FabSwingers.com forum: Advice wanted

By *ussieboy OP Man
over a year ago

Salford

So a few months back my ex got in touch with me. We had the best relationship and really loved each other. I use to work nights and she found her grandmother deceased when she went to see her one evening. She started drinking daily and drank to where she didn’t know where she was and could hardly recognise me at times. My housemate would go to our room while she was d*unk climb into bed with her f her and leave. I’d come home in the morning none the wiser but one day I came home and caught them . She was blind d*unk the lights were off and he had got into bed and taken her from behind. She was saying my name and telling me she loved me. I beat him up and he moved out but the drinking continued. She started a new job and at her Xmas party didn’t come home and we broke up. She married her boss 8 months later and I thought that was that. She got in touch and we started sleeping together and rarely drinks but she told her husband about us and he filmed her d*unk a few times and recorded her making her look like a bad mother. He spent all they’re money and now she is struggling financially.,I can’t afford to buy him out and he threatens to kill himself if she leaves. We sorted everything out it was as if she never left. She cut me out of her life as quickly as she returned. She’s with him but I know she will cheat because she doesn’t love him it’s purely financial.

I’ve saved 8k in 5 months do I track her down and try pay him out or forget and move on. I never found anyone else I wanted to settle with it was only ever just some fun. But the way she cut me off makes me feel a fool. What do I do?

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By *antasticmrfucsMan
over a year ago

Penzance

Don't get involved with that bullshit . Spend the 8k on a great holiday some foreign pussy will cure you .

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By *angtidy42Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

History is the past, don't look back, look to the future.

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By *mlwchgreenMan
over a year ago

amlwch

She ll do the same to you again m8, stay well away

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By *ipin CiderMan
over a year ago

Warick & London

She has done it once and she will do it again.

The only difference this time is you will be 8k down and she will know you will come back if she calls again.

Leave it move on but a campervan and explore the world (ok the uk)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep your money saved, give it time, if you are meant to be together, she will come looking for you again. But keep your money in your savings account

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Stay well away

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

she sounds like she will always be trouble, keep your money, thats why she keeps coming back, and end it, easy for me to say, way harder for you to do, been there and have the t shirt, not easy, but you will thank yourself in the future if you pull off the plaster

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By *weetandHungMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Don’t go near her, she uses you and your money not because she wants you either sort to say.

Move on and use your hard earned savings on yourself

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By *ussieboy OP Man
over a year ago

Salford

Cheers guys was thinking of putting it behind me just needed to hear it from others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8k in 5 months.....

What job do you do?

Employ me!

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"So a few months back my ex got in touch with me. We had the best relationship and really loved each other. I use to work nights and she found her grandmother deceased when she went to see her one evening. She started drinking daily and drank to where she didn’t know where she was and could hardly recognise me at times. My housemate would go to our room while she was d*unk climb into bed with her f her and leave. I’d come home in the morning none the wiser but one day I came home and caught them . She was blind d*unk the lights were off and he had got into bed and taken her from behind. She was saying my name and telling me she loved me. I beat him up and he moved out but the drinking continued. She started a new job and at her Xmas party didn’t come home and we broke up. She married her boss 8 months later and I thought that was that. She got in touch and we started sleeping together and rarely drinks but she told her husband about us and he filmed her d*unk a few times and recorded her making her look like a bad mother. He spent all they’re money and now she is struggling financially.,I can’t afford to buy him out and he threatens to kill himself if she leaves. We sorted everything out it was as if she never left. She cut me out of her life as quickly as she returned. She’s with him but I know she will cheat because she doesn’t love him it’s purely financial.

Forget about her...she'd be with you for your money then move on with other guys...re-read your post again and again and it will make you see that she's not good for you and you deserve better. If you keep telling your self you won't meet another that makes you feel the same then you won't...but you will just takes time. Good luck and shame on those guys that took advantage of her when she was d*unk...that's borderline r*pe

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should keep your well earned money and go on holiday. I know you want to help her but it sounds like she's fallen way down the rabbit hole, only she can want to get herself out of it. I've been there and helped an ex out financially. I'm paying the price for it now, in other ways and it has scarred me emotionally and mentally. Look after yourself OP x

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

Get the fuck away from her.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Block and stonewall her. No contact.

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