FabSwingers.com forum: Where to find a women for FFM

By *oungCoupleMF OP Couple
over a year ago

new castle

We have been here for a year and we are trying to find a woman who will want us a nice time;)

most do not write back or ask for photos

we don't want to distribute photos to every person.

and how it looked like when you started

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club

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By *oungCoupleMF OP Couple
over a year ago

new castle

so we thought about it but concluded that it might be a surprise (too much) for us to start with.

They wanted us to be a person who could come with us to help us settle in

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

So you want to meet but not share photos, your profile need some work, in our little experience, these are the kind of profiles or writing style we will most likely skip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be honest after looking at your profile I can see why you're struggling.

Very little info about yourselves and no pictures, I'm not sure what you'd think a single female would be attracted too.

You don't have to put face pics on just some nice body shots so it gives some idea who they are looking at.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Realistically, without overhauling your profile, you'll probably have to go to a club or party to achieve ffm

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

If going to a club is too much then you’re not going to have much luck I’m afraid.

Time and time again I hear from new couples that they assume it’s a massive free for all, and you’re required to be elbow deep in a pussy 5 minutes after entering! This is simply not the case! Mostly it’s a bar with people who are open to group play, with the facilities to facilitate this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being resistant to have public photos is fine if you send a few pics with your first message.

If you’re hoping to get chatting with a lady without, I very much doubt many will reply.

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By *oungCoupleMF OP Couple
over a year ago

new castle

When it comes to photos, I am a little concerned about privacy, we would like to remain anonymous until the conversation.

Will inserting a photo of a naked body without a face be perceived badly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single Female, profiles without a pic are a no no.

so many single men pose as a couple!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it comes to photos, I am a little concerned about privacy, we would like to remain anonymous until the conversation.

Will inserting a photo of a naked body without a face be perceived badly?"

That varies on the recipient. Some like naked pics, some not so much. Closeups of genitals tends to get you a delete and perhaps a block from many.

If you send a nice face pic of the pair of you together to a lady you really like the look of, where’s the harm?

I expect you’ve uploaded nice pics of the pair of you together to the internet before without fear.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

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I wouldn’t entertain a conversation with anyone without seeing a face pic and pics of their body. I need to know if I’m interested physically to be able to to decide if I want to chat to you. If I got s message from your profile I’d delete without reply if there were no pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you expect to meet without sending a pic? Would the female half meet someone without seeing who they are first? Like a few have said going to a club will be your best bet. If you really need to be discreet you could go to a club in another city, book a hotel and make a weekend of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your initial post said ‘most do not write back or ask for photos’ which sounds like you’re hoping what you write will be enough to get the lady’s interest so she then asks for photos

Most of us single ladies get so much interest we can cherry pick the people who were really like.

We look at your profile before we open the message.

We have so many messages to get through any that are lacking get swiftly discarded.

You’re competing for our attention amongst a huge crowd.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"We have been here for a year and we are trying to find a woman who will want us a nice time;)

most do not write back or ask for photos

we don't want to distribute photos to every person.

and how it looked like when you started"

Your definition of a year is 5 months!

You're looking for what pretty much most couples on here want and they struggle even with pics!

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Don't try and "find a woman". Try having a conversation with women, without expectations.

Him.

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By *oungCoupleMF OP Couple
over a year ago

new castle

"How do you expect to meet without sending a pic? Would the female half meet someone without seeing who they are first? Like a few have said going to a club will be your best bet. If you really need to be discreet you could go to a club in another city, book a hotel and make a weekend of it."

Yes you are right

some of the profiles are not in the description what they expect and they are looking for, hence we expected some conversation from our side whether there is any point in sending photos.

How to choose a club to suit our needs and where to look?

We are a bit afraid that we will not know how to behave

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By *oungCoupleMF OP Couple
over a year ago

new castle

"Don't try and "find a woman". Try having a conversation with women, without expectations.

Him."

we always try to be nice and keep talking. sometimes we have the impression that maybe we're too nice

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

There's nothing quite like old fashioned seduction. We spend the winter in Fuerteventura home. Chat to a single woman on holiday in a local bar, buy her a drink or two.......way more successful than Fab, clubs or parties for us.

Softly, softly......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pic no reply as others have said go to a club

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By *oungCoupleMF OP Couple
over a year ago

new castle

Thank you for all answer.

We add 2photos and have With face keep in private we think about send this just to ppl after answer. Can you tell if these photos are suitable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you want to meet but not share photos, your profile need some work, in our little experience, these are the kind of profiles or writing style we will most likely skip."

Agreed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for all answer.

We add 2photos and have With face keep in private we think about send this just to ppl after answer. Can you tell if these photos are suitable

Have a look in the clubs section, there are clubs near you.

Are you the man or woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for all answer.

We add 2photos and have With face keep in private we think about send this just to ppl after answer. Can you tell if these photos are suitable

They’re nice pics but only of her. When I meet couples, which I do now and then, I want to see him too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for all answer.

We add 2photos and have With face keep in private we think about send this just to ppl after answer. Can you tell if these photos are suitable

They’re nice pics but only of her. When I meet couples, which I do now and then, I want to see him too. "

Exactly this! If a couple is looking for them to meet them both then I expect to see pictures of them both. I never expect people to display or send face pictures immediately but they'd need to be seen at some point before I'd consider even a social.

I won't even enter a conversation with a couple who expect me to agree to a threesome from the first 2 or 3 messages, or those who don't/won't understand the position of a unicorn.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP, I suspect from your profile and posts that English isn't your first language.

This will make it much more difficult to connect with someone by messaging.

I agree with others that socials and clubs are the way forward. It's much easier to communicate face to face and make those connections.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you look at it as a new bar you are going to it often helps.

Put a post up saying you are going . Would anyone like to meet up for pre drinks ?

Altho i dont do couples or fems im afraid im of the same mind as others .

No pics no profile its a delete from me .

Whats it going to do if you have clothed body shots on and a decent profile ???

Nothing ! But it might get folks talking . Too many faceless folk on site refuse to give pics yet expect others to meet on trust .

Any single fem who does this is just asking for trouble . She never knows what would be round that corner . Could be 2 lads waiting and not a couple .

If you want to get more involved and be on fab , use the chatrooms as well lots fems n couples use them . Folk get a better feel for folk there . Go on cam (hide face ) but let folk know you are real .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you are right

some of the profiles are not in the description what they expect and they are looking for, hence we expected some conversation from our side whether there is any point in sending photos.

How to choose a club to suit our needs and where to look?

We are a bit afraid that we will not know how to behave"

We chose Pandora’s in Leeds for our first club and took the car for a quick getaway if we didn’t like it. We had an amazing night and have been back loads since. Downstairs is just like a bar so you’d just behave as you would in any bar. If you don’t find what you are looking for you could go upstairs and just play with each other. We’ve done that a few times and still had a great time

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

So much could go wrong if you are replying on somebody else the simplest thing is to go yourself there several great clubs near to you simply go on to the club reviews on the homepage find the one as the most appropriate one for yourselves.

Just like going to the pub

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Its like a unicorn lol be patient she wil appear eventually

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

I understand you don’t want to add photos to your profile for privacy reasons, and wonder if there are images you can take that still maintains your privacy? It’s your profile so you must do what’s best for you! It’s interesting to see though that you have had a lot of feedback from females, but you haven’t acted on any of their advice, and they are who you are searching for! But again it’s your profile, so no judgment just an observation! We are on here for the same reason as you, we have images, active on the forums, message ladies, and frequently visit clubs, but that does not guarantee us a meet! You have youth on your side, I’m sure things will work out for you, enjoy it

Miss pc

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Putting aside the lack of photos, there's also the issue that most single women don't want to be thought of as a toy to be brought into a couple's bedroom just to satisfy a fantasy of theirs.....they like to think that they're going to get something out of it, too.

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By *tandMa691Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *tandMa691Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Exactly this! If a couple is looking for them to meet them both then I expect to see pictures of them both. I never expect people to display or send face pictures immediately but they'd need to be seen at some point before I'd consider even a social.

I won't even enter a conversation with a couple who expect me to agree to a threesome from the first 2 or 3 messages, or those who don't/won't understand the position of a unicorn. "

It is not a shame to learn. We thanks to all the ladies who commented on the post. We are now beginning to understand what we are doing "wrong" when we are looking for a lady who is single.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Definitely enhance your profile.

I’d not reply to it.

We all have jobs and families but I expect anonymous pics.

And get to clubs. 3 ways and group fun is the norm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Virtually every couple on fab is looking for the exact same thing op, no pics would make me fear the worst!

Women get loads of messages and would struggle to reply to all especially if they can't see who is getting in contact.

Best advice would be to attach a face pic to a well written introductory message and hope for the best.

A naked pic wouldn't stand out as most already have this available to view on their profiles.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

In the "choking for a 3sum" section. It's only available to platinum members though.

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By *icola2202Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

In the same boat the unicorns are hard to find. Just hang in there or as most said try club

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op, I'm not your target market,

You can have pics on your profile that leave your identity a mystery still, ie boy shots.

Most women joining a couple will want to see some body shots of both of you and something in your profile to tell her whats in it for her.

Most couples are looking for bi fems to join them, so you need to stand out. As others have said a club might be best, if you don't want to put/share pics.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

This is going to sound a tad conceited, we tend to find ladies like to hunt their own play, not be hunted, and it works for us.

The fun is in what “all” parties want, not a plan, need or want, just fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been lucky enough to have ffm quite a few times. Clubs are best and a lot of single ladies don't like being called unicorns

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Nobody is going to meet you without seeing what you look like. If that’s an issue for you I suggest FAB might not be the best place for you.

Best of luck

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

A single female is the most sort after person on this site so you really need to sell yourself to get their attention, what makes you stand out from others on this site

Many people use the no profile pic as an easy way to filter out messages, ie no profile pic = no reply

Sadly unless your prepared to give a little more profile wise (photos don't have to include a face pic) it's unlikely you'll get the meet your looking for

Clubs aren't scary especially if your attending as a couple, and I think you'll have amicus better opportunity to find what you are looking for, you've got nothing to lose giving a club a try

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Pray ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The flip side of this is that it's not always easy for a unicorn to find a couple on Fab either!

I find:

*lots of profiles where the female isn't even aware he's on Fab and using their pictures (even the verified ones!)

*couples where they want a 3rd to just experiment on, not for mutual pleasure

*or they want to spoil/put on a show for Mr

*couples trying to fix the cracks in their relationship so meetings are dramatic and tense

*harder to find couples where there's an attraction to both, and both find me attractive

It can be a minefield for everyone trying to meet people

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

You’re on the doorstep of both shh and club F. I don’t know about shh, but F definitely has an easygoing atmosphere that should help you feel comfortable, some members who don’t have english as a first language, and people into threesomes and moresomes.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"The flip side of this is that it's not always easy for a unicorn to find a couple on Fab either!

I find:

*lots of profiles where the female isn't even aware he's on Fab and using their pictures (even the verified ones!)

*couples where they want a 3rd to just experiment on, not for mutual pleasure

*or they want to spoil/put on a show for Mr

*couples trying to fix the cracks in their relationship so meetings are dramatic and tense

*harder to find couples where there's an attraction to both, and both find me attractive

It can be a minefield for everyone trying to meet people

Exactly this

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By *assie101Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"The flip side of this is that it's not always easy for a unicorn to find a couple on Fab either!

I find:

*lots of profiles where the female isn't even aware he's on Fab and using their pictures (even the verified ones!)

*couples where they want a 3rd to just experiment on, not for mutual pleasure

*or they want to spoil/put on a show for Mr

*couples trying to fix the cracks in their relationship so meetings are dramatic and tense

*harder to find couples where there's an attraction to both, and both find me attractive

It can be a minefield for everyone trying to meet people

Completely agree. Often it's the guy doing the talking /arranging but for me The attraction needs to be between all three. If the three don't interact then it's a no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The flip side of this is that it's not always easy for a unicorn to find a couple on Fab either!

I find:

*lots of profiles where the female isn't even aware he's on Fab and using their pictures (even the verified ones!)

*couples where they want a 3rd to just experiment on, not for mutual pleasure

*or they want to spoil/put on a show for Mr

*couples trying to fix the cracks in their relationship so meetings are dramatic and tense

*harder to find couples where there's an attraction to both, and both find me attractive

It can be a minefield for everyone trying to meet people

Couldn't have said it better x

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