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By *lawe OP   Man
over a year ago

Dubai & London

Hi all,

Haven't had a great time on this site so far but many have recommended the club scene.

As a single man in London. How do I get into this? People just name random clubs. How do I know which one is for me?

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By *redwilma666Couple
over a year ago

Kilbirnie

Pick a club & go. If you don't enjoy it pick another & try aagain

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Another suggestion is read the club reviews

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By *uicypeaches77Couple
over a year ago

Taunton

Go to chameleons up near walsall .. worth the trip ...lots of folk come up from London contact them first ..

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

London

Look at the review section under CLUBS to get a feel of what it could offer. Some are spas types, and some are clubs types ect..

Some are members only (the better ones?????) so need apply and see what happens. I've applied to 4 and got turned down to 1 (strangely), Find a venue night that looks interesting and visit and see how it turns out.

It will be a learning experience, and hopefully fun one, and you can also determine if it's really for you or not.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Clubs don’t guarantee any action, so its more about having an opportunity to speak with people in person and let your personality show.

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

I think the first thing you need to figure out is your expectation, your profile says you've been a member 4 weeks and your saying you haven't had a great time yet. If you think that this lifestyle is all women dropping their undies for you then clubs might not be for you.

Like most aspects of this lifestyle patience is the key, when I go clubs either as a single or with my wife I always go with the thought of a nice social night, anything else is a bonus.

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the first thing you need to figure out is your expectation, your profile says you've been a member 4 weeks and your saying you haven't had a great time yet. If you think that this lifestyle is all women dropping their undies for you then clubs might not be for you.

Like most aspects of this lifestyle patience is the key, when I go clubs either as a single or with my wife I always go with the thought of a nice social night, anything else is a bonus.

Hope this helps"

Yes 4 weeks is nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to clubs is fucking easy…..

It just means you have to have some courage apply and the confidence to go alone once you have been accepted.

However, how you behave and present yourself will speak volumes and help your experience of a night in a swingers club.

if you’re looking to get anywhere from these clubs then you need to dress smartly and be approachable and engage in conversation.

Do not be a sex pest that cruises the play areas wanking their tiny dick hoping that any random female will touch it as that’s exactly what gives a bad impression and should led to you being hopefully beaten up by the club’s bouncers.

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester


"Hi all,

Haven't had a great time on this site so far but many have recommended the club scene.

As a single man in London. How do I get into this? People just name random clubs. How do I know which one is for me?"

maybe try a dating site instead?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’ve been to 4 different clubs and they are all completely different experiences. I’ve been back to 2 of them several times and still each night Is very different depending on who I go with and who else is there, keep that in mind.

I’m very confident but I’d feel uneasy going to a large club on a busy night on my own , I’d just find it weird, I’d prefer a daytime social in a smaller club , sat at the bar chatting etc. See if you can arrange to meet people at the club or in a bar and go in together maybe ?

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

As a single guy just remember to do your research, you need to find the right club to attend some can be very clique when comes to newbies.

Most clubs are reliant on single guy numbers you will be charged more than couples and singles females.

Personal space, appearance and hygiene are imperative.

Be sociable have fun don’t expect it

Because you paid and entry fee is just that, it doesn’t mean you are going to get anything more than you put in.

Consent - no means no, always ask.

Carry condoms, wipes and a towel. If you have condoms usage blockage forget it bareback in clubs are a no no.

When chatting to a couple don’t just addres the man/woman…it’s rude

A personal tip don’t eat the finger food, if you do wash your hands before and after.

If you find yourself following a lone woman or a couple around…don’t.

Some couples like to show off; as a single guy you’re their audience and nothing more.

If you are shy, not confident and most of all incapable of initiating a conversation, going to a club could be an unpleasant and daunting experience.

In case you are lucky enough to have fun you need to be able to engage in group action or at least a MFM situation where the woman is always the centre of attention. If you can’t do that a club may not be the right choice.

Good luck!

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford


"As a single guy just remember to do your research, you need to find the right club to attend some can be very clique when comes to newbies.

Most clubs are reliant on single guy numbers you will be charged more than couples and singles females.

Personal space, appearance and hygiene

Be sociable have fun don’t expect it

Because you paid and entry fee is just that, it doesn’t mean you are going to get anything more than you put in.

Consent - no means no, always ask.

Carry condoms, wipes and a towel. If you have condoms usage blockage forget it bareback in clubs are a no no.

When chatting to a couple don’t just addres the man/woman…it’s rude

A personal tip don’t eat the finger food, if you do wash your hands before and after.

If you find yourself following a lone woman or a couple around…don’t.

Some couples like to show off; as a single guy you’re their audience and nothing more.

If you are shy, not confident and most of all incapable of initiating a conversation, going to a club could be an unpleasant and daunting experience.

In case you are lucky enough to have fun you need to be able to engage in group action or at least a MFM situation where the woman is always the centre of attention. If you can’t do that a club may not be the right choice.

Good luck!"
perfectly worded when at club even tho we are mainly looking for couple or group fun , we have often got chatting with well behaved single guys , which has lead to a bit of banter , a lot of flirting and has gone on from letting guys watch us to wife giving permission for them to touch , and much more , can lead to lots of fun further on , I have got to trust a few enough to let my wife take them off for play alone , we have been followed around a few times which is very off putting , which leads to door closing during fun

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"Hi all,

Haven't had a great time on this site so far but many have recommended the club scene.

As a single man in London. How do I get into this? People just name random clubs. How do I know which one is for me?"

Visit them all and make your own judgement.

Consider visiting at different times to give them a fair chance.

Good luck.

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By *lawe OP   Man
over a year ago

Dubai & London

Thanks all for the replies, very useful information here!

- you say 4 weeks is nothing. It's more about the frustration of how it is for guys on this site. I'm not hating or here to argue, I know women here have their own problems to deal with on this site. But I cannot speak to their perspective. Can only speak about my own as a straight single guy, who's actually looking for a connection, found a few and they just ghost. I'm reading that for some weird reason that's normal on this site and I should ignore and move on. So I do.

- my reasoning for getting into the club scene isn't so "women drop their panties" .. actually the opposite, I like the idea of the club scene. I'm looking for someone who is looking for the same things as me. Someone who's not just here for ONS.

- in regards to hygiene and manners. I believe I was raised correctly, and I think it's appalling that this needs to be mentioned every 5 minutes to men... Seriously men, get your shit together, not even just for others but for yourself!

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By *lawe OP   Man
over a year ago

Dubai & London

Very helpful, you Sir are the reason i made this post. this is what i was looking for! thanks!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

How do you choose a pub?

It's as simple and as complicated as that.

Do you want daytime to relax or night time to party and play? Quiet or bustling?

Do you need a hot tub, sauna or pool?

How rich are you?

These questions should help filter out what you don'yt want and that's half the battle.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Clubs don’t guarantee any action, so its more about having an opportunity to speak with people in person and let your personality show."

Just like pubs and night clubs then!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Go to chameleons up near walsall .. worth the trip ...lots of folk come up from London contact them first .. "

Cheesey chips and when it's hotter, that secluded outdoor space on the roof.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"As a single guy just remember to do your research, you need to find the right club to attend some can be very clique when comes to newbies.

Most clubs are reliant on single guy numbers you will be charged more than couples and singles females.

Personal space, appearance and hygiene are imperative.

Be sociable have fun don’t expect it

Because you paid and entry fee is just that, it doesn’t mean you are going to get anything more than you put in.

Consent - no means no, always ask.

Carry condoms, wipes and a towel. If you have condoms usage blockage forget it bareback in clubs are a no no.

When chatting to a couple don’t just addres the man/woman…it’s rude

A personal tip don’t eat the finger food, if you do wash your hands before and after.

If you find yourself following a lone woman or a couple around…don’t.

Some couples like to show off; as a single guy you’re their audience and nothing more.

If you are shy, not confident and most of all incapable of initiating a conversation, going to a club could be an unpleasant and daunting experience.

In case you are lucky enough to have fun you need to be able to engage in group action or at least a MFM situation where the woman is always the centre of attention. If you can’t do that a club may not be the right choice.

Good luck!"

Wise words indeed! Women want more that cock. Cake brought to 'Lick and Bicker's' socials will always be an ice breaker.

My other half has made and sold several spikey MASSAGE gloves and they have more power than Willy Wonka's golden tickets. Bring something extra: get something extra. My tally is now near 20 victims who loved being caressed.

They are on my pictures.

Make them smile and they'll tell their friends! It's all about good karma.

If you want to get into her knickers, then you can do a lot worse than being recommended by her best friend.

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester


"Thanks all for the replies, very useful information here!

- you say 4 weeks is nothing. It's more about the frustration of how it is for guys on this site. I'm not hating or here to argue, I know women here have their own problems to deal with on this site. But I cannot speak to their perspective. Can only speak about my own as a straight single guy, who's actually looking for a connection, found a few and they just ghost. I'm reading that for some weird reason that's normal on this site and I should ignore and move on. So I do.

- my reasoning for getting into the club scene isn't so "women drop their panties" .. actually the opposite, I like the idea of the club scene. I'm looking for someone who is looking for the same things as me. Someone who's not just here for ONS.

- in regards to hygiene and manners. I believe I was raised correctly, and I think it's appalling that this needs to be mentioned every 5 minutes to men... Seriously men, get your shit together, not even just for others but for yourself!"

So you find it frustrating that not a lot has happened in 4 weeks? I have been on and off this site for years, be it as a single guy or with different partners I/we have had to wait weeks or even months for contact, I hate to say it and like you not wanting to argue but getting frustrated after 4 weeks shows me you mentality isn't right.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I'm impatient, so I can't criticise.

Ask for Clubs. Tell them you're a single bloke and if they let you in, it's a start. Have a laugh and a joke with couples. Speak to the male more than the female, as us blokes have fragile egos. Ask for a veri, veri them back and repeat.

Kestrels: the daytime club, that shares the same building as Abfabs in Heathrow, is a really good club for you.

It's got a small bar, a pool table, cinema room, some hot tubs, a dungeon, a few private rooms and a really big pool to swim around. It's a great club.

Has anyone said SMILE?

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By *lawe OP   Man
over a year ago

Dubai & London

i disagree, me saying this isnt fun for 4 weeks and you saying ive been here for years... neither merits a medal. i want to be on this site to have fun. i am trying to give it a chance but losing hope...

If someone tells me try an activity and im not finding it fun, its not giving me anything in return. its beating my confidence... im not going to continue doing it for a year or more just to tell people i have been doing it for years...

i know there is a good thing to come from this site, ive seen glimpses of it. but usually its just people without manners or just haters who just show who they really are.

Me saying its frustrating after 4 weeks is just that. it is what it is.

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester


"i disagree, me saying this isnt fun for 4 weeks and you saying ive been here for years... neither merits a medal. i want to be on this site to have fun. i am trying to give it a chance but losing hope...

If someone tells me try an activity and im not finding it fun, its not giving me anything in return. its beating my confidence... im not going to continue doing it for a year or more just to tell people i have been doing it for years...

i know there is a good thing to come from this site, ive seen glimpses of it. but usually its just people without manners or just haters who just show who they really are.

Me saying its frustrating after 4 weeks is just that. it is what it is. "

Well if I were you I'd get used to feeling frustrated as it takes a lot of work as a single guy to get noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all for the replies, very useful information here!

- you say 4 weeks is nothing. It's more about the frustration of how it is for guys on this site. I'm not hating or here to argue, I know women here have their own problems to deal with on this site. But I cannot speak to their perspective. Can only speak about my own as a straight single guy, who's actually looking for a connection, found a few and they just ghost. I'm reading that for some weird reason that's normal on this site and I should ignore and move on. So I do.

- my reasoning for getting into the club scene isn't so "women drop their panties" .. actually the opposite, I like the idea of the club scene. I'm looking for someone who is looking for the same things as me. Someone who's not just here for ONS.

- in regards to hygiene and manners. I believe I was raised correctly, and I think it's appalling that this needs to be mentioned every 5 minutes to men... Seriously men, get your shit together, not even just for others but for yourself!"

It's a fair insight....

Consider daytime clubbing, so you get a feel for the place, atmosphere and remember you could meet a female who you could see, meet on a regular basis, if you wanted....

All the best x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check out the club reviews for your area

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