes you I probably go on around 2 dates a week really enjoy meeting new people have no interest in a relationship and I'm very clear about that on my profile and in my messages, I probably sleep with 1 out of 3 dates normally they become a person I text when I'm free, I use fab to meet swingers not for casual sex there is quite a big difference I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Before anyone starts to judge me for asking this. I do have my own ways of dealing with it. I log out and live the life I did before joining the site. As well as use other apps ofc.

Was wanting to ask cause I feel like everyone has their own unique methods.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Don't make fab your life, we see this as a hobby, an activity we both enjoy and something we can almost happily live without us there are plenty of other things we could be doing with our time. So our tip for dealing with frustration is not to get frustrated in first place.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Even if you get plenty of messages (I get a few but not as many as the women) it’s no guarantee that they are…

1. Genuine and will turn up.

2. Just the usual ‘you meeting’ or ‘fancy a fuck’ type

3. Profile has absolutely nothing on it apart from the line ‘fill in later’

It’s all about quality or compatibility on the site. You can get 100 messages a day but if not one is what you’re looking for, it’s the same as getting non.

Clubs and socials are a better bet, as those people who attend are the ones taking the site and scene seriously.

So look at the listing for clubs and see who’s on the guest list. As those people are the ones who are fully committed to the site and scene.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

I've been very lucky and I've met a few lovely ladies.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Before anyone starts to judge me for asking this. I do have my own ways of dealing with it. I log out and live the life I did before joining the site. As well as use other apps ofc.

Was wanting to ask cause I feel like everyone has their own unique methods."

Methods of what? Getting laid? Unf fab has thousands of men all wanting the same thing so your chances are slim.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Before anyone starts to judge me for asking this. I do have my own ways of dealing with it. I log out and live the life I did before joining the site. As well as use other apps ofc.

Was wanting to ask cause I feel like everyone has their own unique methods.

Methods of what? Getting laid? Unf fab has thousands of men all wanting the same thing so your chances are slim. "

Methods of dealing with frustration. That's what i was asking about.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Before anyone starts to judge me for asking this. I do have my own ways of dealing with it. I log out and live the life I did before joining the site. As well as use other apps ofc.

Was wanting to ask cause I feel like everyone has their own unique methods.

Methods of what? Getting laid? Unf fab has thousands of men all wanting the same thing so your chances are slim.

Methods of dealing with frustration. That's what i was asking about."

If your frustrated about getting nowhere on fab then it’s probably not for you. Take a break for a bit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Before anyone starts to judge me for asking this. I do have my own ways of dealing with it. I log out and live the life I did before joining the site. As well as use other apps ofc.

Was wanting to ask cause I feel like everyone has their own unique methods.

Methods of what? Getting laid? Unf fab has thousands of men all wanting the same thing so your chances are slim.

Methods of dealing with frustration. That's what i was asking about.

If your frustrated about getting nowhere on fab then it’s probably not for you. Take a break for a bit. "

I already said before i had my own ways of dealing with it. Just want to know everyone else's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 weeks on here is nothing, best way to approach it is to have no expectations. There is no guaranteed sex on here, guaranteed sex you get of prostitutes when you pay.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Before anyone starts to judge me for asking this. I do have my own ways of dealing with it. I log out and live the life I did before joining the site. As well as use other apps ofc.

Was wanting to ask cause I feel like everyone has their own unique methods."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lower your expectations... That might help

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Before anyone starts to judge me for asking this. I do have my own ways of dealing with it. I log out and live the life I did before joining the site. As well as use other apps ofc.

Was wanting to ask cause I feel like everyone has their own unique methods.

Methods of what? Getting laid? Unf fab has thousands of men all wanting the same thing so your chances are slim.

Methods of dealing with frustration. That's what i was asking about.

If your frustrated about getting nowhere on fab then it’s probably not for you. Take a break for a bit.

I already said before i had my own ways of dealing with it. Just want to know everyone else's."

I don’t get frustrated with fab

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think it's really about managing your expectations making sure that it is is reasonable to expect whatever it is you're expecting.

Personally I feel going to clubs and socials is the way forward and I use Fab to keep in touch with people I have already met in person from venues.

Trying to actually meet someone new from the internet doesn't suit me on so many levels.

Everything,from trying to trust that they are as they appear on the internet to actually knowing if there will be any connection at all should we meet regardless of how they look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mainly for the single guys here since they are most likely deal with this a lot.

Just wanna know and talk about your methods"

I guess just don't take it too seriously. Be sociable and teat it like social media.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no method as I don't get frustrated if I did then it isn't the place for me, life's too short to be frustrated.

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

"Mainly for the single guys here since they are most likely deal with this a lot.

Just wanna know and talk about your methods"

I've been swinging and on this site for years. It has changed a lot. It use to be straightforward. Message, exchange details then meet at a hotel, their place or yours. Now it's fab my pics, I'm looking for a relationship (on a swingers site) give me compliments because I am in a boring relationship and need my confidence boosting even though I have no intentions of meeting you (time waster). I really do feel sorry for most guys on here nowadays. Best way to deal with it is not to deal with it. It's fun it's what we're all here for or should be here for. Just move on and don't expect to get replies from every message you send you won't be everyone's cup of tea once you understand that you'll be fine. Go to club to enjoy the scene and not to expect sex. Plus we are still in a pandemic. Just chill

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Don't make Fabs the focus of your sex life. People shouldn't be relying on this place so much that it becomes a genuine frustration.

Use other apps, go to social events, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go on pof or tinder or bumble or any of the other 9 million apps arrange a date, go on the date, be normal, don't talk about sex, don't ask for pics, don't be creepy, ask about there life, go on anougher date,have a good time, see where life takes you I probably go on around 2 dates a week really enjoy meeting new people have no interest in a relationship and I'm very clear about that on my profile and in my messages, I probably sleep with 1 out of 3 dates normally they become a person I text when I'm free, I use fab to meet swingers not for casual sex there is quite a big difference I think.

Well said

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"What kind of frustration

Just not getting anything from here for the longest time.

-Lack of responses

-convos that end halfway out of nowhere never to be followed up on.

-etc.

Ever thought that you might need to control your own expectations and might be trying to hard.try to connect with others before even thinking about anything sexually because their needs to be a good or even a great connection of some kind.people aren't sex objects so treat them as humans.respect doesn't always go to plan but should this matter find those who you maybe be compatible with...

Good luck never let online stress or have an effect if it does take a break from online...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What kind of frustration

Just not getting anything from here for the longest time.

-Lack of responses

-convos that end halfway out of nowhere never to be followed up on.

-etc.

Good luck never let online stress or have an effect if it does take a break from online..."

Don't get where thisnis coming from but never once or implied everyone should reply to everyone.

Also, how is expecting a "sorry not intersted anymore," a big expectation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is extremely tough on here for most men.

Not helped by the sexist & dismissive attitudes towards men that the majority of the women display. Treat men like dirt.

Good luck, you'll need it!

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By *willfindyouWoman
over a year ago

Not looking to meet new peeps.

go out to niteclubs kid. this is a swing site. totally different than a hook up one. for me anyways x

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"What kind of frustration

Just not getting anything from here for the longest time.

-Lack of responses

-convos that end halfway out of nowhere never to be followed up on.

-etc.

Good luck never let online stress or have an effect if it does take a break from online...

Don't get where thisnis coming from but never once or implied everyone should reply to everyone.

Also, how is expecting a "sorry not intersted anymore," a big expectation?"

Because my friend it's had an impact on you to bring the topic up.and you may not have but you didn't say either way

welcome to the forum the option is available to respond so each other knows what they are replying to rather than confusing the crap out of everyone

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By *uicypeaches77Couple
over a year ago

Torquay

"What kind of frustration

Just not getting anything from here for the longest time.

-Lack of responses

-convos that end halfway out of nowhere never to be followed up on.

-etc.

Go to an organised social , there are numerous around the country ...really simple solution ..get out more .meet real people and dont just inhabit this alternative dimension..

There are lots of threads like this...load of drivel in my opinion.

Harry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...what do you even mean by this reply? When did i say i wasn't impacted by it? I said earlier how i deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It is extremely tough on here for most men.

Not helped by the sexist & dismissive attitudes towards men that the majority of the women display. Treat men like dirt.

Good luck, you'll need it!"

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Before anyone starts to judge me for asking this. I do have my own ways of dealing with it. I log out and live the life I did before joining the site. As well as use other apps ofc.

Was wanting to ask cause I feel like everyone has their own unique methods."

Everyone's own method works for them doesn't mean it'll work for everyone.being yourself is the importance not being someone else. It's not unique to be themselves or how they behave it's something people are born with or have learnt to become by their own practice.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Before anyone starts to judge me for asking this. I do have my own ways of dealing with it. I log out and live the life I did before joining the site. As well as use other apps ofc.

Was wanting to ask cause I feel like everyone has their own unique methods.

Methods of what? Getting laid? Unf fab has thousands of men all wanting the same thing so your chances are slim.

Methods of dealing with frustration. That's what i was asking about.

If your frustrated about getting nowhere on fab then it’s probably not for you. Take a break for a bit.

I already said before i had my own ways of dealing with it. Just want to know everyone else's.

I don’t get frustrated with fab"

Same.

I do get frustrated with single males looking for instashag getting lost and ending up here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the frustration alludes to not getting much luck on here I would say think about the ‘trying to get a job’ analogy.

Imagine your profile is your CV. Any message you send is a potential job application. Now I don’t know about you but I would say it’s fair to say you are not going to get very far trying to seek employment with a CV that is lacking . Especially when there are so many other applicants applying for the same role.

So you need to make your CV stand out from all the rest . Of course this doesn’t guarantee you will get the job but it might just get you that interview . I hope this makes sense . I’m basically saying represent yourself in the best way possible and try to represent the best version of you via your profile . My feeling is that once someone opens a profile they probably can gauge in a split second if they want to peruse the whole profile or if it’s not for them. You never get a second chance to create a first impression. Good luck !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before anyone starts to judge me for asking this. I do have my own ways of dealing with it. I log out and live the life I did before joining the site. As well as use other apps ofc.

Was wanting to ask cause I feel like everyone has their own unique methods."

Yeah logging out - doing something completely different away from the phone altogether. You tube have loads of ideas - I picked up abstract painting in a unique way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Before anyone starts to judge me for asking this. I do have my own ways of dealing with it. I log out and live the life I did before joining the site. As well as use other apps ofc.

Was wanting to ask cause I feel like everyone has their own unique methods.

Yeah logging out - doing something completely different away from the phone altogether. You tube have loads of ideas - I picked up abstract painting in a unique way"

Pretty cool hobby ngl

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Well that was funny Reading..

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