FabSwingers.com forum: Block after good meet.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So as the title says really. Had a great meet a little while back, good chat and laughter, shared some nice eye contact. We kissed and I received oral. We agreed to carry on chatting and meet again so I could repay the favour. A week after meet, kik messages left delivered, her profile offline and unable to send a message. Do you think they got there experience they wanted and just left? Thanks.

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

"So as the title says really. Had a great meet a little while back, good chat and laughter, shared some nice eye contact. We kissed and I received oral. We agreed to carry on chatting and meet again so I could repay the favour. A week after meet, kik messages left delivered, her profile offline and unable to send a message. Do you think they got there experience they wanted and just left? Thanks."

Move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it sounds that way. Don't let that taint the moment you enjoyed.

All the best x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know but there could be a few reasons. It's happened to us a couple of times. One guy actually came to our house and stayed overnight. Then just deleted his profile. It was a different site and he rejoined some time later when he fancied doing it all again.

I think everyone has a different attitude towards casual sex. Some literally keep any connection to the time they're with people and others like to be in contact outside of that. I don't think the first type of person necessarily thinks any the less of you.

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

It could be any number of things. Personal circumstances, a reality check, a change of heart.....

Take it on the chin and move on I'd say

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By *avelovesfeetMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I was talking to a couple a few weeks back. Agreed a meet at there place. have me the postcode then blocked me

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

This kind of thing is hard to "take on the chin". It feels disrespectful to enjoy a sexual experience with someone, which you need to let your guard down for to an extent then just blank them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally I think it may have been more towards Personal circumstances. As it just went boom nothing. Perhaps they had fun then realised actually this isn't right? At least they had an experience they wanted and enjoyed the moment for what it was. Shame as it was amazing oral

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clearly a fickle person, a bitter pill to swallow by someone who is not. Not everyone thinks the same as you, some happily shit on others to get what they want.

It's just disrespectful and rude behaviour.

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

Were they a newbie couple?

Recently I had a great meeting with a newbie couple in a club where we clicked straight way and had a great social and playing time supported by lovely verifications after.

Few weeks later in the same club I noticed they were constantly arguing as she was getting too much attenttion and Mr didn't seen very happy. Cutting the story short they left early and the next day their profile was deleted from Fab. My guess is maybe they had a fantasy to swing but once achieved they decided the life style were not for them. My advice don't overthink and move on who knows you will hear again from them in the future.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah it was a relatively new profile. But they've since changed the profile name recently. It would be good to meet again as she was quite sweet.

Obviously I'm not going to be too hung up on it. But to have a great meet to then go off comms is a bit weird.

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By *lamorousBeautyLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

"This kind of thing is hard to "take on the chin". It feels disrespectful to enjoy a sexual experience with someone, which you need to let your guard down for to an extent then just blank them. "

I agree, it also makes you weary of doing this again. I recently got stood up by a play partner with whom I had a few experiences previously and it is both dispiriting and disappointing because he was an amazing lover (or simply just a brilliant match for me) and of course, I lost this now because being stood up is not for me so I would not risk such a possibility again with him.

It then also makes me wonder what is the point in looking - if this is how I have been treated by someone who was great then what are my chances when there are so many who are not great at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens - here or other places - best just treat it as part of the lifestyle we all try to lead on here and not take it personal

or of course it might have been that she felt a bit let down - but we wasn't there

onwards and upwards

J x

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I would really not worry about it and move on. From my experience as a single guy (post break of a marriage at the time) on Fab and other sites women can be flaky because simply they have stuff brewing in their home life's or just in an unstable place at the time. Which as a separated single parent at the time sleeping with other single parents in the same boat I totally got. It's OK to change direction, get cold feet and (in my experience in some cases) change direction back. Now yours/there's circumstances may not be exactly the same but my point is people have a life and things outside of this world. And that's disappointing I get, it was for me. But I totally get people prioritising what's what they need over a causal fling without mess and complication. Which I suspect has happened here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think it may have been more towards Personal circumstances. As it just went boom nothing. Perhaps they had fun then realised actually this isn't right? At least they had an experience they wanted and enjoyed the moment for what it was. Shame as it was amazing oral

Well you must of liked it too.

That's all that matters surely

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

From what you wrote you received oral and wanted another meet to return the favour.

Possibly the meet wasn't quite as good for them as it was for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If it wasn't a good meet for them than why would they want to give oral? ??

There was some kissing and playing with each other then she proceeded to give oral. Messages after were that another meet was very much on the cards.

Anyways I've come to the conclusion that life happens and her circumstances may have changed.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Yeah it was a relatively new profile. But they've since changed the profile name recently. It would be good to meet again as she was quite sweet.

Obviously I'm not going to be too hung up on it. But to have a great meet to then go off comms is a bit weird.

“Quite sweet”.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"This kind of thing is hard to "take on the chin". It feels disrespectful to enjoy a sexual experience with someone, which you need to let your guard down for to an extent then just blank them. "

Very true, but unfortunately it is on the rise, particularly from men. Before the meet, or even during, they're more than happy to meet again. Then- silence.

To the OP- unfortunately, you need to be quite thick skinned and don't get attached easily to be a true swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And often people will say, or even write a veri, that it was great, even if it wasn't.

There are so many possibilities OP, and although it sucks, best to chalk it up to experience and move on. A block is a pretty clear message that there isn't going to be a repeat play meet.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I agree, it also makes you weary of doing this again. I recently got stood up by a play partner with whom I had a few experiences previously and it is both dispiriting and disappointing because he was an amazing lover (or simply just a brilliant match for me) and of course, I lost this now because being stood up is not for me so I would not risk such a possibility again with him.

It then also makes me wonder what is the point in looking - if this is how I have been treated by someone who was great then what are my chances when there are so many who are not great at all..."

That's quite a thought-provoking experience you've shared. When two people have invested so much time, effort and 'feelings and emotions' only for it to be jettisoned without due consideration for other person, you're left with very little verve and vigour to even consider bothering the next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was this a single girl you met but she's part of a couple ?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I only ever meet once (outside of clubs for 1:1) so it’s not an issue to do it. But i make sure they know that.

Seems a bit harsh if they didn’t say that was their plan

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Lots of potential reasons but that's their way of doing things.

Take each day and interaction as it comes. You only need to know what you want and why you do things the way that you do them

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"From what you wrote you received oral and wanted another meet to return the favour.

Possibly the meet wasn't quite as good for them as it was for you. "

This. People change their minds!

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By *icklixitMan
over a year ago

sunderland

As we say up north, there's nowt so queer as folk!

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Only the other person can answer your question / queery.

I focus my energy attention on those who do communicate in a positive way, anything else is a waste of that.

Delete, block if necessary move on.

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By *d4ugirlsMan
over a year ago

Green Cove Springs

"This kind of thing is hard to "take on the chin". It feels disrespectful to enjoy a sexual experience with someone, which you need to let your guard down for to an extent then just blank them. "

Tough on single guys on here between the OP's experience and just browsing Profiles and then getting blocked for paying respect with a fab or two.

Lol crazy at times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People's circumstances change, relationships evolve for good or bad. Profiles get deleted and then later regretted and missed.

Don't take it personally.

Not only that, there are enough head cases on here, stalkers or people prepared to act maliciously.

For all you know they may have been harassed by someone, exposed as a swinger or came close to. For some that's devasting.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe after she gave you oral she was expecting you to return the favour at the same meet, or have sex with her.

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