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My wife gone off sex....help...

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By *i mandz OP   Couple
over a year ago

luton

We had been swinging a while....then my wife got her woman changing thingy lol...

For a couple of years was very intense....she wanted divorce we benn together now 35 years...

She didnt want sex with me....so i gave her space....

Now slowly we ok started sex back up...

I dont mind who she would like sex with....

Ironically her idea to swing ....1st meet she sucked a guy....and made me suck him too then cum kiss her...

All our meets after that were and are bi meets....

She started to like me dressing up and im still virgin....but she wants to watch me get fucked....

She wont allow me with a woman....

I think she lost confidence in herself....

U can call me stupid but how do i help her get her confidence back....

I dont no if right forum for this so i appolagise if wrong.....thanks xxx

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By *earl555Woman
over a year ago

Kingston upon Hull

Your wife hasn't gone off sex! She just wants to be in control of the sexual situation by the sounds.

Are you comfortable with what you're being asked to do??

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Ask her, don’t presume she’s lost confidence in herself… just have the conversation with her

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We have to want something for ourselves, to have the greatest likelihood that we'll stay motivated enough to attain it, rather than having someone else deciding what it is that we should need and how we get to find it.

Ultimately everything in relationships comes down to communication. Her confidence, her sexual desires and drive are all things for her to discuss with you. She may perceive herself as fine, which still leaves the 2 of you to communicate what you're both feeling and wanting.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Talk to her,

As another poster said above, are you happy with what she's wanting

It has to be fun for you both, or why do it.

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By *i mandz OP   Couple
over a year ago

luton


"Your wife hasn't gone off sex! She just wants to be in control of the sexual situation by the sounds.

Are you comfortable with what you're being asked to do??"

Yes i quite enjoy what i do....

Or told....i like sitting watching her have fun and enjoying herself....

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By *i mandz OP   Couple
over a year ago

luton


"Ask her, don’t presume she’s lost confidence in herself… just have the conversation with her "

Yes we do talk...i am taking everything slowly....

I think...but its just me....maybee if she has a meet might rekindle her lust...

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By *earl555Woman
over a year ago

Kingston upon Hull


"Your wife hasn't gone off sex! She just wants to be in control of the sexual situation by the sounds.

Are you comfortable with what you're being asked to do??

Yes i quite enjoy what i do....

Or told....i like sitting watching her have fun and enjoying herself...."

Quite enjoy? I'd have a very open and honest discussion as you're saying you need help

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Ask her, don’t presume she’s lost confidence in herself… just have the conversation with her

Yes we do talk...i am taking everything slowly....

I think...but its just me....maybee if she has a meet might rekindle her lust...

"

Again… stop presuming… maybe she will, maybe she won’t.

Maybe she doesn’t want to re kindle it, maybe she does… you’ll not know unless you communicate with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure when she reads this post the wife will be Delighted you have discussed private issues in an open forum on a recreational sex site!

Good luck

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

She won't allow you with a woman, yet she can go with other men. That's hardly fair is it.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"She won't allow you with a woman, yet she can go with other men. That's hardly fair is it."

That’s my reading of it too.

Sounds one sided. Although, perhaps it’s all part of a power exchange. Communication is key here as others have said.

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She won't allow you with a woman, yet she can go with other men. That's hardly fair is it.

That’s my reading of it too.

Sounds one sided. Although, perhaps it’s all part of a power exchange. Communication is key here as others have said.

M "

Standard cuckold relationship.

He should just be pleased he’s allowed to be involved. And get used to her being in charge and him cleaning up when told to!

Maybe she should get him a cock cage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She won't allow you with a woman, yet she can go with other men. That's hardly fair is it."

This… it seems very one sided… and like another poster said- is she it just about control?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Your wife hasn't gone off sex! She just wants to be in control of the sexual situation by the sounds.

Are you comfortable with what you're being asked to do??

Yes i quite enjoy what i do....

Or told....i like sitting watching her have fun and enjoying herself...."

If you enjoy what is the problem. Menopause must be a truly horrendous experience for many women and if it's someone you love support her. Couples play in different ways and communication is the best way. That and patience.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"She won't allow you with a woman, yet she can go with other men. That's hardly fair is it.

This… it seems very one sided… and like another poster said- is she it just about control?"

We only have his version of their sex life, pinch of salt and all that.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

It's called menopause OP, 'woman changing thingy' is disrespectful and displays your lack of knowledge about what can be a debilitating and devastating time for women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed whether peri menopausal or menopause its a very difficult time, almost a taboo subject for men to even mention the words.

As far as your situation goes, agree with what's been said.. Ask, talk.

Reading between the lines you kinda like your role.

Good luck fellow Fabber

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask her, don’t presume she’s lost confidence in herself… just have the conversation with her "

don’t assume anything. Your adults, have a mature open honest conversation.

She sounds like she wants all the control, but that’s just from hearing a small part of your story.

Talk to her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you actually want to suck cock and are being sodomised by another guy? If the answer is yes then fine but if the answer is no then it is not acceptable. It sounds to me that she gets some kind of kick out of degrading you? I would consider packing my bags and leaving as I doubt this is going to change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quote from OP.

".then my wife got her woman changing thingy lol..."

Your attidue towards your wife and I guess women stinks judging by what you say here. What is there to "lol" about.

I'd run a million miles from a man like you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quote from OP.

".then my wife got her woman changing thingy lol..."

Your attidue towards your wife and I guess women stinks judging by what you say here. What is there to "lol" about.

I'd run a million miles from a man like you."
I hear you.

I see quite a few men who need to have a rethink about how they treat the woman in their life. I have seen some shocking things.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Talk to her, otherwise a friendly, open chat can become a shouting match.

You may find chatting openly a bit daunting at first, we all suffer from that "wonder what he or she will think about me if I say this or that" but if you push outside your comfort zone it generally pays dividends, if not, then at least you know where you stand.

I know people in work who constantly say things like "I'd never dream of saying something like that to him or her". Sad really.

Paul will sometimes comment when we are out how beautiful a lady is.

Some couples we know find that unbearable and some ridiculous sign of a failing relationship but in reality it's just an observation and a factual one at that.

Lots of people say they like the truth but in reality they only want to hear their version of it.

Give a open chat a whirl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She won't allow you with a woman, yet she can go with other men. That's hardly fair is it."

?? Spot on.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"She won't allow you with a woman, yet she can go with other men. That's hardly fair is it.

?? Spot on."

We haven't heard her side of the story yet.

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