FabSwingers.com forum: Mfm

By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

Hi fabbers!

Question for couples - how easy or hard is it to arrange a mfm via fab?

We arent a cuckold couple and Mr is straight so it would be a 3some with another straight Male.

Given there are so many males we would be wanting a good looking guy but importantly someone who is warm & friendly too.

Thanks x

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We don't find it hard to find guys that match our (Char's) taste, but do find that those who are newer and not verified have more of a chance of not turning up and disappearing from Fab without warning.

Post a new pic, you'll get more views and messages for a few hours. Find two you like and arrange a meet with one and see if the other is okay as a backup.

Or go the whole hog and arrange a MMMF in the hope that one of the guys will show.

Good luck.

(Bry)

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By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

That's great advice, thanks

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"That's great advice, thanks

You're welcome. Give us a shout if you're ever down near Peterborough.

Last bit of advice....don't do sex chat with the single guys. If they start badgering you wanting to know what you want them to do to you, what you did last night, etc, then in our experience that's the beginning of the end.

(Bry)

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By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

Thanks again- ha ha will watch out for that!!

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

It isn't hard to find guys that are 'interested' but it is harder to find those that will actually meet for a social or after for olay if invited. Many disappear at the stage of meeting.

As said above also avoid those that badger for more photos or extended dirty talk. That would usually be all that comes if it.

There is also the difficulty if funding those gents that will appeal too. With S she is quite fussy on what she likes so the first challenge is finding those that she finds attractive.

Clubs are also another option although we haven't attended since before lockdown so unsure as to current attendance levels.

You could also consider a suitable couple where you can achieve the same dynamic if you want to experience 2 gents.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"Hi fabbers!

Question for couples - how easy or hard is it to arrange a mfm via fab?

We arent a cuckold couple and Mr is straight so it would be a 3some with another straight Male.

Given there are so many males we would be wanting a good looking guy but importantly someone who is warm & friendly too.

Thanks x "

Do you message them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t say I’m an expert by any means but I’ve been lucky enough to be invited into a couple to play.

All I’ll say is be open, honest and clear about it. Choose some one rather than waiting for them to come to you, make sure the two guys get on and know the rules of engagement and then just enjoy the fun. There are so many Timewasters out there and guys who want an mmf but ignore the husband, which only sours the experience and puts people off.

Good luck in your search.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Technically it’s easy due to the ratio on men in practice lots are just living out a fantasy they could if they wanted too. Then they cum and disappear lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not an expert by any means but I've had a few meetings over the years. The first was arranged via letters and phone from an ad in a magazine!

From the start I always insisted on a meet and a chat with both to ensure were are all into doing it and we know the boundaries. I always make it clear that if either of them wants to stop at any time that's ok and I'll leave. Hubby can choose what involvement he has from sitting another room to getting as 'up close and personal' as he wants.

It's all about everyone having fun and more importantly to me it's about respect, you wouldn't borrow something and damage it, (well I wouldn't) and for me the same goes for fucking some ones wife. I know she's not his property but they love and care for each other so I care that they are both happy and that when I leave no damage has been done. Hopefully I've even helped to make things even better.

PS I've not met anyone through this site as most guys on this site ruin it for the ones of us that take it seriously, by being abusive or uncaring.

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By *nly4funMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

My first swinging experience was being invited to an MMF by the female if a couple that I worked with.

I went round for dinner and a drink or two and got on really well with the husband. She was obviously keen and I heard them talking about it. Next thing I know she’s standing in front of me knicker-less and he’s grinning behind her.

Magical first time!

Get to know someone. Make sure there’s no chance of jealousy. If you’re worried about possibility of feelings or running into them, choose someone from a fair distance. Have a trip away and choose your hotel, etc.

Be relaxed. Expect nothing and enjoy all that may happen. And remember, just like with any relationship, you may need to have a few goes with the same guy for it to get good ??

Feel free to DM me if you want to chat about it. At my age, I’ve done it all several times and I’m told I’m easy to talk with about these things!!

All best with the adventure!

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire

"Hi fabbers!

Question for couples - how easy or hard is it to arrange a mfm via fab?

We arent a cuckold couple and Mr is straight so it would be a 3some with another straight Male.

Given there are so many males we would be wanting a good looking guy but importantly someone who is warm & friendly too.

Thanks x "

I can’t imagine that you would find difficulty getting people interested (I know I would definitely be if we were closer). The difficulty would be sorting the chaff from the wheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do couples feel about guys that are completely new to it? I’m curious to get involved in meeting couples. Not really sure where to start tho

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"How do couples feel about guys that are completely new to it? I’m curious to get involved in meeting couples. Not really sure where to start tho"

We're totally fine with newbies, but have found that they are more likely to not turn up on the day. We figure that the reality of it suddenly dawns on them that they have to have sex with someone watching them and that scares them off.

Have a serious think about whether you really do want to do it and that you feel you can, before making a date.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single guy who is experienced in mfm fun.

For me I find it easier to meet in clubs but I have met via fab too.

My preference is to meet for a social first.

Having also been part of a couple set up in the past it is hard to find real single men... But we are out there.

My tip is always do a social first..if they don't show they are a time waster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Post a new pic, you'll get more views and messages for a few hours. Find two you like and arrange a meet with one and see if the other is okay as a backup.

(Bry)"

Do you tell them which one is the back up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have enjoyed our second mmf bi fun experience.

We would never meet without a social to see if there was a mutual spark. I the male is bi-curious and it’s something we are planning on doing again, once things calm down again!

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Do you tell them which one is the back up? "

We've only felt we've had to do that once and he was fine with it.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As said already, it's easy to get interest due to the sheer number of single guys, trying to find the right one is the hard part.

We only meet verified guys from fab, we always have a social in a bar to see if we all click and are comfortable with each other, we never rush a meet, we talk alot about what we want from the meet and also what they want from the meet.we set boundaries.

We do all of this so that all three of us has an amazing experience.

Good luck with your search.

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

You both look really hot, it shouldn't be too hard for you to make it happen, good luck.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Via Fab it's an absolute ball ache. We'd say go to organised socials. Other couple will recommend single guys that will actually turn up.

Networking For The Win!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Would you be better off going to a club? There's alot of fantasists time wasters on fab

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By *ancs married couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Silverdale

Thanks for the advice everyone! A recommendation via a social makes sense. Clubs arent for us - weve been a few times and aside from from bi fem play weve not really connected. Thanks again you lovely people xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find chatting on the phone in advance is helpful. You can ask the single guy for there phone number and call them making sure you withhold your number.

It helps me as the single guy as can establish some sense of who your meeting and for the couple that the guy is genuine.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"Hi fabbers!

Question for couples - how easy or hard is it to arrange a mfm via fab?

We arent a cuckold couple and Mr is straight so it would be a 3some with another straight Male.

Given there are so many males we would be wanting a good looking guy but importantly someone who is warm & friendly too.

Thanks x "

Best advice we can give is go to a club. We have had tremendous success there (from MFM up to MMMMMF) and a great advantage is you can see and talk to potential playmates before commiting to play.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

Some great advice here from the single males that's nice to see! They're not all bad and clearly experience for them has paid off. Kudos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some great advice here from the single males that's nice to see! They're not all bad and clearly experience for them has paid off. Kudos

Your right were not all bad however the idiots don't half make it difficult for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is their profile complete or a half-arsed one-liner? Have they made an effort to put some pics up and if so, are they good ones even if there are only a few? If they are on the forums, what impression do you get from their ‘green arrow’ previous posts? If they have verifications, what are they like? (They’ll always be good but check out the context)

There’s a fair bit you can potentially glean from here before going further. Don’t be concerned about messaging us first….it’s lovely to be messaged by someone, it happened to me a recently and it made my day!

If they respond well, that’s another tick; if they don’t….. block button.

A social beforehand is also a good idea to make sure they do have some commitment, although I would say make it as relaxed as possible.

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