FabSwingers.com forum: Replying to pics getting a fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So what are your thoughts on responding to a couple who have "fabbed" some of my profile pics but whose own profile suggests Im not there type ? Dont want to be a pain by messaging someone who's not looking for what im offering but on the other hand they did "fab" my pics.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You could always send a polite "thanks for the fabs" message. If they don't respond you have your answer

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

"You could always send a polite "thanks for the fabs" message. If they don't respond you have your answer

This is what I tend to do.

If I don't get a reply, I'm still happy someone liked my picture!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thats what I thought but wasnt to sure of the etiquette. I guess nothing ventured nothing gained !

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"You could always send a polite "thanks for the fabs" message. If they don't respond you have your answer

This^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think it's weird to send a message if you blatantly do not fit what someone is looking for on a profile. If I fab a pic it's because I like it, it's interesting/fun, looks sexy etc. Which does not translate to wanting to meet someone. I used to fab a lot of pics but got fed up with the messages of entitlement that I would then receive - how dare I fab a pic if I then didn't want to travel 400 miles to shag them! So I rarely fab now. So just enjoy the fabs on your pics and, I would suggest, only message the fabber if you are within their requirements and geographically within reason.

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By *heGentleman1888Man
over a year ago

Halstead

I hardly get any views on my profile and people very rarely read my messages. I’ve had about 2 replies since joining and both been negative replies. I guess there’s something wrong with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I don’t fab pics! You can guarantee that minutes later you’ll get a message wanting to chat etc. and wondering why I don’t want to meet because I fabbed their pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I don’t fab pics! You can guarantee that minutes later you’ll get a message wanting to chat etc. and wondering why I don’t want to meet because I fabbed their pic. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hardly get any views on my profile and people very rarely read my messages. I’ve had about 2 replies since joining and both been negative replies. I guess there’s something wrong with me "

Many women view in stealth and don't show on your Looked at me page.

You have 3 veris so 3x better than many men.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

We fab pics for all sorts of reasons but if we want to engage with someone we send them a message. We don't check who fabs our pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you could fab some of theirs or send a wink. It’s quite handy to have a bit of tit for tat to find out if there’s even vague interest.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"I hardly get any views on my profile and people very rarely read my messages. I’ve had about 2 replies since joining and both been negative replies. I guess there’s something wrong with me "

Go to socials and clubs to meet people ...chatting and meeting via fabs is a long game.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"We fab pics for all sorts of reasons but if we want to engage with someone we send them a message. We don't check who fabs our pictures."

This, on a impulse its usually for a genuine admiration of the image, one of us has an appreciation for the art, the other puts up the snaps on show

Likewise engagement with anyone, including some that have fabbed ours is because why be coy? If you want to go to the next level, someone has to make the first move.

Someone we both adore, really adore, thought we'd never go with them but were astonished by getting a message saying that we were interested in them. That wouldn't have been known if it had been left to fan pics tennis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could always send a polite "thanks for the fabs" message. If they don't respond you have your answer

This is what I've always done in the past and has led to some great chatting and connection

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

We fab pics if we find them hot or are interested and more than happy if the person messages. However, we will also more than likely message if we are interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply saying thanks it’s only polite, they don’t have to respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think it's weird to send a message if you blatantly do not fit what someone is looking for on a profile. If I fab a pic it's because I like it, it's interesting/fun, looks sexy etc. Which does not translate to wanting to meet someone. I used to fab a lot of pics but got fed up with the messages of entitlement that I would then receive - how dare I fab a pic if I then didn't want to travel 400 miles to shag them! So I rarely fab now. So just enjoy the fabs on your pics and, I would suggest, only message the fabber if you are within their requirements and geographically within reason."

This

fabbing a pic doesn't mean i want to meet them or even chat

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

I send a brief 'Thanks' message, and try to reciprocate with 'Fabs' of one or more of their pics...

....usually that's it, but occasionally it leads to exchanges of messages - sometimes with a view to something more...

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

In all honesty, we would never message and just see fabs as just a small compliment.

We fab if a pic stands out or we can see that there has been effort or an attempt at originality.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"In all honesty, we would never message and just see fabs as just a small compliment.

We fab if a pic stands out or we can see that there has been effort or an attempt at originality."

Fabs could be improved though if we could maybe have a thumbs up or thumbs down.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

I don't think many people fab pictures expecting to receive messages in return. For one thing it's perfectly possible to like a picture but not want to meet or engage with the subject of it for whatever reasons(s).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t see that sending a polite “thank you for the fabs, I have read your profile and I know I’m not what you’re looking for but just wanted to say thanks, it means a lot” kind of thing would be a big problem.

You acknowledge that you have read their profile and that you’re not expecting anything and if they want to take conversation further they can.

Just my 2 cents

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"I can’t see that sending a polite “thank you for the fabs, I have read your profile and I know I’m not what you’re looking for but just wanted to say thanks, it means a lot” kind of thing would be a big problem.

You acknowledge that you have read their profile and that you’re not expecting anything and if they want to take conversation further they can.

Just my 2 cents"

Absolutely!

Also, if you're really not what they're looking for then they will filter their message settings so you can't message them.

We've reciprocated to pic fabs with a few fans of our own. After that, a wink or a message from them usually follows. It's a great way to test the waters without being full on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I don’t fab pics! You can guarantee that minutes later you’ll get a message wanting to chat etc. and wondering why I don’t want to meet because I fabbed their pic. "

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I don’t fab pics! You can guarantee that minutes later you’ll get a message wanting to chat etc. and wondering why I don’t want to meet because I fabbed their pic. "

If it helps, we wouldn't send you a message if you fabbed one of our pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same we wouldn't message plus if we fab a couples or female pic wouldn't hound them with messages just says nice pic, few times before we fab a pic and fella straight in thinking wife wants him lol, like friends list except men just to see wife friends list pics and again think just because we except them they was getting into wife knickers

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY

I always send a polite message regarding winks with thanks it's nice to be nice in this journey of life

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

"This is why I don’t fab pics! You can guarantee that minutes later you’ll get a message wanting to chat etc. and wondering why I don’t want to meet because I fabbed their pic.

Snap"

Triple snap.

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

I often fab pics purely because I like the images, or appreciate what I see, not because I’m always interested. As others have said above, a polite thanks for the fab message sounds like a great way of finding out if they’re interested! You never know, maybe they’re in the middle of messaging you right now!

Miss pc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I don’t fab pics! You can guarantee that minutes later you’ll get a message wanting to chat etc. and wondering why I don’t want to meet because I fabbed their pic. "

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always say a thank you when ever I get a fab on mine been a while lol.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"So what are your thoughts on responding to a couple who have "fabbed" some of my profile pics but whose own profile suggests Im not there type ? Dont want to be a pain by messaging someone who's not looking for what im offering but on the other hand they did "fab" my pics.

My answer to that is you can like and appreciate what a person looks like but your text in your profile might not be what they are looking for.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I fab pics of all sorts of people, some I've no intention of meeting, just because I appreciate the photo. If they then message with a "thanks for the fab" I'll either reply in an open chatty fashion if I'm interested, or with a "you're welcome" and nothing more if I don't want to take it any further.

I don't object at all to a thank you message, but my enjoying a photo doesn't necessarily mean I want to meet up. I do find sometimes my fabbing a picture ends with me blocking the profile because they've read a lot more into the fab than was intended and no amount of "thanks but no thanks" will convince them otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could always send a polite "thanks for the fabs" message. If they don't respond you have your answer

^ ^

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't read too much into a fab, for us it's like double tab on Instagram

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

From reading through all the various responses I think this is tact Ill follow. Thanks for the insight x

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Some times send a polite thank you but also read their bio and view their pictures see if anything I may like to fab and might just have a non sexual normal chat people are interesting to get to know without it leading anywhere.

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