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By *ames2602 OP   Man
over a year ago

whittle

I'm finding it so difficult to find a bi couple ,even just to chat to, never mind a social or play meet. I'd say I'm doing the right things and couples I look at ,say on there profile, what there looking for. I think ah yes that's sounds like me, I wink or message no reply

Any advice all you lovely fabbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your pictures appeal to them.

You can't accommodate could be an issue....

Make your profile more couple friendly...why tell folk you have a fb!....

Look at the couple's profiles you are interested in and choose certain 'buzz words' to match..and definitely explain other places you could play if your home is off limits ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your pictures DON'T appeal

Sorry

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
over a year ago

whittle

Thanks, is there any pics on there at moment (do you think) would appeal and 1s I should get rid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get rid of all of them. Dress smart causal. and a pic of your willy if its anything to write home about.

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By *eedsman83Man
over a year ago

leeds

As many have said on here, try a club, on a bi day / evening !

Couples do goto these, people been able to see an chat to you is allot more affective than sending a wink .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks, is there any pics on there at moment (do you think) would appeal and 1s I should get rid."

AHH you've been lucky enough to get a response from a couple above...

I think smart/casual dressing helps....

Best of luck

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
over a year ago

whittle

Ok cheers all,looks like I need to update my profile and get to clubs.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Thanks, is there any pics on there at moment (do you think) would appeal and 1s I should get rid."

Personally I don't like pics taken in a disabled toilet

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Your profile reads a bit about what you want not what you can offer?

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
over a year ago

whittle

Is there any pic which would be worth keeping.

I'll be releasing a few more in a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks, is there any pics on there at moment (do you think) would appeal and 1s I should get rid.

Personally I don't like pics taken in a disabled toilet"

Agree, in fact I'm always put off by pics taken in any toilet.

Your profile comes across as quite passive aggressive, especially regarding face pics and winks. There's also no need to mention your fb. As for pictures, the one of the back of your head is unnecessary. Instead look at changing location for your shots, and as mentioned maybe dress up a bit!

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By *ewfie02Couple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

As a bi couple, I can tell you that the dirty hi vis is NOT appealing. Your profile says face pics once a chat is started....did you not notice that most of your public pics are facial pics? Lol. It shows a lack of paying attention. Also, as someone else said, tell us what you have to offer rather than just saying what you want. If you're lucky enough to be invited into a couples playtime, it helps if you don't come across as being selfish.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

After the worst of the pandemic - I hope it's gone - I'm just looking at pics of guys since then, to get a feel for them currently. I'd encourage all single men here - who will face enormous amounts of competition due to the thousands of men here - to upload plenty of current pics that show your full physique.

OP - get to bi nights at clubs and experiment here with your approach. Evaluate what you need to share with others via communication, to increase your response success rates. Likewise, work out what's superfluous that you've been communicating, that you could tone down or cut out.

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
over a year ago

whittle

Thanks for all the advice guys.

Give it a month or so and it will be a new approach.

So Once again thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks, is there any pics on there at moment (do you think) would appeal and 1s I should get rid."

You can use some of

Mine mate

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Your method of contacting people is initially a wink. Some bi couples probably get a large number of winks every day, so you will possibly find sending a brief message highlighting the reason you are contacting them, what stood out in their profile etc.

Your profile states you want to use them to fulfill your fantasies, and that fact would put many couples off.

Attanding clubs is probably your best course of action.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Thanks for all the advice guys.

Give it a month or so and it will be a new approach.

"

What approach are you planning ?

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Thanks for all the advice guys.

Give it a month or so and it will be a new approach.

What approach are you planning ?"

...and why is it taking a month to implement it?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why isn't there a face palm emoji

I get the sense that asking for feedback was an attention seeking exercise rather than a genuine call for help with your profile. Otherwise I cannot understand why you would wait a month to try the approaches advised, especially as you've said you're getting no-where with your current approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the advice guys.

Give it a month or so and it will be a new approach.

So Once again thanks."

A month ???

Don’t let us down we’r on tender hooks to see the outcome

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
over a year ago

whittle

Busy with work ect. And also find some nice for new pics.

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
over a year ago

whittle

This is due to work commitments ect

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
over a year ago

whittle

Those pics where only on for 10mins or so to show in this forum post what other pics I have. Now Bern removed. But thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is due to work commitments ect"

Mate I’m kinda messing but your not building an extension!!!

A few altercations and I’m sure you won’t be as bad !!

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