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By *alloping newbies OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southampton

Hi,my wife and I are new to this and don't fully understand what the term soft swing means. Can anyone clarify please as googling gives many situations

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By *razycoupleniCouple
over a year ago

belfast

That’s the issue it has many meanings for different people. For us when we started it we described soft swing as basically most things up to full swap which I feel generally how it is perceived. Basically when you start this you need to have clear boundaries or limits and these should be talked about between yourself and your partner first. When you meet you or before hand you should make it clear to the people your meeting what your limits are. As everyone is different everyone has different levels of what may happen at meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it means no actual sex with the other partner. Everything else is on the table. So oral on each others partner, fingers, toys etc. Sex with own partners in each others company or watching. There's alot of do's to be fair.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

It can vary depends what your comfortable with

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Everyone has their own definition. It's best to define your own boundaries and then come to a mutual agreement with any prospective meets. The one common factor is no full sex.

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By *alloping newbies OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southampton

Thank you all for your comments, very much appreciated. Stay safe all xx

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

For us, our understanding of soft swap is everything but full penatrative sex with another. That said, there are then ranges within that as some may not want oral but be ok with touching for example. As other posts suggest, put on your profile what you like so it's clear and there are known boundaries so no one accidently over steps the mark.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"For us it means no actual sex with the other partner. Everything else is on the table. So oral on each others partner, fingers, toys etc. Sex with own partners in each others company or watching. There's alot of do's to be fair. "

That's how we define it too. But obviously there may be variations to this. Know some don't do kissing for example but it's essential to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always considered it everything up to - but not including - full sex. But always worth setting the boundaries before the clothes come off!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

To us its kind of everything apart from penis in vagina or anus. We consider ourselves as predominantly soft swing but we find nothing is set in stone and on occasion we go futher with the right atmosphere and people. You just find ever experience/encounter is different. What's important is just that everyone is on the same sheet with what goes on and has a great time.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We have never done soft swing but it usual infers that anything goes apart from penetrative sex but firm boundaries need to be put into place before you play as to your limits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the list of interests here are way too vague generally and I don’t find them that helpful. As a sub I like to be spanked, fisted etc but someone will list spanking as an interest if they like to give or receive so it would be a lot more helpful if you were able to specify in the list which you prefer.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

For some its you can do oral, but no kissing. Its a minefield that as others have said, set the boundaries early doors

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"I think the list of interests here are way too vague generally and I don’t find them that helpful. As a sub I like to be spanked, fisted etc but someone will list spanking as an interest if they like to give or receive so it would be a lot more helpful if you were able to specify in the list which you prefer. "

Agreed, and with whom too. Anal for example is the man or woman in a bi couple, or both for that matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were soft swing, and our rules are everything except sex, and no kissing, but oral is fine

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By *andJane17Couple
over a year ago

York


"Were soft swing, and our rules are everything except sex, and no kissing, but oral is fine"

Our boundaries exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a former fwb and myself met up with a couple in a club.we all went into a locked room.the lady told us they only did soft swing.me and the other man played while my fwb and the other lady ended up having full sex.her husband wasnt allowed to with me. I quietly walked away and found fun elsewhere. I have since found out that its only the female who has full sex with other's but not the male.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

No penetration I have heard from some or just same room full swap is full penetration or room swapping

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No penetration with swapped partners. Sometimes no oral too

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By *ootballFlowerCouple
over a year ago

Ollerton


"For us it means no actual sex with the other partner. Everything else is on the table. So oral on each others partner, fingers, toys etc. Sex with own partners in each others company or watching. There's alot of do's to be fair. "

This is us and we class ourselves as soft swing...

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

We start with soft swinging but it normally ends up full swapping when everyone gets horny.

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By *an hjCouple
over a year ago

Stowmarket

Just make sure you and the other couple fully understand each other's boundaries.

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By *ylonattireTV/TS
over a year ago

Radcliffe

For us it was not penetrative sex

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
over a year ago

Somerset


"For us it means no actual sex with the other partner. Everything else is on the table. So oral on each others partner, fingers, toys etc. Sex with own partners in each others company or watching. There's alot of do's to be fair. "

Same for us.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

make it what you want it to mean ..everyone is different ..you are you tell others what you want and stick to your rules until such a time you feel the need to change ...you are always in charge of you never allow anyone to change that

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

With the right gent it’s fun

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I wouldn’t worry about definitions.

Just communicate with each other and be clear with potential meets what you want and are looking for

Nothing worse than using definitions which really do mean different things to different people xx

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By *ashesCouple
over a year ago

west mids


"For us it means no actual sex with the other partner. Everything else is on the table. So oral on each others partner, fingers, toys etc. Sex with own partners in each others company or watching. There's alot of do's to be fair. "
That’s exactly what we did when we first ventured into the scene

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

It generally means non penetrative sex. Aside from people go with what they are comfortable with. If we were to soft swap then the emphasis would be on oral and fore play. x

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By *heonixrising500Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

Soft swing I good everything but no penetration

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Soft swing to me would mean pleasure without the actual sex (intercourse)

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hi,my wife and I are new to this and don't fully understand what the term soft swing means. Can anyone clarify please as googling gives many situations "

Simply put; mutual masturbation

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By *WINGStars23Couple
over a year ago

Northwest

We think it's best that you state what you both want in your profile. For example say...

We are a soft swing couple. And rheres are our interests and limits. We are into same room-own partner sex and watching. Mutual masterbation or watching. Or, swapping partners for hand play and oral only.

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By *iking SoftiesCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield

We are soft swing and for us it means not having full sex with other people but any thing else is pretty much in play (with usual exceptions) we have had some great times and met some really hot people, it works fine for us.

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By *eductiveEncountersWoman
over a year ago

South West

For me it means massage,toys,fingers...thats it.No risks.Or very little.As people can squirt/ejaculate.

More sterile and STI risk free.

Oral is NOT risk free !!!!!!!

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