I think it's unreasonable for others to make assumptions that your home is the equivalent of a free airbnb, if you don't know them.
It is reasonable to provide hotel and transport information though. And to meet somewhere neutral first, before having people come to your home.
If you are really planning on an almost nonstop sex party, where you need to retire for just a little rest, you could offer beds but strangers having access to your full home is probably better only when you know them well enough.
I'd be willing to contribute towards them using a hotel, so that we had some free space and privacy. They get a subsidised trip somewhere, you get full use of your place.
If you provide the equipment facilities of a hotel room for your engagement, then you are providing enough. This would be a play space, seating and cleaning facilities. If that room and access from your home entrance is safe, clean and has easy access, you are fulfilling the facilities needed to be together. You can provide tea and coffee, plus they have access to the water in your place - any essential special requirements they have, are something that they can fulfil.
If you are pressured to provide free bed and board, I'd consider the suitability of the people.
A lot of hotel accommodation can be advance booked for £60 or so, so it's not too much for what might be otherwise freeloaders, to have to pay. It's an amount many can't afford often but if their circumstances dictate overnight stays, they could consider it to be necessary, if they don't know the people they are visiting. I'd pay half, at a push, to get them from under my feet, for a while. |
