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Stupidly shy when it comes to women

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By *eductiveEyesKillerThighs OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nowhere & Everywhere

Ive been on the scene for over 10 years now, and my confidence has grown rapidly.

With guys I have no problem engaging in conversation, and even being the instigator of proceedings.

However when it comes to women, I become the shy little girl, and pretty much lose my shit, and the ability to communicate! Which in all honesty is quite pathetic being a 37 year old woman!

I don't know how to get over this!

I've had some great playtimes with women over the years, but they have all been threesomes, foursomes or moresomes. And I would particularly like a more intimate meet with another female... One lady in particular who makes me go weak at the knees!

I'm stuck, and I feel silly

Help! Please!

~x~

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By *heekyweebissimWoman
over a year ago

fife,


"Ive been on the scene for over 10 years now, and my confidence has grown rapidly.

With guys I have no problem engaging in conversation, and even being the instigator of proceedings.

However when it comes to women, I become the shy little girl, and pretty much lose my shit, and the ability to communicate! Which in all honesty is quite pathetic being a 37 year old woman!

I don't know how to get over this!

I've had some great playtimes with women over the years, but they have all been threesomes, foursomes or moresomes. And I would particularly like a more intimate meet with another female... One lady in particular who makes me go weak at the knees!

I'm stuck, and I feel silly

Help! Please!

~x~"

Sorry I can’t help but I do know exactly what you mean and it sucks. At least you are not alone

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

What do you talk about to gents ? Initiate a conversation in the same manner same topics and bobs your uncle you'll be talking to fannys your aunt as well.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I’m the same. I’ve got no game whatsoever with women. I can’t tell if they’re into me or just being friendly, I’m awkward and can’t flirt. It’s dead And given that at the moment I’m only really into playing with women, it’s a problem!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

Totally me too!

I can be flirty with guys, with women I'm just hopeless!

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By *nya888Woman
over a year ago

London

Same here.

I met women by attending female only play parties. Made it easier in numbers. Met a lovely women there, texted a little after and decided to meet up for a one-on-one. Although I think we both were nervous about it, it really was an amazing experience. First just chat for hours over some food and then moved into the bedroom.

Now this was before the pandemic and I'm back to being ridiculously nervous about meeting women again...

A x

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

You are not alone in this feeling x

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Me too. Awkward as heck

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By *rviennaCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Absolutely the same here!

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By *eandher4and9Couple
over a year ago

leeds

You will get there hunny xx

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By *eductiveEyesKillerThighs OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nowhere & Everywhere

Glad to know it's not just be being awkward!

I guess I'll just have to pull up my big girl panties, bite the bullet, put myself out there, and hope I don't make myself look absolutely bloody ridiculous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the opposite. When I chat with women they seem to think I’m coming on to them! I’m not, I’m very straight but it happens often! My friends say it’s my tone and mannerisms but who knows.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I am so glad you started this thread!

It explains to me why even though I seek females to meet, very few actually contact me...

I though it was me, but it might not be lol and it's given me hope

I'm quite the opposite, I'll chat up ladies happily till the cows come home, but nobody chats anymore beyond the uber polite, give nothing away, Hi, how are you? what are you up to? etc when what I really want to hear is "cor, you are sexy babe" and "fancy some 1-1 fun?"

I suspect it's something in our upbringing, "nice" or "good" girls aren't supposed to behave like that, right? Well I embraced and owned my inner "bad" girl decades ago when Mother first called me Hussey lol Well, if the cap fits...

I guess we are pre-programmed to be chaste and aloof till our defences are worn down by the suitable potential partner, so when it's female to female that message is somehow altered maybe? Just my fly-on-the-wall take on it.

I also think that everyone is frightened to offend somebody's sensibilities these days, so less is more? Well blow that for a game of soldiers. If I like you, I will be telling you. No beating around the bush with me. If you don't ask, you don't get. If you don't try you'll never know what you could be missing.

It gets easier the more you go for it.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford


"Ive been on the scene for over 10 years now, and my confidence has grown rapidly.

With guys I have no problem engaging in conversation, and even being the instigator of proceedings.

However when it comes to women, I become the shy little girl, and pretty much lose my shit, and the ability to communicate! Which in all honesty is quite pathetic being a 37 year old woman!

I don't know how to get over this!

I've had some great playtimes with women over the years, but they have all been threesomes, foursomes or moresomes. And I would particularly like a more intimate meet with another female... One lady in particular who makes me go weak at the knees!

I'm stuck, and I feel silly

Help! Please!

~x~"

I would take it as an advantage I love shy girls they are a big turn on for me as I prefer to be dominant with women and sub with men so I would say lean into it sometimes otherwise I'd suggest more small talk try and get talking about a hobby your passionate about or books and movies you like but good luck with it xx you certainly look very lovely xx

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Lurking in this thread

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven

Same here I am like this

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By *eductiveEyesKillerThighs OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nowhere & Everywhere


"I am so glad you started this thread!

It explains to me why even though I seek females to meet, very few actually contact me...

I though it was me, but it might not be lol and it's given me hope

I'm quite the opposite, I'll chat up ladies happily till the cows come home, but nobody chats anymore beyond the uber polite, give nothing away, Hi, how are you? what are you up to? etc when what I really want to hear is "cor, you are sexy babe" and "fancy some 1-1 fun?"

I suspect it's something in our upbringing, "nice" or "good" girls aren't supposed to behave like that, right? Well I embraced and owned my inner "bad" girl decades ago when Mother first called me Hussey lol Well, if the cap fits...

I guess we are pre-programmed to be chaste and aloof till our defences are worn down by the suitable potential partner, so when it's female to female that message is somehow altered maybe? Just my fly-on-the-wall take on it.

I also think that everyone is frightened to offend somebody's sensibilities these days, so less is more? Well blow that for a game of soldiers. If I like you, I will be telling you. No beating around the bush with me. If you don't ask, you don't get. If you don't try you'll never know what you could be missing.

It gets easier the more you go for it.

"

Some excellent thoughts right here, so thank you for those.

And you're right, I think I am scared. Not because of any rejection to my advances, but just the general unknown! I guess it's because I tend to be more submissive to women, so it's hard for me to take the lead.

I think I will just have to go for it!

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By *eductiveEyesKillerThighs OP   Woman
over a year ago

Nowhere & Everywhere


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I would take it as an advantage I love shy girls they are a big turn on for me as I prefer to be dominant with women and sub with men so I would say lean into it sometimes otherwise I'd suggest more small talk try and get talking about a hobby your passionate about or books and movies you like but good luck with it xx you certainly look very lovely xx"

Absolutely. I do strike up conversations with females at Clubs, but it never gets to the saucy bit!

And thank you. You look wonderful yourself

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