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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So… I’ve got my membership sorted for both VA and Abfabs, which day and which club would you guys advise on me going to for my first time??? Replies greatly received

Reece x

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Hi there

I’ve not been to Ab Fabs but I go to VA regularly.

VA has a monthly Bi Night run by the delightful and hot TattooedTalent. Otherwise Milf on a Weds or their regular Friday nights welcome single guys.

Expect to go and be social lots of times. Chat, smile and don’t expect sex. The hot tub is a good place to get chatting.

Happy to answer specific questions if you have them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi there

Thanks very much for your advice, of course I’ll go with no expectations but to have fun, chat and socialise, I’m very chatty!!!! Which if the three events would be best do you think? X

I’ve not been to Ab Fabs but I go to VA regularly.

VA has a monthly Bi Night run by the delightful and hot TattooedTalent. Otherwise Milf on a Weds or their regular Friday nights welcome single guys.

Expect to go and be social lots of times. Chat, smile and don’t expect sex. The hot tub is a good place to get chatting.

Happy to answer specific questions if you have them.

"

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Hi there

Thanks very much for your advice, of course I’ll go with no expectations but to have fun, chat and socialise, I’m very chatty!!!! Which if the three events would be best do you think? X

"

Hiya

When you use “reply+quote” type underneath the quoted text - then your reply will appear in black.

Personally I like Milf and I’ve heard lots of good stuff about Bi Night. There are lots of single guys at both.

You need to view it like a local pub if you moved to a new area. You’d have to go lots of times before the locals started chatting and inviting you into conversations.

So aim to smile, mingle, introduce yourself to men and women. Tell them you’re new and ask them what their early club experiences were like and ask for their advice for newbies. Remember their names and their Fab names. Don’t cling to them or follow them around. Move on and mingle more.

Once you’re home, verify them and ask them to verify you.

Then go again. Same event. Mingle again. And again. And again. Chat to the same people “hello again Bob. Hi Sue. Did you manage to get home alright through the roadworks?” Or whatever.

If you seem friendly and easygoing people will chat more and more and then you’ll start being invited to join in.

One final thing… don’t touch people as a way of asking if it’s ok to touch them. A hand on someone’s thigh followed by “can I touch you?” is the wrong way round.

Have a lovely time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi there

Thanks very much for your advice, of course I’ll go with no expectations but to have fun, chat and socialise, I’m very chatty!!!! Which if the three events would be best do you think? X

Hiya

When you use “reply+quote” type underneath the quoted text - then your reply will appear in black.

Personally I like Milf and I’ve heard lots of good stuff about Bi Night. There are lots of single guys at both.

You need to view it like a local pub if you moved to a new area. You’d have to go lots of times before the locals started chatting and inviting you into conversations.

So aim to smile, mingle, introduce yourself to men and women. Tell them you’re new and ask them what their early club experiences were like and ask for their advice for newbies. Remember their names and their Fab names. Don’t cling to them or follow them around. Move on and mingle more.

Once you’re home, verify them and ask them to verify you.

Then go again. Same event. Mingle again. And again. And again. Chat to the same people “hello again Bob. Hi Sue. Did you manage to get home alright through the roadworks?” Or whatever.

If you seem friendly and easygoing people will chat more and more and then you’ll start being invited to join in.

One final thing… don’t touch people as a way of asking if it’s ok to touch them. A hand on someone’s thigh followed by “can I touch you?” is the wrong way round.

Have a lovely time. "

Thank you so much. That’s exactly I was thinking.

Have a good day

Reece x

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