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Transitioning from drinks in lobby to play room

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By *ewCoupleHX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

So, we as newbies often find this particular bit awkward. This is when you are getting along with someone, having a drink and laugh, what do people typically say or do to take it further.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Do you want to go upstairs/room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shall we take this upstairs?

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

Once the drinks finish casually say we have another bottle upstairs if you fancy another glass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I walk around with who I like, shm we have a walk around, then when we find a room, either I suggest going in or they do X

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By *tartingoutlondonCouple
over a year ago

London

Matt and Bianca on YouTube gave a perfect phrase for this - "we are going to go and play on one of the beds and you are welcome to join us". No pressure, easy out for the other couple if they need time to discuss and leaves it open for them to join you later if they are just new or nervous. Might be a bit weirder if you are single and use that phrase though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

forget the drinks etc they come afterwards - it clothes off and start the business.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We're going for a play if you want to join us?

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By *ewCoupleHX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Matt and Bianca on YouTube gave a perfect phrase for this - "we are going to go and play on one of the beds and you are welcome to join us". No pressure, easy out for the other couple if they need time to discuss and leaves it open for them to join you later if they are just new or nervous. Might be a bit weirder if you are single and use that phrase though "

That's a good idea

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Time to dress down, what do you think?

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By *edditchCouple8077Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

We are almost every time in the same situation because have problems to start conversation.

We just go to play area,and start together.

Most of the cases someone join to us as ask to join.

If not we always have good fun together

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Its trickier for a single gent I think , for me anyway , dont like to be to pushy.

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

i start with a long kiss the guy knows its play time then

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"i start with a long kiss the guy knows its play time then"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Matt and Bianca on YouTube gave a perfect phrase for this - "we are going to go and play on one of the beds and you are welcome to join us". No pressure, easy out for the other couple if they need time to discuss and leaves it open for them to join you later if they are just new or nervous. Might be a bit weirder if you are single and use that phrase though "

The end of that did make me chuckle more than I should ????

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By *uckymonkeyNaughtybearCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Great question…We find that we often chat to lots of couples then it ends up as just a chat… I think we miss many opportunities to just ask outright or missing the obvious cues.

Do most people just go for it and ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some clubs make it more awkward with music being too loud. You find yourself having sexy shouting at each other. Then after 10 mins of small talk you got find a way to shout , SHALL WE FIND A SPARE ROOOM!!

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Great question…We find that we often chat to lots of couples then it ends up as just a chat… I think we miss many opportunities to just ask outright or missing the obvious cues.

Do most people just go for it and ask? "

You've got to judge it and get a feeling that theirs a connection and attraction. No harm in saying "we're going for a play if you want to join us", if they don't no harm done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally ask if the person/couple has any boundaries when it comes to playing then lead on from there. You can get a feel for if you’ll be compatible and they’ll know you have intentions to progress toward them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You usually know within the first five minutes where the meet will lead. I the Mrs is usually a good judge if character. So I think I know when the chemistry is right. It's easier if we're meeting single guy's as there's only really me to please. As guys brains are in their trousers. But if your meeting couple's everyone as to interact. But you more or less know straight away. Keep alcohol to a limit as this can spoil thing's.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Debs: "I need some cock"

Seems to work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single gent and someone who’s not naturally pushy or known to make the first move, I find this really awkward.

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By *ewhorizonsCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We tend to meet single guys in their own homes. After a drink and a bit of a chat, I sometimes say to my wife she’s wearing too many layers. Then I take her dress off and present her in her lingerie/underwear to the lucky guy. It goes pretty quick from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a simple “Shall we go up to the room” or “Would you like to join us in our room” is free from any ambiguity

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

It is as others have said just a matter of saying something on the lines of shall we take this somewhere else. The harder thing is being able to judge the chemistry and having the bravery just to suggest. Because if wait for them to make that move it may never happen. Sadly I think there's many a hot missed opportunity in a club because both sides too shy to ask.

Also another less direct option could is to suggest you all go for a perve around the play rooms. With the hope that this will to you all actually ending up in a room together yourselves (possibly additionally aroused by the other goings on you've just watched together).

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By *ewCoupleHX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

Ok update:

We have taken all feedback on board and now are fairly confident, the bit we are not too sure about is social meets but we are learning to notice those couples for whom social means just that... social.

Whoever said something about chemistry is spot on, those few couples we played with, there was no awkwardness, it just happened.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Just suggest a few games or deep flirting , you will be surprised how things quickly get going when you are all up for it , my wife shocked me , she was so horny she practically dragged the first guy we met into a bedroom , I had to shove my cock in her mouth to keep the noise down , he was very experienced swinger and said wife was that good , it thought I was lying when I told her he was her first me experience

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

When the fellas go outside for a smoke, I normally approach the subject with the wife/gf half.

When the girls are happy, the boys tag along as extras! Lol

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By *ancsCouple2025Couple
over a year ago

Wigan


"Matt and Bianca on YouTube gave a perfect phrase for this - "we are going to go and play on one of the beds and you are welcome to join us". No pressure, easy out for the other couple if they need time to discuss and leaves it open for them to join you later if they are just new or nervous. Might be a bit weirder if you are single and use that phrase though "

Great line *stolen*

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

No fucking idea! However we think we'll work it out next Friday..

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By *andt1995Couple
over a year ago

London

Having a sex change between the lobby and the play room seems a little bit much to me.

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By *ewCoupleHX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Halifax


"No fucking idea! However we think we'll work it out next Friday.."

We have decided to take charge of situation as we are lot braver now. Worked really well with last few planned and unplanned meets, everyone was just glad with our new approach.

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By *ewCoupleHX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Having a sex change between the lobby and the play room seems a little bit much to me. "

Funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before visiting a club, I hadn't realised how much socialising there was before everything else happened inside! Definitely felt like people knew each other or were regulars. Need to take the plunge and chat to others and hope the rest flows from there next time.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I don’t think you are very shy! Lol.

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By *ewCoupleHX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I don’t think you are very shy! Lol. "

Haha not anymore

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"No fucking idea! However we think we'll work it out next Friday..

We have decided to take charge of situation as we are lot braver now. Worked really well with last few planned and unplanned meets, everyone was just glad with our new approach."

We pretty much adopted the same approach.. Well Y did, pretty confident she didn't want her lingerie to go to waste..

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)


"Its trickier for a single gent I think , for me anyway , dont like to be to pushy. "

...no pushing was required xxxxx Suzi

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)


"Before visiting a club, I hadn't realised how much socialising there was before everything else happened inside! Definitely felt like people knew each other or were regulars. Need to take the plunge and chat to others and hope the rest flows from there next time. "

The more times you visit clubs, the more people you get to know, it also helps when you get to know the staff really well too over time. We never plan meets any longer, we just rock up at the club and go with the flow. Never get let down that way xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely shall we take this to a room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wait till all is comfortable and we're near the end of our drinks.

A simple, "Would you like to go upstairs" is perfectly acceptable.

Don't overthink it, it ain't work it

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By *ewCoupleHX OP   Couple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Before visiting a club, I hadn't realised how much socialising there was before everything else happened inside! Definitely felt like people knew each other or were regulars. Need to take the plunge and chat to others and hope the rest flows from there next time. "

Just be mindful of those who are there to just socialize, we saw some chatting till almost closing time and we were like.. guys c'on action time lol

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By *orkcoastguyMan
over a year ago

Bridlington.

Be clear as to what is wanted/ offered before hand, clarify boundaries and get down to the sex immediately.

There is plenty of time afterwards for the conversation.

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By *uffolkClareClactonDaveCouple
over a year ago

Felixstowe/Clacton-on-Sea

"Would you like to go to a playroom?"

In my experience it's either a yes, a no, or a maybe later. Either way, the fact is that if you don't ask you won't find out.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I usually go with staying in the bar and waiting for a nonexistent invite from someone else.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

We're nipping upstairs, it would be lovely if you would like to join us but no problem if not.

Give people the space to choose, never pressure them.

Had someone not take us up on the offer one visit and couldn't wait on next visit.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Its trickier for a single gent I think , for me anyway , dont like to be to pushy. "

It’s much trickier for 2 couples , one person usually has to guess that all 4 feel alright , it’s normally me as after 2-3 hours of small talk I’m getting very bored and no one else does it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nod and a wink surely ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Matt and Bianca on YouTube gave a perfect phrase for this - "we are going to go and play on one of the beds and you are welcome to join us". No pressure, easy out for the other couple if they need time to discuss and leaves it open for them to join you later if they are just new or nervous. Might be a bit weirder if you are single and use that phrase though "

This is the perfect way to ask xxx

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Last night we were talking about some of my bondage kit, the lady said can you show me it in dungeon. Fine at that point we had a brief discussion about what she wanted and cracked on

Each person is different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Close your eyes and make a wish...

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