FabSwingers.com forum: First time couple in the club

By *econnaissance OP Couple
over a year ago

north west

Hello everyone. We’re considering dipping our toes into the club scene and would love to hear from others about your first experience - how you felt beforehand, what it was like when you arrived, whether you went as far as you intended, what surprised you etc. Townhouse is reasonably close to us and we read lots of nice things about it.

think to start off, maybe we’d just like to have a nosey and perform in front of others, maybe with some touching too, but nothing crazy. Is this how people usually start?

So exciting but also slightly scared s***less!

Thanks for reading and look forward to reading your responses.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Terrified! Went on my own. But had a great night. Go often now

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By *econnaissance OP Couple
over a year ago

north west

"Terrified! Went on my own. But had a great night. Go often now"

Wow very brave doing it on your own first time. Did it take long to get over the nerves?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We were bricking it! It's a surreal experience watching people having sex. We just played on our own in a room, it was exciting knowing someone could walk in. We absolutely love club nights now

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

We’ve been to townhouse and Cupids , townhouse suits us better

Our first time was a bit night as that is what we are looking for not m/f swap

Both very nervous, stayed over in hotel so few drinks first, then went in had the tour of the club, few drinks then explored and had fun

We’ve been back a few times

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I went on my own to townhouse, got ridiculously d*unk and didn’t play at all! Haha. Now I love it!

Definitely a great first place! Have a look on the website and make contact, they do lots of different events and the hosts are great, they’ll advise which is best for what your looking for.

Think it’s just remember what’s the absolutely worst thing that can happen? You hate and you go home

no big deal xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I went the the VA with a female friend at the time. Turned out to be a lesbian night.

I didn't know what to expect, but it's just a bar where some people go off to have sex.

I'd seen worse in nightclubs in my younger days

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By *wings_n_RoundaboutsMan
over a year ago

The North

"I went the the VA with a female friend at the time. Turned out to be a lesbian night.

I didn't know what to expect, but it's just a bar where some people go off to have sex.

I'd seen worse in nightclubs in my younger days

Said this many a time.

There was worse going on the Piccadilly 21 dance floor. At least in clubs it's 99.9% consenting!

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By *ubguy12345Man
over a year ago

Stanhope

"Hello everyone. We’re considering dipping our toes into the club scene and would love to hear from others about your first experience - how you felt beforehand, what it was like when you arrived, whether you went as far as you intended, what surprised you etc. Townhouse is reasonably close to us and we read lots of nice things about it.

think to start off, maybe we’d just like to have a nosey and perform in front of others, maybe with some touching too, but nothing crazy. Is this how people usually start?

So exciting but also slightly scared s***less!

Thanks for reading and look forward to reading your responses."

Hi,

The first time I visited a Swingers club, I was very scared but the Hostess made me feel welcome.

I was soon invited to my first group sex session.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Terrified! Went on my own. But had a great night. Go often now

Wow very brave doing it on your own first time. Did it take long to get over the nerves? "

There were some great people there that helped me. I said I was new

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

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By *rjt100Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Been with the mrs twice now both never been before and literally shat ourselves... We only played together but really the nervous arnt necessary you only do what you wnat to do.... Hopefully we will be back again soon and might dip our toes touching others

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By *ad_Bod_ToddMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Hi OP,

you may find this thread helpful:

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/1198192

My advice from that thread is reproduced below:

A few tips from my first time as a couple.

1. We picked somewhere with no dress down time i.e. you could stay fully clothed all night if you wanted to.

2. We went to a couples and single ladies only night.

3. We established and agreed some hard rules before we went which were non-negotiable once at the club. Such as:

a. One of us would remain totally sober and had the last word on any activity/interaction.

b. We had a 'secret signal' (squeeze partners little finger) so that we could immediately signal to each other that one of us was feeling uncomfortable with something.

c. Decided what we wanted to do and did NOT want to do before we went.

d. Didn't separate from partner other than going to the loo. Even then we waited outside for the other one!

I sound like a proper barrel of laughs don't I?

It worked for us and made sure that our first time was enjoyable on our terms. Like anything, you'll relax or change your rules as you get more comfortable or familiar with something.

Set your rules, stick to them, chat to lots of different people, have fun (but don't get carried away in the moment), review your experience together openly and honestly.

When we went a couple were very keen on playing together with us which we had agreed before we went that we would not do. They spent ages trying to convince us otherwise, even going so far as to try and separate us in a 'divide and conquer' type approach! Didn't work, we stuck to our rules!

Best wishes.

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By *oson-BlueCouple
over a year ago

North Kent

Our first time was memorable and we went with no expectations at all !!!

After briefly chatting to a couple of nice respectful young men in the hot tub mr b got out to go to the loo, to his surprise when he came back said young men were enjoying a suck on my nipples this in turn led to us going into a side room and we had some sexy fun.

So I would say don’t go with any expectations, keep an open mind and chat to people

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

Some great advice here in the above posts as seems really sensible.

We have the issue where Mr wants to go to a club but Mrs has worries about it being seedy and not being comfortable as it may be too intense. It comes from stories from a friend who attend one single as a bi guy which made out it was a giant free for all lol. But now it's kind of put her off a bit which is a shame as she loves watching. Any advice on this as can show her this post later. We are new ish to the scene as well.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

It was no where near as daunting as we thought but took us a while to figure out etiquette, how to approach others etc. We know some regulars at Townhouse who will be happy to show you around, sometimes going with another couple can help massively.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

d. Didn't separate from partner other than going to the loo. Even then we waited outside for the other one!

If you ar drinking this is even more important, people get carried away and there are a lot of chancers. We have seen couples fall out because one of them made out with someone under the influence.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Love clubs go you will not regret it...

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By *econnaissance OP Couple
over a year ago

north west

Some great advice here, thanks to everyone for pitching in. It’s lovely to hear from so many people who are/have been in our boat. Sounds as though everyone had the initial nerves to begin with but worth it once you’re there.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Some great advice here in the above posts as seems really sensible.

It’s as full on as you make it… speak to a host at a club you pick and they will be able to advise which event is best to attend.

For example at townhouse they have a pub night and full on play nights… one is clearly more in your face than the other, so they can advise which would be a good place to start…

As a single, mid twenties gal who goes in a group of on their own…. I can promise it really isn’t seedy xx

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