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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey there i have a little problem... im in relationship for over 10yrs... our vanilla sex gets so bored that i cannot cum...wanking no problem but when it comes to sex with her i cannot cum... anyone know what can cause this problem?

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By *oublethefunMan
over a year ago

royston

Try imagining your watching some well hung stud fucking your partner and she is loving it. That should get you shooting your load.

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By *untime5Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

Maybe ask her to mix it up a bit, she might surprise you. If your mind isn’t turned on then the physical sensations just won’t be enough. If she won’t, just think about the bad stuff that does it for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a divorce

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By *ig bear 65Man
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

Tell her what turns you on and ask her what she likes.spice it up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe ask her to mix it up a bit, she might surprise you. If your mind isn’t turned on then the physical sensations just won’t be enough. If she won’t, just think about the bad stuff that does it for you "

Already had this conversation... big no no frm her

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By *untime5Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

Get some kind of vibrating butt plug for yourself and don’t tell her. Make it secretly kinky for you and she can have the same experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the sounds of it she prefers plain vanilla.

Have you both had a chat?

Other things to try - Mix it up a little

Going underwear shopping, get a toy together

Night away

Date nights and compliments back and forth.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"From the sounds of it she prefers plain vanilla.

Have you both had a chat?

Other things to try - Mix it up a little

Going underwear shopping, get a toy together

Night away

Date nights and compliments back and forth.

Good luck

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Yeah she is plain vanilla just had a chat with her about swinging its a big no no... we agreed for a toys but we dont know what should be our first pick

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Anything else changed? New medication? Weight gain (you)? Undiagnosed diabetes? Mental health issues?

There's a lot of things that can cause issues with being able to cum and boring sex is just one of them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anything else changed? New medication? Weight gain (you)? Undiagnosed diabetes? Mental health issues?

There's a lot of things that can cause issues with being able to cum and boring sex is just one of them."

Not really no

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Show her this thread. She will instantly realise how boring she is and up her game.

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By *959femxCouple
over a year ago

Weston super mare

Most people on here saying the woman is at fault. Just think maybe she finds you boring in bed probably she wouldn’t say it but what could YOU do to improve things . Just saying .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you're suffering from death grip syndrome? How often are you wanking?

Maybe try no self loving for a few days and concentrate on foreplay together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe you're suffering from death grip syndrome? How often are you wanking?

Maybe try no self loving for a few days and concentrate on foreplay together."

Thats also maybe i case i stopped wanking from monday we'll see. Hope it will help

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By *orsetminx20Woman
over a year ago

Poole

Maintaining a healthy sex life in a relationship isn't easy but both of you have to be invested in keeping it healthy or it just won't work. Toys is a great place to start. Maybe look at some toy websites together and choose something as a couple?

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Hey there i have a little problem... im in relationship for over 10yrs... our vanilla sex gets so bored that i cannot cum...wanking no problem but when it comes to sex with her i cannot cum... anyone know what can cause this problem? "

Guilt?

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By *irty_DeedsMan
over a year ago

Teesside

Stop wanking, especially if you are using porn.

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