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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no

I need advice. I don’t need advice on my profile. Just putting that out there because some people will say “your account is private” I know I know I’m on break from using fab, till the new year.

So now what I need advice about.

Basically I’ve got two lovely women on my hotlist, they are both from Bridgewater, and I was wondering what I could message them that stands out.

I know many men on here ask the same question and get the same answer. But I was wondering what I could say to stand out and hopefully get to know them better.

My first thought was message them this “ hello my name is roxy and I find your profile very intriguing, and I love your pictures, and would love to meet up for a drink or something”

How does that sound??

Or mention about their pictures and profile text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing ventured nothing gained..

Throw it out there, see what comes back..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, I wouldnt mention meeting for a drink straight away. I'd mention something about their profile that has piqued your interest and keep it light hearted. Good luck

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"Nothing ventured nothing gained..

Throw it out there, see what comes back.. "

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"For me, I wouldnt mention meeting for a drink straight away. I'd mention something about their profile that has piqued your interest and keep it light hearted. Good luck"

That what I was thinking, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, I wouldnt mention meeting for a drink straight away. I'd mention something about their profile that has piqued your interest and keep it light hearted. Good luck

That what I was thinking, thank you "

Thing is, before I read a message from a guy, I look at their profile first. If I like their profile I'll open the message and respond accordingly.

So it almost doesnt matter what the initial message is for me. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"For me, I wouldnt mention meeting for a drink straight away. I'd mention something about their profile that has piqued your interest and keep it light hearted. Good luck

That what I was thinking, thank you

Thing is, before I read a message from a guy, I look at their profile first. If I like their profile I'll open the message and respond accordingly.

So it almost doesnt matter what the initial message is for me. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule "

Oh, I understand that. As I said before my profile is hidden till the new year, but my profile does have plenty of pictures and my bio is written pretty decently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, I wouldnt mention meeting for a drink straight away. I'd mention something about their profile that has piqued your interest and keep it light hearted. Good luck

That what I was thinking, thank you

Thing is, before I read a message from a guy, I look at their profile first. If I like their profile I'll open the message and respond accordingly.

So it almost doesnt matter what the initial message is for me. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule

Oh, I understand that. As I said before my profile is hidden till the new year, but my profile does have plenty of pictures and my bio is written pretty decently "

Good luck with it, nothing ventured, nothing gained

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By *dd_soxMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

I'm not sure how we can give you any decent advice because your profile is hidden. We have to take it on trust your profile description is decent and your photos are okay.

Maybe ask again in the new year.

For the record - i wouldn't find your proposed opening question demonstrates much effort had been put in ; something related to their profile would be far better... build a conversation before suggesting a social

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"I'm not sure how we can give you any decent advice because your profile is hidden. We have to take it on trust your profile description is decent and your photos are okay.

Maybe ask again in the new year.

For the record - i wouldn't find your proposed opening question demonstrates much effort had been put in ; something related to their profile would be far better... build a conversation before suggesting a social"

If I copy and pasted my profile bio, do you think you could understand a bit better.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think asking to meet before getting to know them a little would be a little bit too forward but your part before that I'd go with then if the conversation leads in a great way then make a suggestion for a meeting for thy drink

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn


"

I need advice. I don’t need advice on my profile. Just putting that out there because some people will say “your account is private” I know I know I’m on break from using fab, till the new year.

So now what I need advice about.

Basically I’ve got two lovely women on my hotlist, they are both from Bridgewater, and I was wondering what I could message them that stands out.

I know many men on here ask the same question and get the same answer. But I was wondering what I could say to stand out and hopefully get to know them better.

My first thought was message them this “ hello my name is roxy and I find your profile very intriguing, and I love your pictures, and would love to meet up for a drink or something”

How does that sound??

Or mention about their pictures and profile text "

Oh no... I dont know if it's contagious or Infection but its spreading from our side....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure how many people would reply back to a profile they couldn't see.

I'd want a reason why when writing a message. A few pics including a face one.

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By *oBeRodeMan
over a year ago

clifton ish

I don’t even bother if profile is hidden or no pictures or verification I don’t waste my time it’s like they have something to hide. It’s a little scary for all of us but shows we have nothing to hide but we have to set our own Respectful rules

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

Are you planning on messaging them despite being on a break or wanting to message them next year ? If you want to message them now then open your profile up. We would find it very odd someone messaging us whilst on a break.

If your waiting til new year then leave it til then to worry about it. They may not Ben be on fab in 2 months.

You could open your profile up and remove your photos so people can see if your real with verifications

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

The message is very generic and you could be sending it to 50 ladies .

It could do with being specific to show you are interested in them in particular. I was intrigued by __________ in your profile. I love your pictures particularly the one where ____________.

As others have said, it is completely pointless when your profile is hidden. Either wait till January, or open it up for a few days so the ladies can see it.

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"The message is very generic and you could be sending it to 50 ladies .

It could do with being specific to show you are interested in them in particular. I was intrigued by __________ in your profile. I love your pictures particularly the one where ____________.

As others have said, it is completely pointless when your profile is hidden. Either wait till January, or open it up for a few days so the ladies can see it. "

That’s what I was thinking, is adding something about their profile in my message. And I’m happy to wait till the new year to unhide my account. And I won’t be messaging them till then.....

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"Are you planning on messaging them despite being on a break or wanting to message them next year ? If you want to message them now then open your profile up. We would find it very odd someone messaging us whilst on a break.

If your waiting til new year then leave it til then to worry about it. They may not Ben be on fab in 2 months.

You could open your profile up and remove your photos so people can see if your real with verifications "

If you really must see my profile bio I will share it.

Because some of you (women&couple) can't read/choose not to read.

i'm going to break it down into sections.

so some of you (couples&women) underdtand a bit better.

NAME: Roxy

AGE: 28

LOCATION: Taunton, somerset

SOCIAL MEDIA: whatsapp

LOOKING FOR: making new friends

FRIENDS REQUESTS: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT SEND ME A FRIEND REQUEST ( I WILL DELETED AND BLOCK YOU)

PICTURES: My pictures are now just going to be me fully clothed. ( if you don't like that you know where the door is)

ABOUT MY BODY: So my vagina is not smooth and hair free. I do try and cut it down so their isn't much hair. But i would rather wax. Sometimes though I can't always wax so i just trim it down and hope some of my hair is gone.

WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR: I'm not really looking for anything. Just more looking forward to going to more clubs in the somerset/london area.

THINGS I'M NOT INTERESTED AND I MEAN NOT INTERESTED IN: I'm NOT interested in SINGLE MEN, I'm not interested in phone sex, I'm NOT interested in webcam playing and I will repeat I'm NOT interested in single MEN.

PLEASE RESPECT AND UNDERSTAND MY WISHES.

thank you for reading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women don't reply to messages. They also may get so many they won't even see your message.

Don't feel bad if they don't reply.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"My first thought was message them this “ hello my name is roxy and I find your profile very intriguing, and I love your pictures, and would love to meet up for a drink or something”

How does that sound??"

It sounds like a copy'n'paste message that you might have sent to 200 people that day.

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"Most women don't reply to messages. They also may get so many they won't even see your message.

Don't feel bad if they don't reply. "

Onwards and upwards, plus their are plenty more people.

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"My first thought was message them this “ hello my name is roxy and I find your profile very intriguing, and I love your pictures, and would love to meet up for a drink or something”

How does that sound??

It sounds like a copy'n'paste message that you might have sent to 200 people that day."

Obviously I would add what I liked about their profile, and add a bit more than that, the woman I want to message (next year) has a very different profile, she says what she wants and what she doesn’t want. Like I don’t want to out the woman’s profile, but what I will say is that I will definitely be writing a little joke first, because of something she wrote on her profile

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Make it easy for them to answer. Ask at least one, maybe two questions. Share information about yourself so they have something to ask you about.

Be clear about what you’re looking for. In my experience, most women on fab come across as pushier than men. If you want a bit of friendship with your sex, build the vanilla connection too.

Gently, your profile was hard to read. You are worth so much more than pictures of your naked body, and I’m sorry you feel you have to defend yourself and your body like that. You’re awesome the way you are.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We'd say message them for sure but when your profile is set to public as they'll probably want to have a read of your bio to see if anything matches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really just need to be yourself and don’t send messages that aren’t from your true self. Don’t try to say what you think they want to hear

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"My first thought was message them this “ hello my name is roxy and I find your profile very intriguing, and I love your pictures, and would love to meet up for a drink or something”

How does that sound??

It sounds like a copy'n'paste message that you might have sent to 200 people that day.

Obviously I would add what I liked about their profile, and add a bit more than that, the woman I want to message (next year) has a very different profile, she says what she wants and what she doesn’t want. Like I don’t want to out the woman’s profile, but what I will say is that I will definitely be writing a little joke first, because of something she wrote on her profile "

This is going to be my message to the lady has what she wants.

Hello my name is roxy, I really like your profile, especially your pictures, you say you don’t do insert what she doesn’t like here but only with women, well I’m a woman

So let’s see if we have a connection.

Because her profile literally says I don’t want endless Conversation that’s why I’m not writing a long one. I don’t want to out her profile on the forums. That’s mainly why I’m not going into details, about her.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln


"Are you planning on messaging them despite being on a break or wanting to message them next year ? If you want to message them now then open your profile up. We would find it very odd someone messaging us whilst on a break.

If your waiting til new year then leave it til then to worry about it. They may not Ben be on fab in 2 months.

You could open your profile up and remove your photos so people can see if your real with verifications

If you really must see my profile bio I will share it.

Because some of you (women&couple) can't read/choose not to read.

i'm going to break it down into sections.

so some of you (couples&women) underdtand a bit better.

NAME: Roxy

AGE: 28

LOCATION: Taunton, somerset

SOCIAL MEDIA: whatsapp

LOOKING FOR: making new friends

FRIENDS REQUESTS: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT SEND ME A FRIEND REQUEST ( I WILL DELETED AND BLOCK YOU)

PICTURES: My pictures are now just going to be me fully clothed. ( if you don't like that you know where the door is)

ABOUT MY BODY: So my vagina is not smooth and hair free. I do try and cut it down so their isn't much hair. But i would rather wax. Sometimes though I can't always wax so i just trim it down and hope some of my hair is gone.

WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR: I'm not really looking for anything. Just more looking forward to going to more clubs in the somerset/london area.

THINGS I'M NOT INTERESTED AND I MEAN NOT INTERESTED IN: I'm NOT interested in SINGLE MEN, I'm not interested in phone sex, I'm NOT interested in webcam playing and I will repeat I'm NOT interested in single MEN.

PLEASE RESPECT AND UNDERSTAND MY WISHES.

thank you for reading."

People on the forum aren’t asking to see your profile. The person you are messaging would want to see your profile. If you message someone and you have a hidden profile they will think you aren’t real. There’s so many females profiles that are fakes on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to over think it but definitely make your profile visible when you do message her

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Definitely open your profile.

All they can see of you now is “just for the forums” as a name and a hidden profile.

No person interested in meetings, wether it’s clubs 1:1 or socials would reply to that. Xx

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"Are you planning on messaging them despite being on a break or wanting to message them next year ? If you want to message them now then open your profile up. We would find it very odd someone messaging us whilst on a break.

If your waiting til new year then leave it til then to worry about it. They may not Ben be on fab in 2 months.

You could open your profile up and remove your photos so people can see if your real with verifications

If you really must see my profile bio I will share it.

Because some of you (women&couple) can't read/choose not to read.

i'm going to break it down into sections.

so some of you (couples&women) underdtand a bit better.

NAME: Roxy

AGE: 28

LOCATION: Taunton, somerset

SOCIAL MEDIA: whatsapp

LOOKING FOR: making new friends

FRIENDS REQUESTS: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT SEND ME A FRIEND REQUEST ( I WILL DELETED AND BLOCK YOU)

PICTURES: My pictures are now just going to be me fully clothed. ( if you don't like that you know where the door is)

ABOUT MY BODY: So my vagina is not smooth and hair free. I do try and cut it down so their isn't much hair. But i would rather wax. Sometimes though I can't always wax so i just trim it down and hope some of my hair is gone.

WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR: I'm not really looking for anything. Just more looking forward to going to more clubs in the somerset/london area.

THINGS I'M NOT INTERESTED AND I MEAN NOT INTERESTED IN: I'm NOT interested in SINGLE MEN, I'm not interested in phone sex, I'm NOT interested in webcam playing and I will repeat I'm NOT interested in single MEN.

PLEASE RESPECT AND UNDERSTAND MY WISHES.

thank you for reading.

People on the forum aren’t asking to see your profile. The person you are messaging would want to see your profile. If you message someone and you have a hidden profile they will think you aren’t real. There’s so many females profiles that are fakes on here . "

My account will be public, on show. Especially before I message her. And yeah I understand that.

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no


"Try not to over think it but definitely make your profile visible when you do message her"

My profile will be visible before I even message them, and I’m not, well I’m trying not to over think it

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By *ustfortheforums OP   Woman
over a year ago

no

Shot my shot and missed . On wards and up wards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shot my shot and missed . On wards and up wards "

Aww

Better luck next time

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