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By *igbwolf2356 OP   Man
over a year ago

Inverurie

Hi I’m still very new to this and have been trying to get out there and have new experiences but I’m either ignored mocked or straight up rejected I’m never rude with my messages and I always attach a face pic Has anyone got any advice ? Thanks

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Hi I’m still very new to this and have been trying to get out there and have new experiences but I’m either ignored mocked or straight up rejected I’m never rude with my messages and I always attach a face pic Has anyone got any advice ? Thanks "

You are 25, are you really looking to have sex with people over 70 years older than you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles says nothing about you really and pics aren’t great, couldn’t even tell what profile avatar was without clicking on it

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Your profile says nothing obv you have put zero effort in it

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By *igbwolf2356 OP   Man
over a year ago

Inverurie

What should I do to make it better ?

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By *omerset tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

People are naturally weiry of meeting total strangers on the internet which in this day and age is understandbly especially for women. You need to attend a private party or social gathering or a club if you have one near you. The other thing is your age lot of people on here have kids older than you and that puts them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I’m still very new to this and have been trying to get out there and have new experiences but I’m either ignored mocked or straight up rejected I’m never rude with my messages and I always attach a face pic Has anyone got any advice ? Thanks "

A photo of your chin, one of your t-shirt and 2 lines of text… I’m sure in reality you’re an interesting, fun guy etc… but how much of that do you think you put across when people click on your profile after your message is sent?

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Hi I’m still very new to this and have been trying to get out there and have new experiences but I’m either ignored mocked or straight up rejected I’m never rude with my messages and I always attach a face pic Has anyone got any advice ? Thanks "

Mocked is out of line.

Ignored or rejected is not. Comes with the territory.

Look..there's hundreds of threads like this. That's not mockery, it's a fact. The site is something like 70 to 80 percent single guys currently. Breaking down what's left leaves an even smaller percentage willing to meet single guys currently or at all. The odds are not in your favour so you're only going to get out of fab what you put in. There's no guarantees you'll ever get a meet. You're no more special than anyone else in here so it's hard Wark, more so for you. Find away to.stand out and be appealing to those you approach.

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Get yourself put to clubs if you can. Relatively new myself and now have some fab friends I meet up with. Continually making new friends with every event I go to.

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By *igbwolf2356 OP   Man
over a year ago

Inverurie

I’ve changed my bio is it any better I’ve tried to be more open

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I’ve changed my bio is it any better I’ve tried to be more open "

You could do with some punctuation and better photos.

As others have said, your age is against you but this is less of an issue when meeting face to face. Socials and clubs are worth a try.

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By *ueenbee77Woman
over a year ago

Rotherham

You have justified your hairy chest. Why do you feel you have to do that. I have a hairy pussy sometimes but don't feel the need to put it in my profile. Also pic of a t-shirt and said hairy chest. Maybe put a couple more in. Description of you is nice, maybe describe your cock?

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By *ueenbee77Woman
over a year ago

Rotherham

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"You could do with some punctuation and better photos."

Agreed on both counts. Out of interest OP, how enticing do you think a photo of a tee shirt with a hole in it is?


"As others have said, your age is against you but this is less of an issue when meeting face to face. Socials and clubs are worth a try. "

You live in a predominantly rural area, so that will decrease your chances of finding a single female quite a bit. We used to live in Inverness, so we know the rural scene that far north is very sparse. Try chatting in the forums and chatroom, just don't expect instant results, it takes time.

Your best bet is to check out socials or clubs (if there is one) in Aberdeen.

Good luck

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By *igbwolf2356 OP   Man
over a year ago

Inverurie

Thanks everyone for your help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been thinking the same thing since I joined fella, it all takes time, your profile is obviously the most important thing but you've got to be yourself and not change it to be something you're not.

Only the last week or 2 have a started to actually get somewhere on this site so don't feel bad about anything, it all takes time

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Your bio looks decent try adding few pictures smartly dressed crop face if it's your desired choice given you've recently joined just be patient use the forums as it can be a great way to connect with like minded people like yourself.

And good luck pal

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Zero effort op

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By *edhead72Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham and Ashby

Hi John.

Yeah it can be hard work though if you focus on and enjoy the journey the destination becomes the bonus. What I mean is, I enjoy making contact with people who ever they are having a chat and a laugh, occasionally meeting up and having a drink. Then, when the stars are aligned having delicious filthy fun with people who you share a little chemistry with.

I wish you well in what ever journey you go on.

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Have a look at other profiles and see what makes them appealing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it wont matter how good your profile is or how good your pics are as the facts are there are zillions of you ... if i were a man looking to move forward then the only way is a club ..get known get some real veri's under your belt then people may just may start looking at you ...

dont bother with getting a cam veri they will work againts you more than for you ..

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

This isn’t a dig at you OP (it may feel like it but it really isn’t - the advice on pics, text and clubs is perfect)...

It really shocks me how many times we see these kind of threads started! Are people really not able to judge for themselves what might appeal? Surely it is kind of obvious?

A selection of decent (ideally tasteful) pics (not a catalogue of extreme close up cock shots).

A well written profile that gives an indication of your personality.

And the catch 22 is verifications from meeting (though to kick start that go to some club nights).

Think the swipe left/right app has a lot to answer for! Too many people want instant gratification for minimal effort.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

BTW - that isn’t restricted to single guys. Jyst in the last week we have been contacted by two couples with one liner messages asking to if we wanted to meet. No pic attached, checked out profile. One pic (one was blurred almost non descript) other was a close up of a tit!

Our response to both was “sorry we have no way of knowing if we want to meet you guys?”

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