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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im a 20 year old single male. im new to this and joined fab recently. I feel like everyone on here is at least 10 years older than me and i don’t have a hope of getting a meet or attending any socials. Would love to hear some female opinions or males who have been in my position thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still in your position is what it is, time will come... I hope

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hopefully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get some better photos, where you actually are showing off your figure better. Women like well dressed men regardless of age.

The best thing you can do to geteets however is to have a hot gf, you then won't be short of offers haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials normally welcome everyone, if unsure ask the organisers

As for being young I'm sure there will be plenty of people interested so long as you put your best self forward and don't act like a lot of idiots on here

Stay safe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for all the advice

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people here are not compatible with most other people. Your age may be an issue for some and others' ages similarly for you.

You're the age that you are and everyone is entitled to their preferences.

It inevitably takes single men months to make just a little headway in getting established here. Most of them don't have realistic expectations, even though that's the 1 thing that's under their control.

Use the forum posts to find tips on how to increase your potential success if, after looking for people here, you think you may get some positive results. There are no guarantees for anything here, ever.

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Do a little work in your profile and get yourself to clubs. Your personality and the respect you show is the thing that will get you the meets and reputation you want. I know guys your age that have more sense and class that people 3 times your age. But you need to sell yourself and stand out. Classy pictures and an engaging profile will make you stand out amongst the huge number of single guys here.

Best of luck buddy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do a little work in your profile and get yourself to clubs. Your personality and the respect you show is the thing that will get you the meets and reputation you want. I know guys your age that have more sense and class that people 3 times your age. But you need to sell yourself and stand out. Classy pictures and an engaging profile will make you stand out amongst the huge number of single guys here.

Best of luck buddy"
Thanks i will definitely start to work on my profile and get myself out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do a little work in your profile and get yourself to clubs. Your personality and the respect you show is the thing that will get you the meets and reputation you want. I know guys your age that have more sense and class that people 3 times your age. But you need to sell yourself and stand out. Classy pictures and an engaging profile will make you stand out amongst the huge number of single guys here.

Best of luck buddy Thanks i will definitely start to work on my profile and get myself out there"

Just remember you are here to have fun , don't try to prove anything to anyone , don't let anything get to you, don't take fab personally, I am sure there are plenty of Hot ladies on here out for the hunt for a young man like yourself, enjoy your self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go out in your beautiful city and chat up girls your own age and ditch this nonsense. You’re far too young!

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

if you feel you are too young then probably are, and your post reflects that

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Personally I would say you’re too young for Fab and the scene in general. I realise not everyone would agree, but that’s my view.

Mutually enjoyable, respectful, recreational sex takes emotional maturity. I don’t think anyone has that at 20. I probably thought I did, but I definitely didn’t. Fab can be a damaging place if you don’t have the emotional tools to deal with it.

Aside from that most people here are old enough to be your parent and so lots won’t find that attractive. Most people, like you, are here for exciting, exceptional sexual experiences. Do you have what it takes to provide that to someone else? Or are you looking for it to be provided to you like a service? There’s a naivety to your profile text that suggests the latter is true.

You have to be careful on here as single men invariably struggle and it can be a real knock to the confidence. Factoring in your age too you may find yourself not as popular as you’d like. I’d hate this to leave a lasting negative impression on you.

I’d have a real think about whether this is the right place for you. Sorry if I sound a bit like an old patronising nag, but I am old enough to be your mother.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Personally I would say you’re too young for Fab and the scene in general. I realise not everyone would agree, but that’s my view.

Mutually enjoyable, respectful, recreational sex takes emotional maturity. I don’t think anyone has that at 20. I probably thought I did, but I definitely didn’t. Fab can be a damaging place if you don’t have the emotional tools to deal with it.

Aside from that most people here are old enough to be your parent and so lots won’t find that attractive. Most people, like you, are here for exciting, exceptional sexual experiences. Do you have what it takes to provide that to someone else? Or are you looking for it to be provided to you like a service? There’s a naivety to your profile text that suggests the latter is true.

You have to be careful on here as single men invariably struggle and it can be a real knock to the confidence. Factoring in your age too you may find yourself not as popular as you’d like. I’d hate this to leave a lasting negative impression on you.

I’d have a real think about whether this is the right place for you. Sorry if I sound a bit like an old patronising nag, but I am old enough to be your mother. "

Probably some of the best advice we've seen given on the forums.

Just looking to get a shag and swinging can be very different things. We feel there are other platforms that are more suitable to people in your age group and to where they are on life. Hope that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go out in your beautiful city and chat up girls your own age and ditch this nonsense. You’re far too young!"

I have to agree I'm afraid, sorry OP!

Wish I was your age again. I definitely has a fantastic time mingling in nightclubs and parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with alot of the comments on here. You are young and free to explore.

You are also old enough to be here!

I'm sure there's many people on here looking for young guys like yourself. Just fix your profile, take tips from other successful looking profiles and always be respectful and engaging.

Your the niche on here, so have every chance to find some fun.

Just don't get attached.

Stay positive

If successful, these encounters will certainly open your eyes and maybe expand your skill set

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By *teveNW81Man
over a year ago

wigan

I'd narrow down what you're looking for as well, I've noticed a lot of ladies on here mention that is off putting. Keep it realistic rather than select everything. Are you really looking to fist a 99yr old?

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"Personally I would say you’re too young for Fab and the scene in general. I realise not everyone would agree, but that’s my view.

Mutually enjoyable, respectful, recreational sex takes emotional maturity. I don’t think anyone has that at 20. I probably thought I did, but I definitely didn’t. Fab can be a damaging place if you don’t have the emotional tools to deal with it.

Aside from that most people here are old enough to be your parent and so lots won’t find that attractive. Most people, like you, are here for exciting, exceptional sexual experiences. Do you have what it takes to provide that to someone else? Or are you looking for it to be provided to you like a service? There’s a naivety to your profile text that suggests the latter is true.

You have to be careful on here as single men invariably struggle and it can be a real knock to the confidence. Factoring in your age too you may find yourself not as popular as you’d like. I’d hate this to leave a lasting negative impression on you.

I’d have a real think about whether this is the right place for you. Sorry if I sound a bit like an old patronising nag, but I am old enough to be your mother.

Probably some of the best advice we've seen given on the forums.

Just looking to get a shag and swinging can be very different things. We feel there are other platforms that are more suitable to people in your age group and to where they are on life. Hope that makes sense.

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It makes me really sad to see so many youngsters on here. Fab has warped the reality of so many of my friends who are my age or similar. These are people who have had experience of real relationships and have still got caught up on the scene and got carried away. A young adult getting straight into this could easily miss out on finding real relationships and just use Fab to connect. I don’t think it’s healthy.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes I think your too young tbh

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

I started my journey at the age of 26, maybe a little older than you are now and I had a girlfriend who enjoyed the scene too. But I played with plenty of women and couples.

Best advice I can give is get to clubs and socials, try be confident, dress smart and be clean. I'm sure you'll get along well then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I would say you’re too young for Fab and the scene in general. I realise not everyone would agree, but that’s my view.

Mutually enjoyable, respectful, recreational sex takes emotional maturity. I don’t think anyone has that at 20. I probably thought I did, but I definitely didn’t. Fab can be a damaging place if you don’t have the emotional tools to deal with it.

Aside from that most people here are old enough to be your parent and so lots won’t find that attractive. Most people, like you, are here for exciting, exceptional sexual experiences. Do you have what it takes to provide that to someone else? Or are you looking for it to be provided to you like a service? There’s a naivety to your profile text that suggests the latter is true.

You have to be careful on here as single men invariably struggle and it can be a real knock to the confidence. Factoring in your age too you may find yourself not as popular as you’d like. I’d hate this to leave a lasting negative impression on you.

I’d have a real think about whether this is the right place for you. Sorry if I sound a bit like an old patronising nag, but I am old enough to be your mother.

Probably some of the best advice we've seen given on the forums.

Just looking to get a shag and swinging can be very different things. We feel there are other platforms that are more suitable to people in your age group and to where they are on life. Hope that makes sense.

It makes me really sad to see so many youngsters on here. Fab has warped the reality of so many of my friends who are my age or similar. These are people who have had experience of real relationships and have still got caught up on the scene and got carried away. A young adult getting straight into this could easily miss out on finding real relationships and just use Fab to connect. I don’t think it’s healthy. "

Ms L is quite correct young man.

You need to be with people your own age and do the things 20 year olds do. Quite frankly anyone who contacts you via pm seeking a meeting needs to have a serious conversation with themselves.

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