FabSwingers.com forum: Bi play at clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all, we've been enjoying the lifestyle for a while now but want to dip our toes into the club scene.

Our biggest concern is the freedom to explore our bi side there, particularly my male partner who's orally bi.

Is this accepted or still judged / taboo?

Honest opinions very welcome

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By *octordigitsMan
over a year ago

nearby

Always amazes me that male bi play is frowned upon whilst female is seemingly actively encouraged ........ in a club environment my advice is firstly to go to a bi night ...... otherwise use a private room

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

On the whole unless it’s a bi night it’s generally frowned upon which is a case of double standards as no one has a problem with two women going down on each other. The best bet is to arrange a meet with a bi guy and use a private room where you can lock the door that’s what we did. x

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I've had people make vomiting sounds when they've seen me (Rob) playing with a guy in a club

It shouldn't be the case but there can be a general homophobic current in clubs towards guy on guy play. Not all the time but you need to be aware of it.

As above, go on a bi night or find a dark corner to do the disgusting deed

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs

I suspect it depends on the club, but when I went to Club Play in Blackpool they were open to it. They have a bi playroom and there was bi play happening in various rooms during the night.

It might be a good idea to look for a club that runs a bi night to try it, unless of course you can arrange to meet bi people there in advance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies.

Disappointing but not surprising!

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Orally bi here, and I have never played with a guy at a club because of this. Private rooms are the answer, or what I prefer is a hotel or home where there is no anxiety during play, and everyone is comfortable making for a great evening.. Hosting tonight at mine in a hottub a sexy bi couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We've only met in hotels and homes thus far.

Had hoped to avoid the tedium of trying to find an orally bi genuine man on this site by getting into the club scene.

It's not sounding hopeful!

Shame you're a bit of a distance from us

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

If you’re in the north east, club F is home to some bi play parties, which are warm, welcoming, accepting, and really friendly. They’re taking a break for health reasons, but I think they’ll be back. I hear really good things about bi Tuesdays in Leeds at Quest, too, and if you fancy a road trip Play in Blackpool has a reputation for being bi-positive and not just for women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for this - Club F would be our first choice just for ease but we'd be happy to make a trip of it for a positive experience.

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By *angerous123Man
over a year ago

Leeds

There's still a lot of homophobia in the swinging scene unfortunately, so I'd recommend going to a specific bi event

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By *oung At Heart 73Man
over a year ago

Near the seaside

It is a shame there is so much homophobia, I don't think the homophobes realise just how much more fun it is to play with both males a females at the same time, the taste and feeling of sucking a nice hard penis immediately after it has pulled out of a wet vagina is out of this world, just a shame we don't get this opportunity enough

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By *orkshireDrifterMan
over a year ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

A total 'no no', hypocritical yes, but reflective of societies true feelings as to M+M sex, despite all the pretence otherwise.

Clubs are ultra-hetero so I less it is a bi night stick to meeting individual guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such a shame that there isn’t a greater appreciation of man on man activities in clubs. I was very disappointed not to see any when I visited a club!

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By *ewfie02Couple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I am a bi guy, part of a couple. Never had a problem at a club. We just go into a play room and shut the door.

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By *orkshireDrifterMan
over a year ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

You have summed it up: having to effectively go private!

It is odd though that a lot of women enjoy watching two or more guys having sex.

A friend organise greedy girl parties and quite often given the woman enjoys it when guys get together.

In clubs is it that the guys worried about their own sublimated urges to words other guys have to put on a macho pretence to bolster their image?

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By *dd_soxMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

Some clubs have a wrist band you can wear to show you are open to some bi play

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really appreciate the replies - bit depressing but we'd rather know.

Had a few private messages suggesting some specific bi events that I'm booking today!

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By *ustfortheforumsWoman
over a year ago

I know when I went to Swindon Swingers they didn’t care about the same sex playing, like they didn’t care if bi men wanted to play. So I would suggest going to Swindon Swingers

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By *uffolkClareClactonDaveCouple
over a year ago

Felixstowe/Clacton-on-Sea

This is all useful information for mess I'm now looking to experiment with guys, not least because it turns my Mistress on.

We're hoping to arrange a meet at hers for next weekend with a bi guy she knows, and if I like it we'll likely go to one of Spicy's Bi Nights at Jaydees, at which we are members.

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've received invites to club nights on here that have been withdrawn when they've actually read my profile and realised I'm trans so I'd say there's a problem with diversity and inclusion on the scene as much as in general life.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

With an ex boyfriend we actually got told off by a club as he and another guy were having sex. We got reported. They were in a room. Others chose to watch and get offended. Fucking hate double standards and judgemental arses so I pick my club nights carefully. I’m only going somewhere where there is no discrimination and all genders and sexualities are welcome. There are some great clubs and bi nights aimed at men allowing them the freedom to do what they want to do without worrying about what others may think or say.

V x

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By *imber373Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I have received oral by a guy at VA’s milf club and it didn’t cause a riot

We played in the open and there was loads of straight fun happening around us

Joined some of the guys afterwards getting blown by a hotwife, with her stag hubby observing. Felt at ease and would do it again

On last visit to Pleasures a bi mmf was happening and some women were totally mesmerised by it all

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

Monday nights at chameleons in Darlington is a fantastic bi night

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By *appy2100Couple
over a year ago

kensington

"Hi all, we've been enjoying the lifestyle for a while now but want to dip our toes into the club scene.

Our biggest concern is the freedom to explore our bi side there, particularly my male partner who's orally bi.

Is this accepted or still judged / taboo?

Honest opinions very welcome"

My hubby is the same he more bi playful in more private places

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By *exysoul888TV/TS
over a year ago

Newcastle

Club play have bi night every few months or so where you have to be bi (and verified as bi) to be added to the guest list. It's always a blast!

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By *ingAlMan
over a year ago

hereford

Chams have a bi night every Monday, great fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go in a lockable room...then no-one else can see you anyway and you can enjoy

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Club Play is owned and run by a bi couple and bi play is one thing you will not get told off for. Its the most open and inclusive club I have been to where I can be myself, hence why I keep going back.

They have regular bi nights where only people verified as bi or are known to the management as being bi are allowed. Unfortunately you've just missed one as it was last night (Friday). They are crazy filthy nights and im gutted I missed it due to work.

But the rest of the nights that are not dedicated bi nights there is no stopping you from having bi fun. They have an open bi play room you can use which can be lots of fun.

Hope to seee some of you there in the near future xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been to a few clubs and witnessed bi males doing oral while the female part of the couple is having fun too.

This was at Townhouse, a none specific night.

It was intriguing to see as neither of us have witnessed bi male play before. We just had our own fun and watched the scene unfold.

There was no drama or inappropriate attention drawn and neither should there have been.

Tbh I never would expect there to be any homophobic issues in any club. The people using these clubs are very Liberal and friendly.

After all we all have our interests and kinks.

I think the awkward part for guys is identifying other bi guys.

It would be a good idea for all clubs to have bi play rooms where all persons inside must be bi friendly / not necessarily bi. Creating a safe place for people to avoid such anxieties.

Just my thoughts.

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By *ravitysUnionCouple
over a year ago

EXETER

Both bi, both quite happy to play bi and carry on. We don't feel the need to use a locked room and hide anything. It's quite a liberal community after all? If others have a problem with it that's on them, I'm too busy with a cock in my mouth to care

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By *zlakMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I had never been to a club until last month. I went to a bi night and was really nervous but after a while felt totally comfortable and there was lots of bi play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of bi guys playing in townhouse on a bi nights lots of sucking and guys been fucked a good night next one in January next

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By *uffolkClareClactonDaveCouple
over a year ago

Felixstowe/Clacton-on-Sea

It would be a good idea for all clubs to have bi play rooms where all persons inside must be bi friendly / not necessarily bi. Creating a safe place for people to avoid such anxieties.

Just my thoughts.

I think that's the perfect solution. Also, it would allow those who are bi-curious but hesitant about giving it a go (me, for example!

) an opportunity to see the play happening and decide, with the consent of the other people playing of course, whether to join in.

Sometimes, just being impulsive in a relaxed atmosphere can make all the difference as to whether one joins in with play or not.

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By *orestguy28Man
over a year ago

Glos

"Hi all, we've been enjoying the lifestyle for a while now but want to dip our toes into the club scene.

Our biggest concern is the freedom to explore our bi side there, particularly my male partner who's orally bi.

Is this accepted or still judged / taboo?

Honest opinions very welcome"

Monday nights is Bi night at chameleons in Darlaston just off the M6 J9. Never frowned upon, never judged always encouraged to have fun and the staff are great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With an ex boyfriend we actually got told off by a club as he and another guy were having sex. We got reported. They were in a room. Others chose to watch and get offended. Fucking hate double standards and judgemental arses so I pick my club nights carefully. I’m only going somewhere where there is no discrimination and all genders and sexualities are welcome. There are some great clubs and bi nights aimed at men allowing them the freedom to do what they want to do without worrying about what others may think or say.

V x "

Wow

thats shameful attitude from a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's surprising to hear that there's any form of discrimination in a club. I've never been to one, but I just assumed being Liberal was the core to everything, and everyone should be allowed to do what they want as long as its consensual?? It may be 2051 before that attitude prevails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m orally bi and have had great times at Club Play events. I also think you’d be ok at Club F in the NE too. I’d be happy to meet you too. x

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By *i winkersCouple
over a year ago

manchester

V x "

That's awful but me and my partner had the same thing at a club when we first got together.

Club play is very inclusive on all nights they are open. Seen and taken part in completely open bi male play.

At the end of the day people shouldn't shame anyone its on the same level as kink shaming, which is completely frowned upon.

Let us know where you decide to go we have been to 95% of the bi nights in the country

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone - bit of a mix of experiences but I'm definitely hearing private play is the safest way forward. Such a shame as we both like to be watched.

We reached out to the organisers of bi events at Club F but sadly due to ill health they've cancelled their meets.

We live in Newcastle so Shhh probably too close and think they allow phones.

Leeds is a probability but will require some planning and a hotel etc.

Shame there's not more options closer!

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

We have been to a few bi nights at Cupid’s and townhouse plenty of action at townhouse, no so much at Cupid’s

Also been townhouse on regular nights and we use the gloryhole there and MrJ has also sucked others in open rooms with no issue

Main problem is identifying the bi males

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

So disappointing to read people have been judged in clubs.

For any bi guys out there that have ever been shamed, can I (female half) just say that guy on guy play is super hot, and made even better by being able to join in so never be ashamed!

We are hoping to head to a bi night somewhere in the very near future as L has only had a couple of at home experiences so far but would like to explore more so thanks all for the recommendations!

Also to the OP, you're both hot so if you're ever in the Midlands, give us a shout

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aw shucks

We certainly will..

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By *havenpussycatsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Think it’s a turn on - we’d be happy to see in clubs more often.

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

I think gatehouse in Bolton is set up as mainly bi club - we haven’t been yet but hope to get there soon

Any local bi couples say hi and let’s see what w can sort out for a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think gatehouse in Bolton is set up as mainly bi club - we haven’t been yet but hope to get there soon

Any local bi couples say hi and let’s see what w can sort out for a meet"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think gatehouse in Bolton is set up as mainly bi club - we haven’t been yet but hope to get there soon

Any local bi couples say hi and let’s see what w can sort out for a meet"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will be in townhouse on the next bi night in January

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"We will be in townhouse on the next bi night in January "

Hopefully we will See you then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We will be in townhouse on the next bi night in January

Hopefully we will See you then"
ok cool

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By *ockape82Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Gatehouse is an all inclusive club no judgement what so ever, everyone is polite and open

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I don’t understand this notion of ‘orally bi’. I have gay friends who have said that they don’t do anal, but they don’t get into specifics when expressing their sexuality.

Re the original question, I don’t think many will pay it any attention at all. Most people are caught up in what’s going on (or not) for them.

Just be you and enjoy

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I don’t understand this notion of ‘orally bi’. I have gay friends who have said that they don’t do anal, but they don’t get into specifics when expressing their sexuality.

Re the original question, I don’t think many will pay it any attention at all. Most people are caught up in what’s going on (or not) for them.

Just be you and enjoy

"orally bi" refers to men who aren't necessarily attracted to men but who do enjoy playing with a cock. Your gay friends are sexually attracted to other men and (presumably) do everything apart from anal so it's not an apt comparison

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I don’t understand this notion of ‘orally bi’. I have gay friends who have said that they don’t do anal, but they don’t get into specifics when expressing their sexuality.

Re the original question, I don’t think many will pay it any attention at all. Most people are caught up in what’s going on (or not) for them.

Just be you and enjoy

Ok cool.

Perhaps it wasn’t then.

So what you’re saying really is that these guys aren’t as bi as the next bisexual person, they just like cock and not the person attached to it. Like a gay guy who isn’t attracted to women, but could give one head.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

In the example the gay guy would obviously be attracted to a vagina, just not the woman attached to it.

Intriguing.

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"In the example the gay guy would obviously be attracted to a vagina, just not the woman attached to it.

Intriguing."

That would also indicate a bisexual guy but with romantic preferences for a guy but enjoys some sexual aspects of a woman

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"In the example the gay guy would obviously be attracted to a vagina, just not the woman attached to it.

Intriguing.

That would also indicate a bisexual guy but with romantic preferences for a guy but enjoys some sexual aspects of a woman"

Yes it would.

Again, interesting. At the end of the day however people should be who they are and not (a) worry too much about the opinions of others; and (b) not get too caught up with labels.

Sure others can add (c), (d) and so on.

Interesting discussion.

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"In the example the gay guy would obviously be attracted to a vagina, just not the woman attached to it.

Intriguing.

That would also indicate a bisexual guy but with romantic preferences for a guy but enjoys some sexual aspects of a woman

Yes it would.

Again, interesting. At the end of the day however people should be who they are and not (a) worry too much about the opinions of others; and (b) not get too caught up with labels.

Sure others can add (c), (d) and so on.

Interesting discussion. "

Oh absolutely, labels are so annoying.

Our profile says bi-curious, which is the closest I could find. I'm not fully bisexual in terms of I don't crave or week out another woman to play with or find other women romantically attractive, however wouldn't say no to light play with another lady in the right setting with the right lady and I love playing with boobs (mostly for novelty as mine are small so I like big ones!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think everyone agrees that people shouldn't worry about labels and be free to be who they choose sexually or otherwise but as lots of the posts on here have demonstrated that's not the case in reality.

My original post wasn't about judging my husband's sexuality, it was asking if we'd be accepted in the club scene.

The responses have been really mixed and incredibly helpful for us and it seems others in our position.

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By *zlakMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"We will be in townhouse on the next bi night in January "

When is the bi night in January? I looked on the website but it didnt say any bi nights?

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By *ravitysUnionCouple
over a year ago

EXETER

Steamers Quay bi night on 7th January. We're likely going. Any South West based folks come and have some fun xx

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"We will be in townhouse on the next bi night in January

When is the bi night in January? I looked on the website but it didnt say any bi nights? "

14 January it’s on the what’s on page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will be there on the 14 Jan in townhouse

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By *DLondonCouple
over a year ago

London

Interesting thread. We have always found it a bit weird how closed the 'lifestyle' is about bi guys. We tend only to go clubs on weekends and, at least in London, there are no bi-nights on weekends

I think using bracelets at clubs is a great idea. Would be better of course if we didn't need to use such things but we have had more than a couple of good conversations turned awkward when we mentioned what we like/looking for - we don't expect everyone to be into the same stuff (bi or otherwise) we but usually get a weird/vibe killing reaction (a simple 'we're not into that but enjoy the night' would be enough).

Sounds like there is more bi fun to be had outside London!

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By *urious SquirrelsCouple
over a year ago

Highlands

We are thinking of going to Xtasia for one of their Bi nights, but unsure if they are any good. Can anyone recommend it? Or is Chams better?

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By *oved Up 2Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

"We are thinking of going to Xtasia for one of their Bi nights, but unsure if they are any good. Can anyone recommend it? Or is Chams better?"

Bi Monday at Chams is great, our favourite day to visit

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By *edheadsruleCouple
over a year ago

lancashire

I'd say go to club play where it really isn't frowned upon, the owners are openly bi x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I was playing with a guy who was bi curious and a trans friend. I don’t see what the issue is with bi guys.

People need to walk on by if it’s not what they’re in to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like good advice. Anybody wanna take me with them

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"We are thinking of going to Xtasia for one of their Bi nights, but unsure if they are any good. Can anyone recommend it? Or is Chams better?

Bi Monday at Chams is great, our favourite day to visit"

I need to make it down that way on a Monday..

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By *zlakMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"We will be in townhouse on the next bi night in January

When is the bi night in January? I looked on the website but it didnt say any bi nights?

14 January it’s on the what’s on page"

Thank you

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By *aul349Man
over a year ago

Newcastle area

The worst reaction I ever saw to bi-males playing was at a club in Leeds about 10 years ago where the staff stopped them and told them to leave as they were offending some of their other male customers.

They didn't seem to have a problem with bi-females playing....

I would like to note that these male customers turned up in an all male group and were a complete nuisance the whole evening making unsolicited attempts to join couples and groups.. ruined everyone else's night..

Apparently they were friends of the owner and were clearly half d*unk.

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By *urious SquirrelsCouple
over a year ago

Highlands

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By *urious SquirrelsCouple
over a year ago

Highlands

"I'd say go to club play where it really isn't frowned upon, the owners are openly bi x"

Thanks, we will give a Monday at Chams a try then.

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'd say go to club play where it really isn't frowned upon, the owners are openly bi x

Thanks, we will give a Monday at Chams a try then."

I'm thinking the same... Been to Chams on Friday and Saturday nights but I wanna try Monday nights for some same sex fun..

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

"I'd say go to club play where it really isn't frowned upon, the owners are openly bi x

Thanks, we will give a Monday at Chams a try then.

I'm thinking the same... Been to Chams on Friday and Saturday nights but I wanna try Monday nights for some same sex fun.."

agreed!

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