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Intro to swinging: club, local social or private meet?

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By *randMrsDare2Be OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Northallerton

Dear Swinging Community,

Would be grateful for your thoughts on a first step (post COVID) in the swinging world? Would you recommend a club, local social or private meet? Massively grateful for your comments based on experience.

Thank you in advance

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I personally would recommend a club for your introduction.

You can just relax and enjoy the ambiance. There is no need for you to get intimately involved with anybody else, (unless you want to), but it gives you a chance to meet people from the lifestyle in the flesh.

You can always ask the hosts to show you around and explain the different areas of the club and etiquette, and also ask them any questions.

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By *irestorm81Man
over a year ago

Richmond/Harrogate

Hi both

I’d also suggest a club or chatting with some local people who catch your eye on here.

ClubF is friendly, people are happy to chat if you are also chatty, and you can meet people, and get a feel for how clubs work. Worth trying a few different nights and more than one club as the ambience can vary greatly. I’d also say Quest is worth a visit on a Sunday, it’s a very relaxed atmosphere.

J

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By *randMrsDare2Be OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Northallerton

Tks

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By *ands99Couple
over a year ago

Harrogate

We are just starting out too, so chose a club. There wasn’t any pressure to participate and everyone was friendly and relaxed. We ended up playing by ourselves in one of the rooms so we had plenty of fun as they generally have more equipment or scenarios than at home.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

It all depends on what you feel most comfortable with. Each of those options have pluses and minuses.

Private meet- you're only meeting 1 person (unless you're into group play), so your risk of potential exposure to Covid (if that's what you're worried about) is small, if not minimal. You could ask for LFT test to be done beforehand, and do one yourself. They may, however, not agree to one. Minus of this situation- the person you're meeting would, most likely, expect to play unless you've decided it was a social only.

Local social (I'm guessing you're talking about organised social)- you can meet more than one person at a time, with no pressure to play. However, your risk of Covid exposure is much higher as 1:1 meet. As normally there is no requirement for people coming to the social to be vaccinated or to have had a recent LFT test.

Club- most clubs require proof of vaccination or recent LFT on entry so your Covid exposure there should be low. You can meet more than one person at a time and there is zero pressure to play if you don't want to or if you're not ready for it yet. Minus- cost. Some clubs, particularly licensed ones, can put a dent in family budget.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

You’ve literally just missed Teesside social.

In your shoes,I’d start off at club F information gathering. Go on a couples night, talk to people, have fun watching. Ask for their best advice for newbies. See what you think. Consider playing with each other, but maybe not with others?

Then take it from there. You might choose to go back to the club, or try a social. Might find someone you want to meet 1-1.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

100% a club. Gives you the opportunity to see the scene, meet and talk to others without pressure or obligation to do anything. You can just go watch and see for yourselves. On the other hand it also give you opportunity then and there in a neutral safe space if you do feel yourselves wanting to join in or simply so horny you want to use the facilities just the two of you.

Then however you feel at the end of your visit you just get to exit the door, leave it behind you and go home (and hopefully return for more another day).

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

It all depends on you really but I would recommend you start with one of the organised socials that are advertised here, they really are a lot of fun. Then move onto clubs if you feel like it, but do your research before you attend.

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

Some areas do social nights at bars. They are nice as no pressure but you get to speak to like minded people.

For us, we preferred chatting to a couple and then once we knew we had rapport, we met socially and then met and played. This worked for us.

Mrs doesn't like the idea of a club but that's more of a personal hang up than for Any reason of bad experiences. She just prefers a more 121 environment.

So, I think it depends on what works for you both and your confidence levels. The only thing we would say is that messaging and chatting can take time and patience whereas at a club, it could lead to things more quickly.

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By *randMrsDare2Be OP   Couple
over a year ago

Near Northallerton

Many thanks all, appreciate your time and consideration.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I would also recommend a club.

That's how my husband and I started.

I would suggest a club that allows you to stay fully dressed and has completely separate social and play areas. It's also worth choosing a night when single guys are not attending and look for nights aimed at those new to the scene.

Gives you the opportunity see what goes on without any pressure.

Socials are also a good place to start.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Another vote for club here

I'm half a couple and getting 4 way attraction /availability can be really hard.

At a club you can see both parties straight away and have a drink/chat to see if there's attraction

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dear Swinging Community,

Would be grateful for your thoughts on a first step (post COVID) in the swinging world? Would you recommend a club, local social or private meet? Massively grateful for your comments based on experience.

Thank you in advance

"

We would recommend a club night probably clubf on a sat which is mainly couples.

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

We attended a social at a club during covid for our first time but after meeting everyone there and going to our first real club night we realized there was nothing to worry about.

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